My first approach and why I'm an idiot [recovered]

_Rynzler_ · 2021-06-02T23:00:34+00:00

Hey u did good. Not too creepy, not too awkward just the right amount of normal behaviour. Doesn’t matter if u didn’t get her number.

bitcoinsupmyass · 2021-06-03T00:35:33+00:00

now you have to donate blood everyday for the rest of the month. so you find her again

treesplease12 · 2021-06-02T23:24:10+00:00

Huge victory man. Don’t even sweat it, no regrets. You made serious progress right there. Now opening will be easier for you, and you work on perfecting your next steps

seductionist123 · 2021-06-02T23:11:44+00:00

"Hey I gotta run but I'd love to get a drink with you and we can further discuss our fear of big needles, when are you free?"

If she likes you she will say yes, if she doesn't there is nothing you could have done. Move on

alaxoskl4 · 2021-06-03T01:35:41+00:00

Remember that the goal is never to get her number. The goal is to have fun and develope social skills. Number is just a ticket for more fun

WJR1597 · 2021-06-03T00:29:00+00:00

Exactly where I’m at right now. I have the guts to start a conversation but don’t know how to take the next step, congrats on the first step

winterberrytsunami · 2021-06-03T00:08:34+00:00

Amazing job.

22Process22 · 2021-06-03T01:32:01+00:00

Great job. Keep going the initial thing to overcome is normalizing approaching. Try to do 5 a day.

Approaching can be something simple. Don’t overthink it. It’s all about the process

XanthicStatue · 2021-06-03T02:22:03+00:00

Good job man! Something I would’ve done when the nurse asked if you’re a couple,

ME: (abruptly) YES! We’re actually planning to get engaged this fall!

Said with a huge smile, of course. The girl would’ve blushed like a tomato and then there’s your conversation afterwards.

Boethiah18 · 2021-06-03T00:09:34+00:00

Nah bro did well

Kenan_benan · 2021-06-03T00:09:49+00:00

Nahh bro you did good, you shouldn't have kept talking should of just asked for her # and left. But you can't change what happened so don't trip about it. You did really good

dasanman69 · 2021-06-02T22:59:27+00:00

You should have asked if there was a way for you to contact her

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2021-06-03T00:53:41+00:00

"That was a fun conversation. You want to continue it over (drinks, lunch, picnic)?" Always have a reason to talk to women, whether it's for fun, social improvement or setting up a future date. When you know the end goal you can tailor your interaction towards that.

realhero83 · 2021-06-03T00:54:57+00:00

You could have said, 'hey I've got to go now, do you want to see my penis'?.... It's the equivalent of online dating 🤣.

Joking man you did well. Keep building the confidence.

heroyi · 2021-06-03T02:22:59+00:00

Damn, literally everything got setup for you PERFECTLY to ask/continue.

But it is all good. Just ribbing you. Awesome job working up the courage though. Now go out there and do it again! Eventually you will notice those opportunities rise up quite a lot and even figure out a way to make it happen more without being a cringey dickwad that corners people into a social trap lmao

Ohdannyboy666 · 2021-06-03T08:23:37+00:00

Practice practice SCORE

Jerodakabloodcraft · 2021-06-03T08:52:07+00:00

What was wrong with her blood though?

Btelepo · 2021-06-04T18:02:17+00:00

Celebrate your courage

Remove the negative language regarding why you're an idiot (NOW)

With Love and success

shaggy2gay · 2021-06-03T00:32:00+00:00

Not a small victory. Big victory. Your penis has grown to twice its normal size. Congratulations anon.

Speedsloth123 · 2021-06-03T04:03:24+00:00

You did great! Here’s two things to do next time:

“Are you a couple?” “No, not yet ;).”

As she’s leaving: “hey, wanna give me your number?”

StealthyRobot · 2021-06-03T01:24:15+00:00

Did you check if she left a clothing item behind? If so, throw a widely advertised party and then use her lost item as a means to reconnect

rachit-19 · 2021-06-03T07:01:27+00:00

This is literally a plot from the Office US Michael Scott goes for blood donation

_Sad-Bitch_ · 2021-06-03T00:58:26+00:00

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Starved-Nutritionist · 2021-06-03T00:44:31+00:00

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Swimming_Fortune · 2021-06-03T00:52:25+00:00

You're not an idiot, you did great! Next time just say, 'it was nice meeting you maybe we could hangout sometime, do you have a number or snapchat or something I can get'

OneTaoThree · 2021-06-03T02:11:08+00:00

If you see her again you’ll have context to talk again.

btnorrish · 2021-06-03T02:38:30+00:00

It's good not to look at this as a missed opportunity and more as personal growth. Something I need to remind myself of is that not every interaction needs to go anywhere, and it can be as simple as saying hi to someone, which will build confidence for any future interactions.

gabriel497 · 2021-06-03T02:56:38+00:00

Dude that was good!

