Stop Theorizing : Speak on Experience

BurnItDownSR · 2026-01-24T18:13:51+00:00

Exactly.

I've said it time and time again. The problem with this subreddit in 2026 is that 90% of the people here have painfully little experience.

Most of you guys aren't doing shit. You just make up the majority, which is why you have so many people to back up your stupid ideas and trick you into thinking you're doing things right.

The blind leading the blind.

Either you get more experience or you take our word for it, even if it sounds crazy, because it really only sounds crazy to those with very little experience.

SuitOfWolves · 2026-01-24T19:29:29+00:00

Well that shouldn't surprise you. Am I right in saying you're not bringing any facts now with this, and are instead bitching about them, knowing that you won't change their behaviour anyway. It would be as hard as stopping the genocide in Gaza or stopping ICE from killing people, as to stop chodes talking BS.

I guess you should restrict yourself to only reading field reports here. There is actually some good advice here, but most of us have heard it all b4. Is there a way on reddit to do a search criteria in a subreddit?

Resident-Biscotti-45 · 2026-01-24T18:19:55+00:00

Couldn’t agree more, got in an argument here yesterday because guys were saying doing cold approaches makes you look needy and you need to do online dating instead 😂

The blind leading the blind.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-01-24T19:42:51+00:00

Your post doesn't speak of your experience so delete it :-)

Thin_Protection5616 · 2026-01-24T20:11:33+00:00

This is solid advice for any time you're offering an opinion on anything.

The best response is always, "I tried X, here's what happened..."

Anything else is useless and often driven by an egoic need to feel like one's opinion is important.

I used to run a mastermind, and we made that a rule.

You could not give advice that was just an opinion. It had to be advice that was prefaced on an experience you had that was related to a question someone else asked.

This cut down on so much bullshit.

ModeoneUk · 2026-01-24T18:30:27+00:00

"Salty little chodes" ahahahhahahaahahaahahaha 😆😆😆😆👌👌👌

Key-Proud · 2026-01-24T18:23:08+00:00

I agree with you. But that is human nature. Why you think many are not successful.

When you talk about self improving like approaching a lot to gain experience ... it puts a mirror to their faces on "if that guy can do it and we are at equal level ... what the hell am I doing with my life?". So they shoot you down back to their level.

You will always get guys stuck in the manure dragging you back ... when you try to get out.

ModeoneUk · 2026-01-24T18:23:21+00:00

AMEN! This isn't said enough bro.

We all worry about the theory before actually doing anything. You learn more from doing the think than the constant theory.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-24T18:33:14+00:00

Pick up is already a solo venture to care about the opinions of forum guys tbh

FateInHaze_Re-Pac · 2026-01-25T02:14:29+00:00

Owen Cook did a YouTube video about this phenomenon I think. He mentioned how back in the day no one could say crap about pickup if it wasn't backed up with field experience, and if they tried spouting off untested theories as if they were facts they'd get shut down. Now thanks to YouTube tightening the leash on infield videos any marketer or chode can weigh in unchallenged. The 2000s and 2010s were the golden age for pickup but they'll never return.

Dandys3107 · 2026-01-25T12:37:33+00:00

First thing, many people are not really concerned too much about speaking of the matter they have little actual experience with or knowledge about. They often follow emotions to engage their intuition to solve logic problems. Therefore, you should only really follow meritorical arguments, all other ways are usually the cover for an empty essence.

About theory vs experience, theory is a foundation to forge your own style, skills and seduction strategy, but without practice that verifies and feedbacks it, these are just thoughts, ideas, things that are not real, at least not yet.

Altokation · 2026-01-25T14:56:04+00:00

This sub has devolved into people theory crafting instead of taking action and 10% self proclaimed gurus giving horrible advice

barlowaplesand · 2026-01-24T19:18:22+00:00

mass approach is good! I mass approach!! I believe it's the law of large numbers that actually get you results in cold approach! screw 'em!

I know some guy yesterday was saying wait for the girls too approach you, but that only happens for super handsome dudes

Matter_Still · 2026-01-24T19:09:09+00:00

How’s this:

Throughout my high school, college, and mid-20s, I never mass approached—even if by mass approaching you men three girls in the same month.

Beginning in the seventh grade I only approached girls who I was boyishly attracted to AND who at least seemed cordial. Through high school there were no more than 10 or 15. If the logistics were right, I took my shot. That was the case with about eight or nine of them. I had success with all but two of those.

I’ve often thought about this and concluded that I had superbly refined and precocious ability to read subtle cues and know in advance which girls would not welcome my attention.

No theory, just facts: I did not need “mass approaches” to connect with the caliber of girls I remember to this day, even the one I eventually asked to marry.

My success was so surprising, even to me, that on several occasions people said, “You sure do well for an ordinary guy”, and the sister of a friend told my friend, “I’ve never seen a guy with so many beautiful girls.”

It was ridiculous, comical, even. I was like Gabriel Garcia Marquez’ character, Florentino Ariza. It was inexplicable, and perhaps only understandable because I didn’t know I hadn’t any shot with them.

So, as to your arrogant “they are just afraid, unwilling to TRULY put themselves out there and ACTUALLY go after what they want”, that is “shit talk”. There’s no greater example of fearlessness than rolling the dice on the girl who your friends tell you is out of your league.

Then, too, some of us, and there are many more than you could possibly believe, are governed by these confining things called “standards”. We don’t (or didn’t) launch ourselves at girls (or women) just to run the numbers and pad our logbooks. We took our chances with those girls who rocked our world. We’d rather be with one who made the others invisible to us than just some girl who would add to our “lay count”.

And from our vantage point, if a guy has to approach ten-to-twelve women a night three days a week to be fulfilled, he’s the one with the problem.

epimpstyle · 2026-01-24T18:24:49+00:00

willingness to mass approach

Only a very uncalibrated guy, someone with zero ability to read basic social cues, would do what you described. Sure, it’s better than nothing, but it’s far from ideal.

bring FACTS.

It’s not easy, because it means wearing a spycam or having someone film you. When that happens, you’re no longer the real you. A part of you is always thinking how you look on the screen but is better than nothing VIDEO, VIDEO no crazy confidence, no boldness, no deep voice, no voice projection, no exaggerated masculinity… nothing like that, it’s not a challenge, there’s no making out in the street like you see in YouTube videos, just a willingness to talk to them and see how far things go.

MrMetraGnome · 2026-01-26T07:05:53+00:00

This will all be theory. There’s no such thing as fact in seduction. Closest you can get is anecdotes, which are nothing but your own experience

Title	Stop Theorizing : Speak on Experience
Author	Awkward_Freedom_4551
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Date	January 24, 2026 6:02 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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