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MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-11-04T20:04:25+00:00

It’s usually the guys who don’t take things too seriously and have a whimsical attitude when interacting with women. The over serious guys who don’t actually have fun when interacting with women—they over analyze, make it a chore, act like a Nice Guy—are the ones who have limited options. The guys who march to the beat of their own drummer, have fun regardless of the opinions others are the ones with the options.

iambabyshark · 2021-11-04T19:22:42+00:00

Why do some guys have abundance? Because they're good with women. When they were younger they likely accidentally discovered some "game" tactics, found they worked, and subconsciously began using them, gaming their whole lives. The difference between you two was the circumstances of your upbringing, mostly luck. If you seek abundance level, pick up some game, and apply it to every situation you find yourself in. Run into a girl at the bar? Game her. Random neighbor? Game her. Every girl is an oppertunity, another number in your phone you can call up. Once you have so many you can set up a date whenever you'd like, you achieve abundance. Now, you should also be gaming men. Men know women, so expanding your social circle will lead to more potential women. And having a good social circle is one of the most attractive things a man can have

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-04T20:58:33+00:00

My best friend is one of these guys. You could turn your back on him for a minute and when you turn to face him again he would be making out with a girl. He always had girls around him. I finally discovered his secret. While the rest of us unsuccessful or mildly successful guys sat around and came up with a millions reasons for what was wrong with us, he never felt this way. He liked exactly who he was and never had a problem with himself. He loved women and they loved him and he knew he just needed to take charge and guide them to an adventure.

Unfortunately, most guys think they have a problem which isn't even real. It's all made up. But they believe it's real which makes it real for them.

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2021-11-04T19:30:41+00:00

You're asking why some are successful in life and why some are not. It's a broad topic, there's no magical one paragraph answer that will answer your post on Reddit. You need to take baby steps, talk to girls, go places to meet girls, hang out with friends go to parties etc etc. You will struggle at each stage. If you post about a specific problem that you are facing at a certain stage then maybe an answer on Reddit can help you or set you up in the right direction

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2021-11-04T19:55:14+00:00

Honestly you're still a kid and still learning. You are FAR from your peak. My biggest suggestion to you is to spend the next 4-5 focusing on school, career and lifestyle. Have those in your arsenal and then you'll be less needy and more attractive and better able to find that abundance you're looking for

MUhholen · 2021-11-04T19:24:14+00:00

Once you have been with enough girls and have learned their female nature at some point you will realize there are 0 reasons to pedestalize them , once u get there its smooth sailing.

rudebwoy100 · 2021-11-04T22:32:11+00:00

We're not all born equal is why. Girls care about looks, personality and socioeconomic status and some guys are born naturally good looking, extroverted and charismatic and born into money so naturally do very well with women.

This just means that you have to work on your deficiencies more than the naturals would have to, similar to that of a woman who's naturally predisposed to be chubby but if she works hard enough can definitely be in great shape.

So just make sure to looks max by hitting the gym, being well groomed and wearing fitted clothes and take care of your hygene; read books to expand your mind and get used to speaking to people and being comfortable socializing; and lastly go learn a trade or enter a S.T.E.M program at a university so that you can have some status and earn a good income.

AelfredRex · 2021-11-04T20:01:43+00:00

There's 4 billion women on this planet. The abundance is right there in front of you.

Adorable_Albatross94 · 2021-11-04T21:35:24+00:00

They start off young have a few girlfriends and word gets around that they not autistic and dateble etc

Dumbengineerr · 2021-11-04T21:20:34+00:00

In the teen years it’s about how you look physically and if you have a bad boy vibe. So hit the gym and act cocky.

Calamity__Bane · 2021-11-04T21:35:06+00:00

Why do some guys have abundance and other not ?

Environment. Some guys are in places where there are many available women they have easy access to, this automatically produces abundance.
Skill. Some guys have the skill to attract and close women while others don't. This produces abundance.
Looks. Some guys are better looking than others and consequently have a wider pool to choose from. This, obviously, creates abundance.

