Been meaning to share this with you all. Hope it helps! Blog post here if you're interested: https://flatoutfree.wordpress.com/2014/12/09/16tips/

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1. Keep it concise.

In your profile, in your messages, everything. The more words you use, the less mystery and higher chance of turning her off there is. Choose your words carefully to deliver a high-density message that demonstrates value, fun, status, danger, etc.

2. Make it known that you have every intention of meeting people.

If you want to meet girls, there’s no shame in screening out the attention/validation seekers or penpals. Make it known on your profile that you don’t intend to be part of a three-week friendship before finding out she’s not your type or vice-versa. Something like:

Let’s exchange a few messages here, text a bit, and meet- we’ll both be able to tell real quick if this is worth either of our time.

3. Demonstrate passion.

Both in your photos and the text of your profile. Make it known that you’re really into something other than partying and “finding something special”. The sexiest girls/guys – in my opinion – are the ones that are really into something – whether it’s their business, or teaching kickboxing, or salsa dancing, or fitness. Having a strong passion for one thing is so much hotter than being “interested” in all the cliche shit that everyone else has on their profile.

4. Don’t get sexual in the first few messages.

Save it for later on in your text conversations for yes-girls, or for in person for maybe-girls or anyone you’re unsure of. Escalate slowly if you’re not in person. The last thing you want is coming off as the same sex-hungry dude she just dropped for being too forward with his intentions. These women are human beings – they enjoy feeling liked – charge up the energy between you guys before you try lighting it on fire for fuck’s sake.

5. Make your preferences known.

When I first started, I wanted to play it safe and not say anything that would turn anyone away. Now I’ve actually developed a sense of what I want/need, and I make some of that very clear in my profile. It actually plays strongly to my benefit, because girls with the same preferences will see my “restrictions” line up with theirs, which is a way stronger hook than neutrality. For example – I don’t date girls that smoke, or that don’t take fitness seriously. I prefer fully-employed, automobile-owning women that lean introverted. This is all on my profile and it’s helped me nail down two awesome dates in the first 48 hours of going back online ( Michelle | Joy ).

6. First message to her: minimize your effort, but make some.

Don’t complement her looks, don’t ask her what’s up. Write something in a sentence or two that will give her a reason to click on your profile, an indication that you’re above the junk in her inbox. Usually that entails taking 10 seconds to find something, anything to ask her about. For me it’s usually something about one of her pics, or if there’s not much to go off of there, from her profile. Don’t spend 10 minutes composing a perfect pickup; your cost/benefit is shit at that level. It’s best at the <1minute mark, so make a point of being hasty.

7. Don’t answer any questions with High Importance unless you accept that it will screen away girls who don’t line up.

The statistical difference between the weight of High Importance vs the other weights is significant. Don’t take it lightly if you think that the match % matters – this is a way to get up into the high percentages with girls that you really might mesh with. I only answer questions that are legitimately important to me with that rating – stuff around fitness, education level, etc. Never politics or sex.

8. Either reveal that you’re looking for something serious, or don’t reveal anything.

I’m in a mode right now where I don’t want to build a roster of fuck-buddies. I want to build something special with someone close. So I make that known – “I’m looking for something a little more than casual, so if you’re not, let’s save each other some time :)”. This will screen out the slutty girls that need to get something out of their system, and will attract the girls that are on the same page. If you are looking for hookups only, obviously, keep it to yourself.

9. Accept that it’s a numbers game.

My message-to-lay ratio is less than 10%. I don’t think that’s abnormal. Just like in real life – you will fail more than you succeed, but the few successes are way more potent than the frequent failures. How bad do you really want it? Play the numbers. It’ll take time, but the time it takes will grow smaller as you find your groove.

10. Only message girls that are Online Now.

Doesn’t matter if you have a 90% match and she’s the hottest girl you’ve seen all week. Only message girls that are online. Depending on your location, if the girl you’re looking at is higher than a 5 in attractiveness, she gets 50+ messages daily, especially if she’s ever online. The only way you’re breaking through that kind of competition is via the little notification that comes up when they’re browsing and you message them.

11. Get a professional profile photo.

If you’re an above-average looking dude, you don’t need this. But if you’re like me – average at best – I think it’s worth hiring a pro or semi-pro to take your picture. With the right angles and lighting, you can bump a 6-7 photo to a 8-9 photo and increase your success rates significantly. Plus, seeing a guy with a properly taken DSLR, bokeh-rich photo says something about his status, if you ask me.

12. Don’t forget the fun photos.

Give the girls something to relate to with your photos. Motorcycle, skydiving, four-wheeling, playing in a band on stage, playing poker, hiking, etc. You don’t need to post your life story but a few activity-oriented pics will give her common ground at best, and demonstrate your passion at worst.

13. Like everyone.

Take an hour to just sit on the quickmatch and hammer away at the Like button. Over and over and over without even looking at the profiles. This does several things:

• If they like you back, you get a message in your inbox. If you don’t respond, your response rate goes down, and your likelihood of getting the “Replies Selectively” or “Replies Very Selectively” goes up.
• It gives you another list of girls to look at that you know will likely respond if you message them.
• It puts a smile on the faces of girls that might not ever get liked / rated highly

You can test out the first bullet by creating a second profile and just checking your primary one after a day or two when you do this.

14. Escalate quickly from Online > Text > Meet.

Don’t just get her to text you and then have a quick chat. If you give a girl your number and she texts you, text her back when you can dedicate 10-20 minutes to having a conversation and building up the heat between you. Get her laughing and then say you have to take care of something, and give her some options to pick a day/time that works best for her. Don’t say “when can you meet” or “can you do anything this weekend” – say “I’m free on Friday night and Sunday afternoon, which works better for you?” Make it easy for them to say “yes”.

Then, you have to engage in some proactive flake prevention by maintaining the heat. Don’t let more than a couple day go by before you check in to make her laugh as you’re waiting to meet up. If you just set it and forget it, she’ll forget why she said “yes” to you in the first place, and find something better to do. A few small investments along the way will keep you both tuned into each other and interested.

15. Avoid being too serious or negative.

These girls’ lives are filled with responsibility and challenges – be the relief. Don’t make them think too seriously. Keep it lighthearted, fun, and upbeat.

16. Keep the first date fun and simple.

I usually do darts or pool at a local bar. No food to make you bloated and tired, no movie to make you bored and tired. Something casual, cheap, and fun that actually gives her a chance to get into you. I’m ok at pool; demonstrating a skill like that on the first date tends to help. Darts is something that you can get good at quickly too, and you can get touchy real quick by pushing her lightly when she’s about to toss, or helping with her form.