Is tinder a scam?

KongDonkey_92 · 2021-09-27T00:56:59+00:00

Approach instead. The hottest girls are in real life.

Overseas, Tinder is a goldmine!

SRichmon51385 · 2021-09-26T22:59:19+00:00

I've found there are three kinds of women on tinder:

-bots

-girls looking for social media followers

-girls who just want to get likes to feel good about themselves

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-09-27T00:24:27+00:00

If tinder isn't working for you, then rather than go to the internet to vent your frustrations, focus that energy on other forms of pickup. Daygame and nightgame are better forms of pickup in general, even for those who do find success from dating apps.

EDIT: oh and never take advice from /TheSunshineMan. Dude is either a fucked up troll or completely jaded.

RichardSamsonJordan · 2021-09-26T22:44:53+00:00

Tinder sucks. I've used it off an on. Made some matches but never anything else. All it is good for hurting your self confidence and self esteem.

Horny_Blue_Eyes_Guy · 2021-09-26T23:20:13+00:00

Tinder is good for Henry Cavil, Ryan Reynolds, Scarlett Johanson looking people. Average women can get likes but in all honesty unless you're in the top 10% for men its a struggle. You also have to have that dedicated friend to take pictures for you and most men don't have that. No tinder isn't a scam but it requires skills, expenses, and an approach that most men don't have. Try Coffee meets Bagels or Hinge. I actually let my Ex-Fiancee on Tinder and my recent Ex on Bumble. Its definitely a challange I'm on a dry spell myself but that gives me opportunities to work on me. Keep trying and keep going. A fuck ton of advice is terrible and some people are super toxic, keep going man.

2021-09-26T23:51:35+00:00

It depends on who you are and your goals

Answer:

It’s a SCAM if you’re a woman looking for a relationship or if you’re an AVERAGE looking guy looking for hookups/ relationships.

So, It’s BEST for HOT (8’s, 9’s, 10’s) men who want hookups and WOMEN who only want rebounds, validation, ig followers, and hookups

*these are just generalizations that are true for about 80% of people that use tinder and aren’t true for everyone.

willgo-waggins · 2021-09-27T00:31:29+00:00

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No-Bodybuilder2767 · 2021-09-26T23:54:23+00:00

i suggest you try and get a girl naturally. other than using a dating app

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-09-27T03:15:01+00:00

The reality is guys who can’t get girls on tinder just have shorty profiles because they don’t really know what makes a picture good and attractive for the opposite gender. I’m pretty sure your pictures are mostly bad or average at best, and you need great photos, not average.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2021-09-27T04:54:40+00:00

100% of the women are going for the top 20% of men and that's independent of Tinder. 100% of the men are going for the top 80% of women.

So the top 20% of men get all the action, while the bottom 80% barely get any action and if they do they have to settle for a girl, that's not really their type but it's the only thing they got.

So start chasing excellence. Start making bank. Build muscle. Increase your socio economic status. Do fun things. And then you might find yourself having to turn down women.

willgo-waggins · 2021-09-27T00:32:35+00:00

I’ve seen a few posts on tinder where they’ve described how the algorithm works.

It’s basically this:

It’s designed to keep women happy. Like a bar that has ladies night. No one turns up if they women aren’t there.

When you as a man sign up, the app will feed you the top female profiles to get you swiping. Then when no one swipes on you, you fall to the bottom of the barrel and barely feature.... unless you pay.

Even when you do pay, you’re going to end up along with thousands of others.

If you’re profile game is not 9/10, you’re wasting your time.

Apparently mass swiping also has negative effects.

Effective_Youth777 · 2021-09-27T01:05:32+00:00

I prefer meeting women at the bar or in public, you know.. Like a creep

/s

wevie13 · 2021-09-27T01:23:38+00:00

Works well for me without ever paying for the premium stuff

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-09-27T03:26:01+00:00

I remember a researcher on Jordan Peterson's podcast saying that some dating apps use female bots to lure you in. In that dense tinder is sort of a scam, it also just follows insane rules though because women are also choosers rather than outside where women are less actively involved.

