Should I text her back?

ZachMoore88 · 2022-05-27T12:47:03+00:00

Something happened in her life to lower her confidence and she tried using your attention to bring it back up. When women like a guy, they make the time to talk to him...even when it's very inconvenient. I once met a woman working as a nurse at the height of Covid. She would text me everyday from the hospital but once the attraction started to melt away, she was suddenly "too busy."

JenniSun · 2022-05-27T11:33:31+00:00

No she’s just playing u

DryAdhesiveness6579 · 2022-05-27T18:05:25+00:00

her life situation has changed. I.E a dude she was seeing left her or she left him.

If you’re interested in seeing her you should just play it cool like you don’t give a fuck she ghosted and ask her to hang out, no texting chit chat just say

Nice to hear from you, if you’re free on friday we should get together for drinks

KalEl2k · 2022-05-27T16:55:27+00:00

If anything, just text her back asking for a date. She gives you: “I’ll let you know” you have your answer. #next

Codi_Banks · 2022-05-27T15:53:28+00:00

Text her back "who is this?"

Or text something like "damn girl we had a great time last night. How'd you sleep? 😉"

Just fuck with her. Chances are she's using you for attention. Use her for entertainment. Have fun with it lol

sel9 · 2022-05-27T14:36:35+00:00

I would try and set up a date. Most girls get bored of the texting back and fourth for hours. Just be like, “I think we should go out sometime” and boom, you’ll have your answer.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-05-27T11:39:05+00:00

You got nothing to lose so yeah you should. Just don't get your hopes up so you don't get disappointed if it doesn't go anywhere.

Dazzling-Importance1 · 2022-05-27T15:24:07+00:00

Ask her to meet up and chill sometime otherwise I'd maybe do a slowfade or just not worry about it.

BlueberryObvious · 2022-05-27T19:32:31+00:00

Set up a date. If she doesn’t show then you have your answer.

CiaranCallamCoach · 2022-05-27T12:21:35+00:00

Text her back if you want to, and don’t do it if you don’t want to.

Honestly she probably does like you and just had life get in the way, or maybe it was a test as someone said. Either way if she has replied that’s a very good sign so dive in

AdAdministrative2287 · 2022-05-27T15:22:50+00:00

yeah you should, girls aren’t manipulative cunning game players like the guys in the comments would have you think. the world is a crazy place right now and she remembered you and wanted to reach out after a period of disconnect so it sounds like you made a good impression to me! i’m 21f and a notoriously bad texter and i’m 99.999% sure it wasn’t because of you at all. If not being an active texter is a dealbreaker though sure don’t reply then

Own-Masterpiece5102 · 2022-05-27T19:27:52+00:00

She probably got distracted and she liked you enough to think of you one month later. Text her back, but if she ghosts you again, don't...

Altruistic_Loan_7693 · 2022-05-27T21:24:02+00:00

Text her back but ask to see. Take her to dinner or a coffee. Attractions aren't made over txt. They are made in person.

SpicyMustFlow · 2022-05-27T22:46:05+00:00

Things happen, stuff comes up. You'd want the benefit of the doubt, so give that to her, too.

Text her back and suggest meeting for coffee or boba. Either she's in or she's out, and you'll know.

AncientDisplay7464 · 2022-05-27T23:35:01+00:00

You have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain so I say wtf and do it.

LunacyBin · 2022-05-27T18:00:09+00:00

IMO, it's good to give people second chances. For all you know, something legitimate came up; she still should have communicated better, but everyone makes mistakes.

If it happens again, cut her loose.

OddFill8336 · 2022-05-27T21:43:01+00:00

A fisherman lay the net and waits. So do other fishermen near him. Never does a fisherman wishes to be the fish first choice. A fish softly bites to see if it's safe/not a trap. When the fish does bites, all you got to do is reel in the nook... gently... Only when caught, and i do mean really caught, does the fisherman decides what to do with it.

You're worring about things that don't really matter, like "she is playing games"; "she got bored or her boyfriend/whoever left her";"your time is valuable, don't waste on..."

She was insecure when she ghosted you. All you have to do is be confident and ask her out. If she rejects, move on. If she ever comebacks after that, just do the same thing because you allready made it clear what you want.

Cheers 😉

jimjim0058 · 2022-05-27T12:46:18+00:00

Nah. Move along. Just keep moving forward. Wait to see if she texts again.

temp_user6969 · 2022-05-28T11:05:32+00:00

Update: I texted her and we have a date tonight. Thanks everyone for your replies.

