Umm can someone explain this?

Teamtoast · 2022-03-28T13:30:59+00:00

If you want the sex then looks good? If you want more than that then a bit Yikes

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-03-28T14:02:21+00:00

Shit test. Seeing how you would react. Testing you.

Should have said oh yeah was I any good in your imagination or something like that.

Sliti666 · 2022-03-28T13:57:00+00:00

Depends what you want. If its only about sex you should go for it, if you want serious realntionship i would be cautious

wabbuwabbu · 2022-03-28T14:09:41+00:00

Good for casual sex.

NIKERIPPER · 2022-03-28T16:12:05+00:00

whatever you do dont date her. sex ok, relationship? now u wildin she gonna tell someone else the same thing when you’re together

No_Bite_7238 · 2022-03-28T15:02:33+00:00

Be flattered but keep your barriers up.

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-03-28T17:54:10+00:00

Recreational use only.

Lakeyute · 2022-03-28T15:27:02+00:00

Geez man… I thought I was bad at taking hints but damn.. this isn’t a shit test, it’s an invitation.

Dude she wants to smash. He wasn’t good and she wants to see if you’re better. It has nothing to do with a relationship. Don’t take her out on a date or anything like that, just ask to hang out.

Go for a walk or something and just ensure it ends up in a place where you two will be alone and can do it. Don’t over think it. If the guy was good she would keep it to herself.

If you’re bad too, she’s gonna just move on. If you’re a cool dude with good vibes she’ll give you a few more chances to do better.

Mriconicdev · 2022-03-28T14:13:19+00:00

Keep her for casual, it’s a good thing.

Icy_Dance_5598 · 2022-03-28T17:16:35+00:00

Wemon am I right

kustoob · 2022-03-28T13:19:20+00:00

Bruh its good.

Altruistic_Field2134 · 2022-03-28T16:00:24+00:00

Others have already said it but she is hinting (really telling you) that she wants to bang you. Which is great if that is all you want from her. However, if you want more with this woman then this is a fuckin red flag man.

eszibit · 2022-03-28T19:53:00+00:00

This is just crass. Honestly i wouldn't pursue her anymore. She's either stupid by saying something disrespectful like that ( if you're flirting a decent thing is to not say about your other flings ) or she is just playing games which means she is immature as fuck. Have standards, have a backbone, drop her ass.

I'm pretty sure that's why you feel something is off.

Imagine you telling a girl the same thing " i slept with a girl but was thinking about you the whole time " It's cringe and disrespectful.

BaslerDibly · 2022-03-28T13:32:31+00:00

Definitely good imo. It means she has fantasizes about you during sex. Definitely a green flag right there^{^}

MrHouseGang · 2022-03-28T16:37:54+00:00

Easy cheeks

cronasminate · 2022-03-28T18:46:38+00:00

You are overthinking this. Just say something like..

"Why make it difficult for yourself? You shouldn't have to use your imagination that hard."

Just make sure to wrap it up.

roakmamba · 2022-03-28T15:44:09+00:00

She's psycho for telling you. Wouldn't take her serious.

Nullroute127 · 2022-03-28T18:26:49+00:00

These kinds of left field comments are usually just her testing you. There's a fair probability that it didn't actually happen.

I'm willing to bet what prompted this is exactly what you mentioned - you stopped talking to her for a week. Thus, she's reaching out to you and trying to get your attention. Whether intentional or not, whether the event actually happened or not - you're on her mind. However, I also get the impression that she's trying to control the frame/your emotions to get you reacting to her.

You know more about the vibe than we would, but you can play this a few ways if you haven't already.

Cocky/Unaffected, "If you play your cards right this fantasy can be a reality"

Playful/teasing, "TBH I was(would be) imagining Penelope Cruz and Scarlett Johansson in the same body when we're together" - This is something of a push/pull. You're saying you're imagining someone else (push), but also comparing her indirectly to conventionally attractive celebrities (pull).

Dismissive/nonjudgmental, "You're a bit of a dork but the mind does what the mind does"

saryiahan · 2022-03-28T14:20:09+00:00

Got to love mind guess. Call her out on it and say something along the lines of why don’t we just have sex then

iamksenia_ · 2022-03-28T16:44:12+00:00

It’s cool that she’s so open, but I think it happens because she feels guilty

SithLordJediMaster · 2022-03-28T19:40:42+00:00

Divorce her

krispykreme01 · 2022-03-28T20:25:21+00:00

Just smash and dash she mad you stopped talking to her so she letting you know I’m out here Nigga you better cuff or do something cause I’m out here catching dick. Lmao she just wanted you to get mad or sad. This should show you she ain’t the one to cuff.

But fuck with a rubber Fr Fr.

SavageMakaveli · 2022-03-28T20:50:52+00:00

Tell her you'll decide what to do with her depending on how good she sucks dick 👌👍

RedCardOrder · 2022-03-28T22:20:59+00:00

“Come fuck me then”

EstablishmentIll67 · 2022-03-28T22:53:24+00:00

Bro smash then decide. I could almost guarantee she’s not a keeper tho

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-03-28T23:17:01+00:00

I'm a f boy. She most likely likes you more. Bang her out bro. lol.

focus_flow69 · 2022-03-29T00:27:16+00:00

The only correct action is to fuck her first and talk later. Lol seriously bro it cannot get more obvious than this. She wants you to lay her down. Show some confidence, take the lead and blow her mind

OldStorageUnit · 2022-03-29T01:24:17+00:00

Eek this is oddly similar to a situation I recently ran into from the opposite end. So I had a brief FWB relationship w/ a guy who told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, which I was fine with. He then made new friends and sort of forgot about me as he had to focus on himself, however he very poorly communicated the shift and gave off the impression he just didn’t want to spend time with me. Since I’m not the overly attached type, I made my own plans and ended up hooking up with another guy to get my mind off it. After doing so I realized I had a desire for something more with the first guy, as I felt something was missing that wasn’t just sex. I told him as such and he claimed he had actually wanted a relationship or whatever and now I’ve fucked it up by going and doing that.

So yeah, you may not have realized it but this girl could have been pining for you all along. She likely hooked up with another guy to take her mind off you and the experience reinforced her desire to pursue you.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-03-29T08:29:59+00:00

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I’ve just had a girl (who I’ve been flirting with) shyly confess to me that she slept with a guy this week but was thinking about me during her sex. She said she doesn’t like him in that way and it was causal.

This girl could have simply made moves on you and dropped the other guy once she realized she was interested in you.

Instead, she overshared. Which then led to her having to explain that she doesn't really like him even though she just swapped bodily fluids with him.

All of which can be awkward. Which could mean:

She is either a bit socially awkward and doesn't think things through or realize how things work. Like it just excited her to tell you this, so she did it without thinking about what the effect might be.
Or she made the decision to traverse this awkwardness deliberately because she wants to make sure you're not emotionally invested.

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I don’t know what to think of this. My mind is kind of blank on how to react. Is this a good or a bad thing??

We can't tell you what this means to you. What do you feel like it means?

Title	Umm can someone explain this?
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Upvotes	149
Comments	74
Date	March 28, 2022 1:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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