She keeps watching videos about avoidant personalities

Bulky-Percentage-243 · 2025-09-08T18:24:40+00:00

Pop psychology is pretty much just name calling and stupid internet memes at this point.

My favorite is Gas Lighting. I'm not sure if people have seen the movie behind the concept. But it's stupid as fuck sacrificing the plot to a totally contrived "wah wah" ending.

crager34 · 2025-09-06T21:20:08+00:00

Same. Next thing I know i was all this stuff, doing all this stuff. Sorry brother, but you're probably on the way out. I hope not though.

LearnGrowExist · 2025-09-06T14:30:23+00:00

This thread makes me so sad and mad and validated all at once. It feels like we really are all living the same life at the end of the day.

Social media addicted women turned cheating wife divorcees because the perfection they demanded from their husbands was not only unreasonable, it was never actually reciprocated. And yet, they get to escape to a life of “freedom” where our kids’ lives are forever changed, our hearts are forever maimed, and they walk away scott free because the truth is, they are some of the most self-centered and emotionally immature people in the universe.

I’m so fucking tired of this story. And I’m so sad that we have all had to experience it.

StatisticianOld8246 · 2025-09-06T09:31:14+00:00

I’m really hoping there is some cosmic justice for women who rewire their brains like this. Like, once they’re all alone supporting themselves and can’t blame anyone but themselves for their unhappiness. Or bringing that tik tok “men are trash” bullshit into a new relationship surely can’t work well.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-09-06T02:40:31+00:00

My ex told me I’m the most avoidant but really I just shut down from her emotional affair, and honestly every time I brought up my feelings it was turned around on me being the problem.

So yeah, sure I’m an avoidant. 🙄

rockland_beaumont · 2025-09-06T02:35:48+00:00

You're the avoidant likely. Mine did the same. Found all the abuses on youtube, and started claiming I was the one that fit the bill.

Unsainted_smoke · 2025-09-05T23:44:28+00:00

Learning about attachment styles was key for me understanding why my marriage broke down. My ex is a dismissive avoidant and I honestly wish she could understand it because it would make life easier post divorce and understand I’m not a narcissist 😂 It’s also helped with my relationship with my girlfriend now. We’ve learned and explored everything about our attachment styles and we have a very healthy relationship

johnlrobbie · 2025-09-05T23:10:06+00:00

My ex-wife blasted this song on repeat that sang the lyrics “now I’m ready” over and over for like 2 months and then left me.

Played it while cooking, in the shower, everywhere. Actually one of the few things I laugh about looking back.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-09-05T22:36:22+00:00

One thing you can be sure, they never watch anything to self improve, reflect and grow in a relationship, as they are perfect. They're always looking for a reason to leave.

That's why on relationship issues reels and yt vids you have 99% men commenting "please send it to her timeline". I've yet to see a single woman accepting accountabily in the comment section even if the owner and creators of the content in the chanels are women themselves.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2025-09-05T20:20:33+00:00

My ex kept listening to a song with the lyrics “you left me”. She was the one who left me. The projection is amazing.

Due-Judgment6004 · 2025-09-05T20:05:55+00:00

My STBX has fallen into several Tik Tok rabbit holes over the years-- from fascination with crystals to politics all the way to "all men are narcissists." Unfortunately, "brain rot" is a real thing and it can destroy relationships. There's nothing "to get" here unfortunately, other than that she left you man. She quit the team, and you need to rebuild it without her, starting with yourself.

Take care of yourself and your kids, if you have them.

Illustrious_Cash1325 · 2025-09-05T20:05:48+00:00

Once they start listening to or watching that shit they go mental.

crzapy · 2025-09-05T17:52:33+00:00

Prior to my divorce, my ex-wife started watching tik toks about strong, independent woman, you don't need no man, yaaàsss queen type content.

It's the harbinger of unrest.

RichardCleveland · 2025-09-05T13:54:18+00:00

Good riddance to her, and I wouldn't bother trying to figure out what's going on in her head.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-09-05T13:49:59+00:00

One of her chicken head friends probably told her to watch attachment style videos so she can label you as an avoidant to justify leaving or cheating.

Best bet, ask her what the issue is. Remember, these women instruct other women to plan for years to leave. Maybe she's somewhere in the planning stage.

Either way, ask her questions now. Trust your gut.

Title	She keeps watching videos about avoidant personalities
Author	oanthonyknightx2
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	September 5, 2025 1:46 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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