I had a 90 minute phone call with someone from OLD. He seemed better than the average person who I've connected with. We had several things in common, specifically about our line of work. He was smart, funny, had a good job. He was relateable and attractive in his photos.

So far I liked him better than anyone else.

He told me how he had been married and he had cheated on his spouse due to a dead bedroom. This raised a yellow flag for me and I took a step back and had to decide if I was comfortable moving forward with a man who cheated in his marriage. He expressed remorse but then he also said that his ex-wife was a 'woman scorned' -- this statement made me feel like he hasn't taken responsibility for his actions and was the number one thing concerning me and preventing me from feeling like I wanted to move forward.

The next day he texted me and I didn't respond.

The following day he texted me again. Somehow his first and last name came up on my phone in the text message. Something that hadn't appeared before. I took the opportunity to google him. He has an uncommon name.

His name came up in a news article featuring his ex-wife concerning serious domestic violence charges against him. She said she was fearful for her life and is going to have to get a pistol permit to protect herself because the police gave away the address to her domestic violence housing.

Be careful and under no circumstances (!!), no matter how 'nice' or smart or relatable or sincere or genuine or funny he seems-- under no circumstance should you ever get involved with a man who has this sort of history.

I'm so glad I found this out -- I definitely would have met him and who knows what downward spiral this may have turned into.

Do your due diligence. It could save your life. Also--always trust your gut!! If something seems off-- it definitely is!!!

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TL; DR: I googled the guy who I liked from OLD- he has a history of domestic violence. If I hadn't googled him, I likely may have been his next victim.