She is testing me. What would you do?

EntertainerOld4471 · 2026-01-13T12:22:26+00:00

I mean you could just compromise and meet up after golf? Can she not finish her class during the day as well and meet you in the evening? Are cooking classes and golf appointments a 24 hr thing now?

Dynamix86 · 2026-01-13T12:28:54+00:00

Definitely don’t cancel your golf day. Don’t bend your schedule because she messed up. You could invite her along and that’s it. Don’t budge if she throws a tantrum

francescoli · 2026-01-13T15:57:35+00:00

Do not cancel the golf .

Tell her that and say if she wants she can meet you afterwards.

lovelearningloner · 2026-01-13T14:36:10+00:00

Sounds like shes prioritizing someone else and they flaked on her.

lagonda69 · 2026-01-13T13:31:50+00:00

Compromise is the golden road and no relationship can survive without it. Several people here told you to leave her, and while I do agree that she caused this problem, I think real reason is different.

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't have had problem with rescheduling, if she said she wanted to try something different. Meeting one specific day constantly seems very rigid and people can feel the need to change from time to time. It's normal. But it should be communicated properly.

What I see here is something I experience often when I don't know a girl and try to arrange a date. Pure and simple, it's flakiness. You had an activity planned, but she suddenly "forgot". If she forgot but respected your plans, she would cancelled the activity because of two reasons, she loves you and you planned with her first....

Another problem is, she told you she can't reschedule it, because of reasons.... these are irrelevant and frankly, reasons she gave are nonsensical. Then, she suddenly reschedules it and indirectly assumes you cancel your plans and spent the whole day with her....

I don't know.... i don't want to stir the pot, but it seems awfully like her Baking lessons have a name, abs, and a will of their own and they just dumped her last minute.

Desperate-Hawk-2600 · 2026-01-13T12:40:32+00:00

Never cancel your plan she has to fit your schedule

No-Grade-5057 · 2026-01-13T16:20:06+00:00

Coming from a woman who spent a lot of time shit testing.... go golfing! She will lose sexual attraction if you start rearranging your life to accommodate her.

pwolf1771 · 2026-01-13T14:46:23+00:00

I would not cancel that tee time under any circumstances she can meet for breakfast before you play or after but canceling would be a non starter

Vegetable_Anty · 2026-01-13T13:19:05+00:00

Set your boundaries and stick to them, don’t play games.

Shadow__Account · 2026-01-13T22:36:38+00:00

Id say no im not canceling my golf, but we can meet up before or after or you can join.

Strong boundary, but not rigidity or childishness.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-13T12:45:52+00:00

Here is the guide for shit tests, from first principles.

Yes, this is probably a shit test, you need to assess how honestly she says things.

Did she had alternatives? did she respect your schedule?

The correct reaction is to go with your plan and ignore her attempt.

Albeit, it is a grey area. She has to have a very bad personality to be manipulative here. Unless you suspect her it is not that bad to find a middle ground.

CalvinsRunner · 2026-01-13T18:31:11+00:00

Go golf bro ⛳️

Local_Temperature79 · 2026-01-14T04:04:56+00:00

F no do you cancel your golf. A woman is a compliment in a man’s life, she is not his life.

If she isn’t cool with that and starts a shit storm over it, flush that headache down the toilet.

You are welcome.

ReindeerFun3762 · 2026-01-14T04:53:52+00:00

I could careless. You already have a girlfriend why do you still come to this subreddit? Are you trying to secure a wife or just don't want a breakup?

SoAnxious · 2026-01-14T05:03:39+00:00

If you aren't smashing a woman multiple times a week, you shouldn't consider her your girlfriend

Thats the baseline, if anyone tells you any different, they are giving you bad advice

I think you are one of her plates from the way the situation sounds

Only seeing her once a week and on her time, that's classic plate dynamics

RedditUserNo1990 · 2026-01-13T15:33:36+00:00

Naw golf. Then see her after.

Opposite-Gas2525 · 2026-01-13T15:18:32+00:00

Yeah wtf? If y'all really had made plans to spend time together and she's the one who forgot/cancelled/made other plans, you are well within your right to do whatever it is you'd like with your time and she should have no reason to be upset about that. Tell her to enjoy her baking lesson and try to hang out after.

Local_Temperature79 · 2026-01-14T03:59:52+00:00

F no do you cancel your golf. A woman is a compliment to a man’s life, not his life.

If she isn’t cool with that and starts a shit storm then flush that headache down the toilet.

You are welcome.

Dandys3107 · 2026-01-14T07:35:41+00:00

Well, don’t get too worked up about it.

markus_hates_reddit · 2026-01-13T12:55:59+00:00

If you're being tested, it's a no brainer, just leave. This sets a bad precedent and won't get better in the future. You should be in a position that you have options either way.

luroot · 2026-01-13T18:30:33+00:00

"Shit testing" is just cope for the fact that she simply has low interest in you.

You think if you were her fav pop idol she would ever "forget" a date with you?

First_Inspection_478 · 2026-01-13T15:43:59+00:00

cancelling the golf tee is being a pussy lmao

wellshitdawg · 2026-01-14T13:14:27+00:00

What is a shit test?

& just say you can meet up after golf, why is this so difficult lol

Doctor__Finance · 2026-01-20T23:18:07+00:00

Let’s not get paranoid here. It depends on your relationship, foremost. If your relationship is new, or stable and she does not do these behaviors, you might consider canceling the golf. However, chances are highly that she is either crazy or selfish. Maybe both.

Particular_Age8873 · 2026-02-09T22:42:55+00:00

This is a Seduction Sub-Reddit. This is not the place to ask questions about how to handle your girlfriend.

ConjunctEon · 2026-01-13T19:05:03+00:00

Why not take her golfing?

ThatDarnSmell · 2026-01-13T20:51:40+00:00

Stuff comes up and that's life. Don't be immature about it. She even expressed wanting to see you and so you can both do that after both of your activities for the day are finished.

fuck_dating_reddi_t · 2026-01-13T13:11:19+00:00

Leave her, you deserve better

Title	She is testing me. What would you do?
Author	only05ling
Upvotes	91
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Date	January 13, 2026 12:18 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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