Lord_Augastus · 2021-09-27T04:05:41+00:00

Yes, tinder has a premium. It will actively encourage you to get it, to the point of cycling bot, dead and fake accounts so you keep using the app. It will put your account on the back of the line so that the premium and new users get a shot at the front of the scroll, and ebove all just because you have bio and pictures doesnt mean you will instantly get matches. Tinder is now known for its sex only vibe, so in reality what will end up happening is good women/girls wont be on it for anything serious, so the time you spend swiping is nullified even further. Delete the dating apps they dont work.

Skelvir · 2021-09-27T06:53:17+00:00

Your post history clearly states that you may have some personal issues. I assume your neediness and self doubts are deterring girls. For your own sanity, please reach out for professional help, work on yourself first. Start focussing on things you really like in your freetime and once you life a healthy and happy life with some hobbies that fulfil you, girls will come automatically.

5_7pickup · 2021-09-27T01:38:30+00:00

Thats why I stopped with OLD. It sucks. Do in person approaches instead. Refer to my field reports for my experience with cold approach.

EspressoByte · 2021-09-27T01:31:55+00:00

You need to follow rule 1 & 2 my friend

NCreature · 2021-09-27T01:46:30+00:00

If you're not a classically handsome guy Tinder may not work for you and you have no way to overcome (i.e. good game). Also on those aps you really need to be paying not using the free service. Obviously Tinder and Bumble will show higher quality matches (or show you to more people) if you're a paying customer.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-09-27T01:50:53+00:00

At one point in time it had hook up potential.

But then something happened. The Girls Union had a meeting or something and agreed it shouldn't be that simple or easy.

Back to mind games and shit

Now Tinder is a joke

keyson5 · 2021-09-27T02:51:28+00:00

Tinder rocks for me. I’m average looking. I just follow the internet recommendations and set the right things on the profile

lana_del_reymysterio · 2021-09-27T02:59:42+00:00

Tinder isn't a scam IMO, you just have to figure out how to hack it.

I've done quite well on it the last few years, happy to help if you'd like.

I'm M24 btw

bxdger14 · 2021-09-27T05:40:12+00:00

I met the love of my life on tinder. That being said, tinder sucks 99% of the time

Shaqueltons_Ghost · 2021-09-27T05:41:28+00:00

Hey man, sorry you haven’t had the best of luck. I can speak from personal experience that tinder (along with hinge and bumble) aren’t scams. There are many reasons why you may not be getting likes. You may be in a smaller city - it’s tougher to get matches when there’s less people. You may not be spending enough time on the app - sometimes you have to flip through hundreds of people to find that perfect match. You may even be going about this whole thing wrong, but I don’t know your profile so I have no idea to know for sure.

Point being is that you’re jaded, but if you’re not getting any likes or matches, it may be time to get off or move to another app. I typically jump between three, routinely deleting them. I’ve met girls on all three, and I’ve also been burnt out by all three. There is a logic to the whole thing. Point being is that they aren’t a scam - you can find people and have successful relationships on them. You’re not gonna hear about it here though, because people being successful on them aren’t posting on r/seduction.

Not sure how helpful this can be, but if you want any advice or want to talk about stuff feel free to DM me. I’d be happy to help - I’m an average-looking guy with what I’d consider a successful profile, so I’d be happy to pass along tips I’ve picked up over time.

NLshorty · 2021-09-27T05:41:38+00:00

I used tinder a lot after my divorce. So many guys had bad profiles. Pictures with other women on it, with a car, no shirt or with kids. And also some with passive aggressive comments. No woman is going to hit that. I went on all the dating apps with succes. But for women it is so much easier to get likes it’s ridiculous. I had 10,000 + likes in two weeks. Women are a lot more selective when they like someone so men have to make more of an effort. It’s totally not fair but there it is.

muff_marauder · 2021-09-27T07:07:32+00:00

Put up photos of male models and watch how many women respond to those.

Online dating gives all the power to women: unplug from the matrix and return to real life.

vermaelen · 2021-09-27T11:19:05+00:00

Let's just be honest, you are probably a 5 or 6/10 man. Girls have plenty of choice on dating apps and will only respond to a small percentage of men unless of course that girl is average looking herself.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-09-27T11:19:30+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it concerns an app. This subreddit is focused on social skills that you can use in real life. Not how to utilize marketing skills to create a social media campaign on an app.

No matter how many times I edit my bio, add photos or change things around, I still can't get any likes or matches.

