Rob Judge is Here in this thread to ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS! Q&A TIME!

pickupdude · 2011-06-15T04:43:18+00:00

Hey Rob, thanks for doing this Q&A. I'm from another big city but am possibly moving to NYC later this year. Here are my questions.

1) How do you deal with different subcultures? (i.e. hipsters, ravers, new age yoga hippies, hoodrats, etc..) From what I can tell the hipster scene is pretty large in NYC. In Toronto, hipsters, ravers, and the like are pretty pretentious and exclusive and don't take kindly to 'outsiders'.

2) How important do you think having social circles is to game, and why?

3) And just out of curiosity, how many women have you been with? Ever 'taken one for the team'? Ever hooked up with a 10 you were positive would reject you?

RobJudge · 2011-06-15T08:27:15+00:00

Now this is pretty funny, how do you explain this?

http://www.datehottergirls.com/success-stories/ See these pictures here?

http://www.tineye.com/search/2bbd6fddcd03af2d636e1689bcd08d42975fc8a1/

http://www.tineye.com/search/bde0955301c49985d252752544cfdd8e9f1078be/

:D

RobJudge · 2011-06-15T04:48:45+00:00

Alright, it's almost 1am here in NYC so I gotta wrap this up. But if I didn't get to your question, you can shoot me an email at [email protected] or just hit me up on Facebook or Twitter! Thanks again Seddit, it was a lot of fun!!

RcskaSedd · 2011-06-15T02:19:43+00:00

I remember watching a Video of you from the 21 Convention http://www.the21convention.com/2011/04/17/rob-judge-t21c-2010/ and i thought you spoke some solid truth.

Also i thought it was funny and true when you said when men go to clubs in group, they go all middle evil and just bust in all pumped up and testosterone out. I just shake my head in disappointment.

IUpvoteShawnGup · 2011-06-15T02:18:22+00:00

Did you really fuck Zack Bauer?

PDXphoenix · 2011-06-15T02:27:38+00:00

Thanks for having a Q&A Rob! I have been working hard on the natural approach. Aside from Improv classes and general self development, are there any other good ways to develop witty and fun banter?

daftdude05 · 2011-06-15T02:28:39+00:00

What are your favorite books on the subject?

Ive read The Game, The Way Of The Superior Man, and The Art of Seduction. All were good. Thanks!

twoww · 2011-06-15T02:50:31+00:00

This is probably something you don't have to do now but, Are there anythings you'd say to yourself before you went out? Somethings that would get you in the right mindset.

chumpta · 2011-06-15T02:51:32+00:00

What's your opinion on seddit itself - as far as "communities" go? I've lurked "the attraction forums" and found it to be lackluster, but I've not been anywhere else.

Oize · 2011-06-15T02:59:35+00:00

What do you think about going out alone? i.e. clubs, music venues, social events in general.

throwAwayObama · 2011-06-15T03:36:39+00:00

Well girls are finally starting to become attracted to me. It seems to last for a day or two. At first I thought I wasn't escalating fast enough. I did that, and they still seem to lose attraction.

I know you can't really give any specific advice because you have no idea what i'm doing. But if you had clients in the past who went through something similar, I would love to hear your experiences.

2nd question. I feel like for social circle game, inner game is most important to work on. What do you think about that notion. Great IAMA btw. Props.

throwAwayObama · 2011-06-15T03:49:11+00:00

I'm a recent college grad in a new city. Any tips on forming and getting into new social circles.

ehbeeseedee · 2011-06-15T04:09:55+00:00

Sup Rob, noticed you responded to ... pretty much everyone here(including that "gay cock block" dude) so you have my vote if you run for president.

Anyways, where did you first land your break in PUA? Could you give an accurate description of your situation? I personally am getting into a career with public speaking, and, well, you know... haha.

zelink · 2011-06-15T04:23:53+00:00

One more thing rob, how do i make myself get over my looks? im average looking and i know it's been said numerous times even if your 4 elements of game book that looks don't matter as much if you act confident but i just can't grasp that concept

E.g last saturday at a club i approached a girl and said xxxxx i just had to meet you and she just gave me this wtf stare. i immediately think its because of my looks and not because of what i said. How do i get over this?

Jkearns · 2011-06-15T04:30:17+00:00

Hey rob follow up, would it be alright to go out by yourself for daygame, especially since most of it is just everyday things?

frogma · 2011-06-15T04:31:04+00:00

Hey Rob, it sounds like you're a fan of Mark Manson. I'd assume you appreciate David Wygant too? Any other guys you admire in the pickup community?

