Why so hard despite being attractive?

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-26T07:58:36+00:00

Are you approaching, escalating, sorting out logistics?

Or are you expecting women to put in all the effort because your attractive.

Looks just give you a slightly longer window to make a good first impression.

MacDwest · 2024-07-26T04:37:40+00:00

LOOKING attractive differs from BEING attractive.

PutridPrice9831 · 2024-07-26T05:23:58+00:00

Are you making a move and escalating?

Being attractive makes it really easy to get in the door but you still have to make the moves

mysteryplays · 2024-07-26T05:01:56+00:00

look for women with daddy issues they'll fuck anyone

emirsolinno · 2024-07-26T06:32:35+00:00

Try changing your attitude, you got the first step but it is not enough. Practice seducing, try flirting with girls, don't think about the sex just focus on the chase and the conversation. Just have fun. Work on your eye contact, and gestures, building up the energy before sex is the key for the most women.

If a girl wants to have sex, she will unless you are being a weirdo (no offense) considering you are attractive :D Finding girls who want to have sex is easier on dating apps for me. I try to meet with as much girls as I can from the apps, almost 1 out of 2 that are willing to meet are looking for sex. I don't talk about sex until we get to a point that I can make a move, at least a kiss.

DaygameCode · 2024-07-26T08:52:42+00:00

I mean, if you are directly asking women shit like:

“_Hey, would you wanna have sex with me?” or “why don’t we sleep together?” or “Let’s have sex casually” or “hey wanna be my friend with benefits?_”

Obviously that’s usually not gonna work. You don’t ask for sex which is what seems to be the problem if i interpret correctly. It seems like you are asking women if they’d like to sleep with you and the response to that will always be a no every single time.

And that’s not because they don’t like having sex, it’s because that’s just not how you escalate things.

Your problem is assuming that girl complimenting you means girl open to have sex as soon as you ask her in a formal way to sleep with her. Women need to be seduced into having sex, not asked if they want to have sex.

Barry9988 · 2024-07-26T12:38:36+00:00

Change your attitude!

Talk with as many girls as you can. Also when you feel super interested in a girl make sure she knows from the get go you like her and you are not trying to be their friend

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-26T13:54:04+00:00

Well, it sounds like you are waiting for women to rip their clothes off and jump on your cock out of nowhere. What exactly are you doing to facilitate having sex?

pissshitfuckcuntcock · 2024-07-26T15:00:58+00:00

Learn how to make a Woman laugh, look her in the eye, initiate touch, if she hasn’t pulled away by then you’re basically in. But don’t over think or strategize, Women can see that shit a mile off. Once it comes naturally you won’t even notice you’re doing it.

No_Piano_246 · 2024-07-26T17:30:15+00:00

I’ve had tons of success before I got married. It’s all about your social circle. I’m basically a bigger version of Michael B Jordan( I’m into bodybuilding), but I mostly got laid because of my social proof. Hanging around good guys who know how to have fun is key. That also expands your social circle because you meet all the friends.

zebekias · 2024-07-26T11:47:41+00:00

There is no substitute for studying game. The Venusian Arts Handbook (2nd edition, ebook) is a masterpiece, see if you can find it. While that's my fav and I recommend you start there, there are tons of other good material online. It's a lot easier once you understand what's going on.

nordik1 · 2024-07-27T01:55:13+00:00

The way you phrased this post shows that your communication isn’t attractive. It sounds very transactional and dry. You’re likely too logical, stiff, and lacking the “cool guy” factor that makes the interaction feel smooth and flirty.

I’d read more on here about frame, flirting, text game, and how to run a date that leads to the pull

epimpstyle · 2024-07-26T10:34:08+00:00

Have no issues socializing with anyone.

What do you do for escalation? Socializing is one thing, but being playful is another. Being playful doesn't make you a clown, it just makes physical escalation easier. This is what you need - physical escalation. If she pulls away when you gently touch her arm, you can't expect to kiss her or grab her waist.

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-07-26T04:00:56+00:00

it's mostly inner game and language, looks aren't that important to women, go and read some books and then practice.

jjboy91 · 2024-07-26T10:01:30+00:00

Attractiveness to hook them and personality to close I only have the second one so it's like being on the central square but being invisible

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-26T18:54:18+00:00

It is not. That "being hard" is a proxy for not being attractive. So what you do is you go "ok, i will just need to work a little harder on the other legs of the total package"

PureFlames · 2024-07-27T00:06:39+00:00

Either you arnt attractive or you are doing something to put them off. Im pretty average and have sex with my female friends time to time just because they fw me

Purple-Car-488 · 2024-07-27T07:11:22+00:00

ngl you probably aren’t even that attractive lol, most men think they’re 7/10 when they’re about 4-5 at best which is fine

New_Rain_5389 · 2024-07-27T09:13:13+00:00

If a woman wants to smash she will outright just tell you,

Working_Potential_26 · 2024-07-28T15:55:24+00:00

You gotta hit them with the “ I know u jus trynna fucc 😏😏”

Make it quick and straight to it and always make it seem as if theyyyyyy are the ones trynna get at u

MentalCelOmega · 2024-07-26T18:29:39+00:00

Because the dating standards today are so ridiculously high. If are not at least in the top ten percent of biological determinism then don't even bother trying to obtain a female.

Capital_Situation988 · 2024-07-26T15:18:07+00:00

How tall are you?

bankpants · 2024-07-26T18:30:47+00:00

maybe cause women have higher standards these days

Title	Why so hard despite being attractive?
Author	Throwawayloud5389
Upvotes	54
Comments	73
Date	July 26, 2024 3:22 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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