Khower · 2022-05-27T23:50:52+00:00

My now girlfriend found out her mother had 2 months to live 20 mins before going out on our second date and she went anyways.

Find someone who gives you that energy and dont waste your time with flakes. It's worth it

EthicalSeduction · 2022-05-27T12:03:58+00:00

My suggestion… you wrote her back because you don’t play games. (You don’t actually know if she is playing “games” with you but also you shouldn’t care because the games part is stupid. So the important thing here is that you don’t fall into the game trap. So you write her back and chat and if appropriate you ask why she didn’t text earlier. And when she texts you why, just believe her. If this does turn into something (dating, relationship) you want it based on being open and honest with your conversations and this sets you up for that.

It takes two to play games. So if you don’t, she won’t either.

yo_saturnalia · 2022-05-27T15:27:18+00:00

Do it man; maybe she’s suddenly free and very horny . My friend got laid like this

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-05-27T19:09:46+00:00

Simple: Bf is gone now its time for a side chad. Or just see if the grass is greener on ur side

That happens when u pull away and not chasing her

Take her out and smash asap. No phone ding dong bs anymore, that “some texting” shit keeps u in text-buddy/ friendzone foreva.

willgo-waggins · 2022-05-27T19:42:21+00:00

If you do, you must absolutely be sure to get yours as soon as you can. This is a touchy situation at best and you are best served to get yours and use that as a way to try to nail her down to something more consistent.

Otherwise don’t bother.

kandid007000 · 2022-05-27T11:46:49+00:00

Something tells me you just passed an unseen test .. she was probably trying to test if you was needy .. they all do this even to the best of us .. but for her to text back just seems she want your attention and she in an indirect way mad that you didn't 2nd text or 3rd text ..

ZakTaylor05 · 2022-05-27T16:15:01+00:00

No, ignore her.

plug_play · 2022-05-27T19:58:26+00:00

Reply in five months

Successful_Teach366 · 2022-05-27T19:59:31+00:00

Just reply with, are you hungry? (Food place)? See what you can get out of it lol

PuzzleheadedPin6536 · 2022-05-27T20:42:58+00:00

Don't dude! She ghosted you for a month! If a girl is really into you, she will be all over you If you respond that means you don't have self respect

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-05-27T20:47:31+00:00

She doesn't like you.

Cookies993 · 2022-05-27T21:59:27+00:00

Text back and entertain yourself with it, do it for your entertainment, not for hers. If she laughs and is into it, ask her out, otherwise just move on.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-05-27T22:02:42+00:00

No. Put some value on yourself, if she can't take a few seconds to text you, then you don't owe her the honor of hearing from you. If a woman is interested she will stay in touch despite normal inconveniences and time constraints of daily life, if she ain't interested those same constraints become the excuse. In your case she is "usually better at keeping in touch". I guarantee she has no problems staying in touch with "chad".

Capable_Medicine4140 · 2022-05-27T22:17:31+00:00

just say “you good “

marshall_strud · 2022-05-27T23:01:18+00:00

Smash it and keep it moving

2022-05-27T16:20:51+00:00

Be direct and ask her to meet up. You'll have your answer and the worst case is she doesn't reply and you just move on w/ your life.

waresmarufy · 2022-05-27T18:55:28+00:00

One last push but if she pulls away like that again, just block and move on. Don't get attached

Cowvonmoger · 2022-05-27T21:58:41+00:00

Give her the old thumbs up, let her know you ain’t no chump bro. 👍🏽

Independent-Welder-3 · 2022-05-27T23:02:49+00:00

if you dont like the comment on here, than its sometime its better to hear and wait for the girl to reply but its might take weeks or months, i have a girl that did to me once, she wasnt interested and i didnt know.. whatever you know i move on to date other women

Silly-Work-1321 · 2022-05-27T23:19:32+00:00

Absolutely not. You were on the back burner. I guarantee you will be back on it in no time.

l337joejoe · 2022-05-28T00:42:41+00:00

I would, because of what she said. covid has fucked some peoples social skills, it takes effort for me to even link up with friends. But yeah, if she does it again id forget about it.

MatteoLeLion · 2022-05-28T01:05:46+00:00

In my opinion, no.

RepulsiveCat1681 · 2022-05-28T02:44:38+00:00

what if she had a reason why she ghosted you? if you really had a lot in common, it might be best to straight up ask.

Title	Should I text her back?
Author	temp_user6969
Upvotes	48
Comments	77
Date	May 27, 2022 11:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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