How about guys like Minotaur and BonoboTimes? (I forget what forum they're from, but if you know em, you know em) Personally I feel like their style is an ideal to shoot for, in terms of being more openly sexual and "aggressive"- the type of shit I can do on a really good night, but not consistently. If you don't know those guys, don't worry about it.

SpiderFan · 2011-06-15T04:36:57+00:00

How can you tell the difference if a girl in your social circle likes or if it's just that she's getting more comfortable around you?

zelink · 2011-06-15T04:51:02+00:00

Forgot the most important question for me lol.

Rob what if you have a social circle of friends that has women in it. How do you escalate with one of them? What are some steps i can take? I can't really say i just had to meet you, and i can't really compliment them straight off. What are some options? Do i get some light kino happening?

Any thoughts

chumpta · 2011-06-15T05:03:23+00:00

Sorry, but I care only for the Honorable Judge Reinhold.

ImKumarYo · 2011-06-15T02:11:30+00:00

Rob, I've seen some of your stuff and love the natural approach. It's taken me some time but I've been getting great results with no routines. I'm happy with my results given my current logistics (living at home with the parents) but I'll be getting my own place soon in SF. I was wondering what your general thoughts were on same night lays (as that'll be my next focus) and how natural game can play a part in pulling. If that's too vague I'll think of something else, just trying to give you something to do :-)

Or just thoughts on escalation, closing, etc

Bobsutan · 2011-06-15T02:16:43+00:00

Are you integrated with the lair up in NYC?
Are you coming to DC anytime soon?
What prompted you to get into the seduction community?
What are 2 or 3 things that helped you the most in achieving your goals wrt the seduction community?

zelink · 2011-06-15T02:17:37+00:00

Hey rob, big fan of your work. Do you ever venture into really loud night clubs where the majority are dancing? I've noticed from your pickuptube videos most of the approaches consist of the sets standing around with their friends, or maybe sitting around the bar. Are those environments more forgiving or its just easier to approach and you don't have to shout over everyone?

jaykob21 · 2011-06-15T02:22:31+00:00

Rob,

Your stuff is amazing! I am curious if you have any tips for college game. I don't go to college but i am in my young twenties and want to break into the college scene in NYC. Any tips or advice would be awesome. Keep it up. Thanks.

heckz · 2011-06-15T02:25:06+00:00

Hello, thanks for doing this.

One place that is sticking for me right now is that I can do well getting physical with a girl at bar etc and them being receptive, but I'm not succeeding in building enough physical/sexual tension, so that I tend to feel like I'm pursuing. Obviously things are on a case by case basis but do you have any tips for overcoming that hurdle?

RobJudge · 2011-06-15T02:29:34+00:00

Im 21 atm. 2X in the last year 1/2 ive been told "Im trying to hard" when conversing with a girl. Being told by my bff and other from a female friend. Sometimes i dont know what to think of it, what of the 4 elements may i need to fix, (maybe inspiration)? Also whatever happened to PedroPUA? Does he have a site? Love that guy! (no Homo)

Shambot · 2011-06-15T02:30:23+00:00

How do I ask a lady to be my wingwoman? I feel like it's pretty straightforward, but maybe there are some nuances to it?

EtovNowd · 2011-06-15T02:31:43+00:00

My question relies on the future generation, the children,....

Do you think that it's easier for a person to develop game if they grow up around positive male role models? Female role models? Both? Or irrelevant?

Considering seduction as an art/skill would it even matter?

RobJudge · 2011-06-15T02:40:37+00:00

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SpiderFan · 2011-06-15T02:43:40+00:00

Right now I'm working on being one of the more talkative person in a group. I know some guys who whenever theyr'e in a group setting, most people pay attention to them naturally. I'm trying to figure out the principles behind that.

heckz · 2011-06-15T02:52:30+00:00

I just had to say I am in the exact same situation (out of grad school, dated 1 girl, now in a new city) you were in when you started your pickup career. So, you're basically my role model now.

RobJudge · 2011-06-15T03:00:00+00:00

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Jkearns · 2011-06-15T03:28:47+00:00

Hey rob big fan of ur work, 4 elements of the game was the only book that wasnt rehashed garbage. Anyways, I have two problems.

This one is probably one of the biggest problems, I am scared to pickup alone. However, the people I hangout with I am scared to pickup with and they're never around girls. How do I make the big step out of this.
I am good at the approach and say the openner, however I dont really understand what to say after that

junjicali · 2011-06-15T03:31:39+00:00

I am funny guy and it is not that problem to make friends in new place but it is hard to create myself as sexy guy.Do I have to be sexy guy or do I just go with funny guy to the end?