You'll note that being able to create a cool bio does not involve the skills you need to actually navigate social interactions to get to sex or a relationship.

bandsupjay · 2021-09-26T22:48:11+00:00

Maybe its you and not tinder dawg

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-26T22:45:24+00:00

Tinder is amazing.

You're failing because you're not setting up your profile correctly.

Don't want to meet Tinder?

Go walk out your front door, look left, look right..

See a girl you like.. walk up and say "Hi"..

You know, have a human to human conversation that humans have been having for millions of years.

4,000,000,000 girls in the world.. (billion)

No excuses

The_James_Bond · 2021-09-27T02:10:19+00:00

Is tinder a scam?

Tinder is literally a scam.

You answered that yourself bucko

CmdrTombes · 2021-09-27T03:16:24+00:00

Reddit convinced me that the secret to Tinder was to subscribe and it really opened up your options. DO NOT DO THIS! I definitely got more selection but the quality of women as abysmal. I regret paying for it but it is what it is. If I can get a couple dates outta it that's fine.

kidrockpasta · 2021-09-27T05:35:20+00:00

My fave part of tinder is I get like 1-2matches/week, yet there's 99+ girls who have already liked me!! Just pay $20/month for 6 months to see them!

2021-09-27T03:56:44+00:00

"Is Tinder a scam?" Of course it is so is Reddit...everyone here is anonymous so everyone faking who they really are and most are just writing mostly fabrications they pull out their asses. Don't believe ANYTHING on the internet unless its sources are verifiable and are held to the highest standards of accuracy and academia.

malaymalay0082 · 2021-09-27T05:36:34+00:00

It’s not as easy for women either . Lots of scammer . No matter how careful you are there’s always one that will slipped thru the crack . The first thing the will say is - wow ! I’ve been waiting for you ! I want to make you my wife right away . If you are a lonely woman , that sentences alone will make your heart flutter but this is not my first rodeo. They will ask what you do for work . Their profile pictures looks so convincing ( pictures of them holding a dog , pictures of them with their kids and so on. He will then tell you what he do for a living - it’s almost like there’s a script for this - I’m pretty sure . This particular man said he is a doctor and working in Syria but a dual citizenship - US and Canadian . His wife died in a car accident in the town of California . I was too lazy to said that California is a state not a city . So he is a widow with 2 daughters. At this time I’m too lazy to engage in a further conversations. I just blocked his profile . If a lonely / desperate women continue to have more conversations this is where you can get scammed . In a nut shell , men and women can easily get scammed .

2021-09-27T19:35:50+00:00

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EladioV · 2021-09-27T03:36:10+00:00

All comments here just answered everything I was thinking about Tinder. Thank you, guys ❤️

vxpx73 · 2021-09-27T03:42:08+00:00

don’t give up :) it was hard for me at first too but i found my soulmate and the love of my life on tinder and i thank my lucky stars everyday that our paths crossed! you just never know.. :)

Edibl3Dreams · 2021-09-27T04:18:10+00:00

I have had one in-person date from Tinder, literally worst date ever, but it was real. May have another next weekend even from a current convo. Woooo

ANewOriginalUsername · 2021-09-27T05:14:31+00:00

I think it's a glitch tinder has, I created a profile and would do relatively well (never got past 50 likes) but then I ended up changing my number and started a new profile and got 0 likes even though my profile was identical (and yes I have restarted my profile a number of times on my original number without any problems like this)

Nofapdeity · 2021-09-27T05:34:30+00:00

light5577 · 2021-09-27T06:35:16+00:00

Bro , use the plus to go to another country. Like asian country just to test it out .. tell me what happen , cuz in usa i dont get a lot of matches , in SEA, i get a lot .

Shadow__Account · 2021-09-27T08:57:45+00:00

So you are telling us it’s a scam and in the next sentence asking how to get better results. Make up your mind

LastForkOnTheLeft · 2021-09-27T10:02:36+00:00

Gonna passport myself to Malaysia brb

2021-09-27T10:41:16+00:00

It's a huge scam bro, especially for dudes

Big_Tony2 · 2021-09-27T14:13:53+00:00

Tinder used to make me sad because I couldn't get matches so I just don't use it anymore. Feel good now

StreetBand · 2021-09-29T02:14:18+00:00

How about us guys just stop chasing women overall and see then what happens? Why is it that guys need females but females r happy without?

Title	Is tinder a scam?
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Upvotes	114
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Date	September 26, 2021 10:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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