How can I get to this abundance level ?

Work on all three of the above factors.

williamroberthoss · 2021-11-04T23:21:11+00:00

Some are naturals. Some have to work for it.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-11-04T23:29:29+00:00

The difference is some guys drive the couch, and others drive the life.

Iow/ lifestyle habits and routine

No_Acanthisitta5052 · 2021-11-04T23:40:34+00:00

Looks, an attractive personality and sexually satisfying. These would be the main reasons.

Money is not necessary. However, it can buy you good looks nowadays.

treesplease12 · 2021-11-04T23:53:56+00:00

Because woman have evolved to recognize value in men in terms of ability to provision, genetic strength, social hierarchy, and physical prowess (ability to protect)

So what that means to you is; work hard and bank money, focus on your health and physique, take a martial art, and work on your social skills

You can’t do much about your genetics per say, for example if you were the hunchback of Notre Dame. But you could be the hunchback with great arms, boulder-shoulders, a great savings/investment account, with friends that you bump into every time you leave the house (social validation)

Ecstatic-Flounder-48 · 2021-11-05T00:40:46+00:00

Go watch Entrepreneurs in Cars on YouTube. You’ll get your answers.

Just don’t take it really seriously. The overarching themes help you understand the questions you’re asking

recyclablebanthas · 2021-11-05T02:30:38+00:00

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So, I'm 18 years old, I'm still a virgin and I'm really trying to get better with girls.

But why is it that some guys have abundance and other not ? What's the difference between me and them ?

Life experience, basically. Childhood experiences can also play a role, perhaps.

In any case, abundance really means that you have the ability to get options, but you're comfortable walking away from any and all such options.

It's this second part that is often more difficult even for people who've got some of this figured out.

A common problem is for guys to feel insecure unless they are constantly out trying to add more options all the time. Like they're just not comfortable on this they're always on the prowl.

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How can I get to this abundance level ?

If you get really focused on the destination, you can be more likely to overlook the actual journey it takes to get there.

For someone where you are at, it might be a practical use of your time to focus on two things:

1.) Creating a social life for yourself which exposes you to a lot of new people on a regular basis.
2.) Getting comfortable being by yourself, rather than constantly needing to go out on the prowl. Making sure to set aside time for yourself, to take care of you. If you are exposing yourself to a lot of people on a regular basis, alone time can be especially important and actually a bit of a treat to contrast all the time being social.

Because it's not just having the options, it's feeling comfortable enough in yourself to walk away from all of them, knowing that you can have more options later.

Frankjigga · 2021-11-05T16:09:37+00:00

You want quality or quantity? Take your time, get to know people, be seen out while wearing a smile. Do things that encourage laughter, have fun and that doesn’t mean get drunk.

Decent_Ad3564 · 2021-11-04T19:09:13+00:00

You're ugly.... That's all you have to know.

ragetanic · 2021-11-04T20:20:49+00:00

Some people peak young, some peak later in life, some continue to peak, and some never peak at all

earsurgery9 · 2021-11-04T20:19:29+00:00

All kinds of reasons. Good looks, status etc

MegaManXanax · 2021-11-04T23:38:24+00:00

Most realistic way to get abundance is to lower your standards and not be picky lol

huntersnipern · 2021-11-05T00:48:57+00:00

Just fucking talk to women

Vegetable-Mobile-430 · 2021-11-05T01:07:03+00:00

TALK TO A LOT OF WOMEN

vamsig66 · 2021-11-05T02:16:08+00:00

Are you in college? College is a great place to meet women and work on your game. But in my opinion to get the abundance mindset you need to prove to yourself that you can attract women on a consistent basis. Once you start talking to a lot of girls and prove to yourself you can attract and get with at least some girls here and there on a consistent basis your abundance mindset will shoot up and you’ll be able to attract even more girls because of it. It’s a lot like a snowball effect if that makes sense.

2021-11-05T02:17:51+00:00

I met a guy who got 6 women pregnant. All have kids by the same guy

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