Got 10 numbers in a day and none messaged back?

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-05-29T00:41:26+00:00

Just because women give you a number doesn't mean they are comitting to anything with you, it doesn't even mean they will still be interested after giving it to you. That's just a way to end the conversation without drama. They give it and then ignore you or block you, assuming they even give you a real number.

You said that you had conversations that were good, and that might be true, from a man's perspective.

From a woman's perspective the definition of good conversation can be drastically different.

Many conversations can just be polite and you interpret them as being "good", but for women polite does not equal to "im now attracted to you" or "i felt a spark with you".

What you need to do now is:

First, analyse your conversations with more self-criticism. Instead of just saying it's good, find reasons as to why they might not be as good as you thought. Mayebe you can share the conversations here with transcripts to get outside help with that. Usually, mistakes like lack of qualification, and like of emotional intensity are the reasons as to why girls might not be interested even if they give you their number, but we need to read the converations to be precise.

And then, keep approaching new girls, keep refining your technique, and instead of going for numbers, try to go fotr instant dates.

As for those women who ignore you, double texting is not recommended. Calling them out on the fact that they did not reply to the first message or showing that you were expecting a response would make you look needy or like you are chasing which are turns off for women.

Calling them is also not recommended because they won't even remember who you are or the vibe will have shifted dramatically, not to mention that most young women today don't like to be called randomly, let alone by strangers.

A text next week coould be your only choice but it has to be someting that sparks curiosity, challenge, tension, laughter or some other intense emotion that draws her in.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-05-29T00:37:38+00:00

Take a different approach. Try having arguments and chaotic and risky conversations, even verging on toxic. Those interactions are much more genuine.

This sounds bat shit crazy, but keep in mind; women are drawn to bad men.

100% of my random approaches that involved good conversation and no issues resulting in the girl going silent.

100% of my random approach success I did have wasn't from overt "cold approach", it was either the girl did something to piss me off and I responded or the reverse. I still don't understand how that leads to the bedroom but it does.

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2025-05-29T00:21:32+00:00

Quit asking for phone numbers.

Ask for a date.

topher_atx · 2025-05-29T00:59:42+00:00

10 sounds kinda high. But in general I think there's a lot of dropoff when it comes to asking women out. I have a terrible habit of getting my hopes up.

I would say TRY not to get your hopes up too much. One thing that helps me is I shoot my shot and ask them out 1 time. And if they don't say yes fairly promptly, I move on.

Sometimes women will circle back, so maybe my strategy isn't the best, but it helps me emotionally. I don't want to be waiting around hoping some woman starts paying attention to me.

Quantity is important, but you probably don't need to try and get every woman's number. Maybe only try and close the most promising leads.

KumaFGC · 2025-05-29T04:06:31+00:00

Good shit on getting those numbers. I would say this is common woman behavior and don’t worry too much on it. If you really want to meet some of them I would probably try again a couple days later.

EntertainmentTime141 · 2025-05-29T12:00:53+00:00

10 numbers? Are you kidding me? This is amazing! Don’t get your head down. Just reflect and also realize that only you are in control of what you say. You have no power over them texting back. Good job man!

CTEcowboi · 2025-05-29T15:27:42+00:00

I’m no expert but something that helps me after I get a girls number and send that first text is to delete the whole conversation out of my texts

Sounds strange but it not being there to stare at makes me feel a lot less anxious about it and if she doesn’t end up responding it makes me get over that shitty feeling a lot quicker because I don’t have the constant reminder

LoudCalligrapher0 · 2025-05-29T09:04:09+00:00

Personally, when I get a number without having a long, extended conversation prior , I don’t really have high expectations. Most women won’t get back to you

Factsonreddit · 2025-05-29T03:20:12+00:00

Are you sure the conversations were good? How did they end? What did you text?

ympostor · 2025-05-29T06:53:15+00:00

Where's this? location?

LeoTrollstoy · 2025-05-29T07:11:03+00:00

Solid numbers, my man

barlowaplesand · 2025-05-29T07:28:11+00:00

I hear this sort of thing a lot. I do wonder how effective day game and stuff is since tinder came along, to be quite honest.

Even on tinder you can be 'hot' enough that she'll swpe right, but then she'll either ignore the message, or even if you send a really good one she'll seem to like it and then unmatch soon after! haha

i's like nowdays, a lot of girls will give their insta as a contact detail. And that's the goal of lots of pickup guys. Get her insta. But I always think, you already have the insta's of thousands of hot girls near you. just search insta! Load of hot girls near you have their profile public and you can DM them!! So I wonder why gloat about 'getting her insta'. It's like 'oh, i've got it too. Satumbled across her profile the other day'

Pedro_Moona · 2025-05-29T07:51:27+00:00

I'd rather one number from a girl I talked with for an hour at the bar than ten I only talked with for a few minutes.

Just having a number might have met something before women had endless online options, now you need to make a connection and stand out.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-05-29T08:33:59+00:00

There is nothing you can do, women know giving their number (real or fake) is the fastest way to get rid of a pest, so they have every incentive to play your game and ghost you afterward. While cold approach should be attempted in proper venues with the proper cues, its a very high investment-low reward method.

Feisty-Nerve-2800 · 2025-05-29T10:42:56+00:00

Because getting a number doesn't mean shit.

lmaoleorii · 2025-05-29T10:51:17+00:00

While it is a numbers game, you’ve obviously maxxed in that area - make it genuine now, which can be the hard part but you obviously are easy to chat with hence the ability to get close and even get a number. Form a roster, even if it’s just friends. You learn a lot that way

ComprehensiveTask10 · 2025-06-08T06:17:32+00:00

Must have been some riveting conversation. Let’s check the stats: 0/10 😂😂😂

ComprehensiveTask10 · 2025-06-08T06:19:17+00:00

Another day, another dork wandering the streets begging for pussy.

Substantial-Bad-4508 · 2025-05-29T01:13:22+00:00

My condolence. I hope that your skills will level up. Keep up the good work!

protofutura · 2025-05-29T04:16:55+00:00

You're playing too safe. Too polite. Polite conversation doesn't mean shit. Reality is she just views you as some random guy who she may have had a friendly conversation with at best. Doesn't mean she felt any attraction towards you.

Another poster brought up being an asshole instead and while I wouldn't necessarily say to intentionally do that, there's something to be said about the truth behind it. You need to have some edge to you.

thisisan0nym0us · 2025-05-29T01:14:01+00:00

I always wait 3 days that’s just me

Embarrassed-Race-848 · 2025-05-29T02:51:11+00:00

They gave you fake numbers buddy.

Title	Got 10 numbers in a day and none messaged back?
Author	416dro
Upvotes	36
Comments	45
Date	May 29, 2025 12:19 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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