Dear seddit, I'm writing this to tell you an ugly truth that will apply to some of you. Awhile back watching The Annihilation Method, Style said "your friends will hold you back, they will stop you from changing. And once they see that you have changed, they will have to learn to accept that" I can say I have changed, they see it, but they're not accepting it.

Before I was very shy to the subject of women in general. [FR] a fee hours ago a friend leaned over and told me a girls hot (HB7), I tell them to go talk to her. And when he said no, then make up excuses, when he was done I approached her, carry on a conversation then invite her back to the table.

She said yes, I led her to our table put her next to my friend that wanted her, introduced my friends, then find a conversation topic that she loves. While she's talking I step out and look around to try to get my friends involved, to my surprise they're all sitting their dumbfounded, staring at her tits. After she's done another one of my friends tries to be funny, but stutters allot, and after spitting it out, 2 other friends start laughing trying to force the laugh on her, but she sits their with an awkward smile on her face. I pull my friend next to her aside and tell him to do something, besides awkwardly sitting their. We come back, he tries to hit on her, she asks him to buy a drink, he agrees, it's over.

Afterward my friends get mad at me telling me I ruined the night out. I told them I was tired of being the group of cheesy guys in room who stared at chicks, drank beers, and talked about boring stuff (jobs). And that trying to mix it up, by bringing a girl over, I was doing them a favor. My stubborn friend who always tried to be the leader, but tried to hard to be cocky, tried to tell me I was wrong, by saying "it was going perfectly fine you dumb ass, then you brought that bitch over here" I told him all we where doing was staring at girls, and talking about how much things sucked. All my other friends like always agreed with him. I called a cab, and went home.

I will be going to the same bar next Friday. Not with my friends, but alone. I will purposely sarge women in front of them, and try to K-close girls in their faces. It might be my buzzed anger talking, but tonight was a breakthrough. My friends don't like my new, changed self, and they are going to have to see myself happier without them.

Edit: so I slept on it, and I understand now that I did put them in an awkward situation. But something I still want is to make the nights out better. In a sense of the nights out before where depressing, and if someone tried to bring up a happy subject, it was turned back into a rant about how much we hate stuff. I've tried to give some simple tricks to my friends, such as not doing stuff for women, to approach with an opener I gave them, and to not be afraid. But still they act as if I'm the guy who never kissed a girl I was a year ago. Is their any way to make the nights out a little better?