EDIT: I am just being honest. I could say that I want connection or to settle down or to find my person, but that’s simply not true. And I don’t think it’s wrong to admit I just want sex instead of disguising it, especially if it’s consensual and we both have a good time.

I’ve had oneitis most of my life (which makes things more exciting but also devastating), but I’m finally trying to practice game.

Only thing is that I don’t have a roster. I’m in my 20s, and the only girls I know are either co-workers or friends from high school.

I don’t feel comfortable going to bars by myself (because the only reason I’d be there is to pick up), and I am not a fan of dating apps. I’ve tried them in the past, but I am embarrassed that people I know can see me on there.

I also don’t like cold approaching, because I don’t typically talk to strangers in general. I’m not sure how to act like it’s a meet-cute when the only reason I’d talk to them is to try to seduce them.

I don’t have guy friends/a friend group—and am ok with this—but since I only really see other people at work, what is the best way to build a roster? I’m not looking for anything serious, just girls I can go out with and have a good time and hit up when I’m bored.