First post in Reddit!
I'm going to share with you the method I used to overcome my approach anxiety.
First: I'm 22, obese (but tall), never had a gf (or nc/kc/fc), read a lot about seduction but never did anything
I read Models and this book helped me to start to take action in my life.
The method I used is simply giving an amount of money to a friend I trust and I had to approach at least one girl per day with a proof (typically a selfie with the girl I approached), in exchange he would give me 1/30th of what I gave him so basically it was a 30 days challenge (when I don't have a proof I approached, I lost the daily money)
My first opener was actually telling the girls I approached the rules of the challenge. Obviously, not a good idea, it freaked out some of the girls but that's how I got my first selfies, then my friend forbade me to use this opener as it was too easy.
I was really anxious the first days before every single approach I did but then I realized no girl insulted me or hurt me (or worse, ignored me). Then I started to use some of the methods I learned about (kino escalation, cold reading etc..) completely instinctively and it started to work better and better until I started to actually close numbers and even get a date.
For the openers, I realized anything would work if you're confident enough, most of the time, the girl will forget what did you say to open her.
Today, I'm done with the challenge (I didn't lose a single dime so I have a collection of selfies with unknown girls that could get me in jail) but I feel like I learned more in 30 days of daily approach than in 6+ years of theory about seduction.
The girl I'm dating now told me she thinks I'm a big player because I had an IOI and instantly approached her while she was with a group of friends (she doesn't even now I'm still virgin).
tl;dr: 22 yo obese guy, never had gf, never nc/kc/fc, starting to get dates after a 30 days challenge of daily approach
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