2021-06-03T03:08:37+00:00

Hey, I understand the nerves. If she wants to leave, don't force her to continue to conversation. The best move would have been to ask for her number.

RAZORthreetwo · 2021-06-03T03:45:34+00:00

Noted

mockingjay2000 · 2021-06-03T04:11:46+00:00

This was so wholesome! Very happy for you.

Thest0rm_99 · 2021-06-03T05:31:39+00:00

Would have been a great opportunity to take her number. She even came up to you to say goodbye.

Oh well, now you learned a lesson you wont soon forget.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-06-03T05:31:46+00:00

Thus is how You learn and grow. Don't trip.

KindredJars · 2021-06-03T06:03:49+00:00

After that, the girl was ready to leave and came and said goodbye to me

Bro........ go for the number next time.

TheRealSkippah · 2021-06-03T06:26:37+00:00

Small steps brother. Next time politely ask if she would like to meet again sometime, if yes then ask for contact deets.

Filth-Montane · 2021-06-03T12:03:11+00:00

This is great! It sounds like a wonderful experience.

misteryx96 · 2021-06-03T12:35:33+00:00

U were spontaneous which is good. Next time just have in mind to ask for a contact or smting. Smting in the lines of: hey, do you have an ig so we can continue our conversation. You do not have to worry, since she was responsive it Is a sign she will most probably give u her contact

_famo · 2021-06-03T12:57:47+00:00

The illusion you see when you feed with little blood remaining to the cavernosum xd

wondorous · 2021-06-03T13:44:21+00:00

It always helps me talk to girls when I have a "reason" to do so. Saying hi because she's pretty? Unacceptable. But saying hi because we both just got blood drawn and I can ask her about it? Totally legit. It's frustrating.

You still did good in talking to her. Just think about what you would have liked to say to her when she said goodbye for next time. The fact that she came back and said goodbye to you indicates how she thinks. It shows that she felt that you both were having a conversation and she wanted to properly end it. Maybe you could have asked her if she was doing anything and wanted to get a coffee since you are free for the next hour, or something like that.

I chatted briefly with a girl in a cafe, and then she went up to order and came back to resume the conversation with me and I thought that was pretty cool. It just shows that you have her attention for the moment, I've seen too many girls just kinda chat and act like they never talked to you when you see them later. So good going, just keep it in perspective as it's a good step in the right direction!

dryo · 2021-06-03T14:03:00+00:00

Dude, one step at a time, keep doing that.

fmeloo_ · 2021-06-03T14:11:06+00:00

When the nurse asked about you guys as a couple you should say "Not yet"

oakpen · 2021-06-03T14:39:44+00:00

don't make yourself less by calling yourself an idiot

PossibleEntertainer2 · 2021-06-03T19:04:55+00:00

Next line could have been: I really enjoyed talking to you. Could we go for coffee? If the answer is that she can't: "would you like to another day?"If she says"no" congratulate yourself for trying: that's all you can do.

Khantoro · 2021-06-03T20:23:54+00:00

You followed very important rules - wanted to to talk or do something? You did without hesitation. Another thing that helps me till this day - never have expectations just have fun talking and practise your skills.

Available-Outside-19 · 2021-06-03T21:54:19+00:00

This was all great, but...just say “are you single?!” If she does not provide her number, just play it cool and then end on a positive “enjoy the rest of your day”. Too many missed opportunities because I was shy. :( That is why the expression “youth is wasted on the young” exists! When you are older you may have confidence in spades, but the opportunities and invitations may diminish. ;) Learn from this, move on, and better luck to you in the future!

Title	My first approach and why I'm an idiot [recovered]
Author	bean_addict [recovered]
Upvotes	767
Comments	88
Date	June 2, 2021 10:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/nqyqdh/my_first_approach_and_why_im_an_idiot/
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