I think it takes a while to re-create your identity.I think the best is like you said first funny guy character and once created rapport go sexual but I do not have that sexual character.I can get numbers and actually girls gives me numbers.Girls make out with me but I can't lead them.

I feel really frustrated because I felt they lead me not me.I had some results and think about before taking program.I have improved from before but I can't break it this part,

oaksalve · 2011-06-15T03:36:34+00:00

Hey Rob! I've been on and off again with the seddit community for a while and I wanted your opinion on a couple of things:

1.) I'm currently in college and I've never had a girlfriend. I've had flings and girls hint at me, flirt with me, etc. but for some reason it's never turned into anything really serious. If you could look back at yourself in your late teens/early 20's what would you tell yourself?

2.) For me personally I feel like I just need to get out there more to solidify my inner game but I'm not completely independent yet (no job, no car). What would you suggest I do? As an idea of what I'm talking about I can just about chat anyone up and have a couple laughs but I noticed especially around "hotter" girls I choke up a bit and lose my composure.

Thanks for your time, we all really appreciate it!

Whisper · 2011-06-15T03:37:22+00:00

What exercises would you suggest for someone who has rejection anxiety instead of approach anxiety?

In other words, what if you're confident enough to approach, but rejection stings so much that you're off your game for the night (and it prevents practicing at a high rate)?

zelink · 2011-06-15T03:55:07+00:00

as an aussie guy rob, do i have to tailor some of the tactics towards the girls here? or do you think they are pretty much the same as the girls in NY

winnnar · 2011-06-15T04:04:02+00:00

Rob, love your writing and it's really helped me to rethink how the game is played. Your tips have definitely helped me improve and it's really motivational a lot of the time so thanks for doing this. 1) What can someone do to make the most of a bootcamp / dating coach? and 2) What are your thoughts / tips on sarging alone if your wings are "busy" or others are just hurting more than helping? 3) Do you prefer "daygame" vs "nightgame" and what tips would you have for day time approaches? (your writings are mostly about bars/clubs)

throwAwayObama · 2011-06-15T04:14:19+00:00

Another tricky question (but you nailed that other tricky one so) but I'm working on finding the extent to my social personality. I don't feel it is developed due to anti-social upbringing. I've been working on my projection with improv and singing. I'm still working on my 'character' although it seems the only thing to do is keep socializing.

wakadango · 2011-06-15T04:28:29+00:00

Do you think it's possible to get laid while being broke/unemployed? I graduated from college and it's been rough finding good work. This gets me down a lot.

legoflegs · 2011-06-15T04:57:06+00:00

A lot if people here say that Facebook is a horrible approach to pick-up woman, but my experience says otherwise. ;] Do you have any tips for Facebook game?

urfaselol · 2011-06-15T05:15:15+00:00

Most of the people that I know told me that in order to get good, you have to go out 5-6 nights a week... Is that true? That is just simply impossible for me since I work and live very far away from the night club scene. I can only realistically go out twice a week.

roxxe · 2011-06-15T12:32:02+00:00

what's the most daring pickup you've done?

2011-06-15T16:10:29+00:00

Hey Rob. I've always been a fairly social guy and get along with most people I meet. My problem is that I have never been able to close a girl once I invite them over to my place. Attraction usually isnt a problem but when I have a girl in my room for example I just start to become too selective with my words, not knowing what to say sometimes. I guess I jsut get nervous because I know its an oppurtunity to have sex and my behavior changes. What are the best things to do or talk about when you have a girl at your place and what can you do to lead to sex?

ImKumarYo · 2011-06-15T02:19:33+00:00

Any thoughts on getting into the seduction community as an instructor? I know I could already be an approach coach (pretty much am for the Bay Area guys on here). Recent grad searching for jobs with little luck and honestly, this is what I do 3 nights a week, might as well take a shot at making a living on it.

junjicali · 2011-06-15T03:19:46+00:00

ADS is great products.It tells you how you do it in real situation.It does not depends on lines and routines.Not just reading showing video footage and Q & A for your check up knowledge.

My question is gay cock blog.So many times,gorgeous one hang out with gay guys.I want to date that girl but gay guy always come with her anytime go out.

MilkmanDelivers · 2011-06-15T02:26:52+00:00

What are some player anthems you suggest guys listen to before going out to meet women?

Title	Rob Judge is Here in this thread to ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS! Q&A TIME!
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Date	June 15, 2011 2:00 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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