NVM unexpectedly strangles girlfriend during sex and injures her, top comment from pickmeisha blames her for not warning him prior that she wasn’t into being strangled...

biwinny · 2020-06-21T12:36:39+00:00

Men feel completely entitled to second (and third, fourth, ect) chances, but the second a woman does anything that inconveniences them, like refusing to have kinky sex, or even something as temporary as gaining 20lbs, they leave or cheat with no remorse.

Neorago · 2020-06-21T13:01:08+00:00

What is that analogy? "If it makes me upset when he doesn't rinse the dishes, it's his fault for not knowing"? I mean, yeah? Who doesn't know you're supposed to wash, rinse and put away dishes after using them??

Pasdepromesses · 2020-06-21T13:29:37+00:00

I had my fair share of boyfriends and this was not part of our normal sex life. I don’t get how people think this is normal.

I even asked my sorority sisters and not even one of them does this with their husbands or boyfriends. We are very open minded about these things and not ashamed to talk about all forms of sex at all or admit if we like uncommon things. Also, we live in a very liberal country with lots of in depth sex ed.

I think it’s not the norm.

circescircus · 2020-06-21T13:49:35+00:00

I generally have a lot of compassion for pickmes, but this is the type of pickme that I can't stand. They will do and say ANYTHING, throw their own mom, sister, grandma and every female friend they've ever had, under the bus, for some male validation.

They know they are fucked up, that their lives, men and relationships are fucked up. They want other women to endanger themselves, have dangerous sex, make themselves vulnerable to untrustworthy and predatory men-- just so they can feel better about themselves.

I can't stand sadistic pickmes like this. Stay in your own lane and stop trying to gaslight other women into rationalizing the same bullshit you rationalize. Lying to yourself is one thing, lying to other women is something else.

cloeed · 2020-06-21T12:26:57+00:00

For context, see original post below. Most other comments were warning OP that this was a huge red flag. NVMs see strangulation so much in porn that they are trying to normalize it as if it was common practice which therefore does not require their partner’s consent.

Original post: My new boyfriend choked me during sex, should i break up with him?

I know choking is something other people do and it's also in porn, but my boyfriend didn't ask me and now my throat hurts and it's a bit hard to breathe. I'm thinking of going to the doctor and worried it's damaged my health. He said he is deeply sorry and won't do it again. Should i give him a second chance or just end things? Other than that he's loving and wonderful. We're both mid 20s, i'm a girl

RadarFemef · 2020-06-21T18:52:52+00:00

This is top shelf pickme. “You didn’t say you didn’t like being choked” nope, no, that’s not how this works. Even the types who promote kink communities agree that you cannot take an action unless there is consent and permission FIRST. All normal people understand you can’t choke someone

silkypetal · 2020-06-21T20:04:10+00:00

Is she proud of her 26 upvotes from abusive men glad that their business model is still functional? You can be as shitty as you want to women and some of em will still rationalise your abusive behaviour!

SarcasmSlide · 2020-06-21T13:29:48+00:00

i DoN’t LiKe RoUgH cHoKiNg

Blacklea20 · 2020-06-21T13:26:27+00:00

Anyone spot the first discovered corpse of a potential serial killer in the room? Anyone?

The first body found isn’t always the first victim theoretically.

nosynobody · 2020-06-21T14:53:48+00:00

I was shocked at the whole comment chain. What toxic ass people

twohorizontallines · 2020-06-21T19:23:28+00:00

Another example of how porn encourages and plays a huge part in real life violence towards women.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-06-21T21:06:48+00:00

What's with the " y'alls?"

Christ. Anyway, they're so sickeningly compliant.

AyemHerself · 2020-06-21T23:36:03+00:00

It's not the same concept. You can't die from a dirty dish.

Also people like this make me hate the word "y'all" with a burning passion. When did it turn into a mating call for the performatively woke crowd?

Chancedizzle · 2020-06-21T15:30:23+00:00

Sad a girl has to say even if he saw it in porn for reasoning like damn!

Bovvsette · 2020-06-22T04:57:25+00:00

”Wow, you didn't explicitly say that you don't like being murdered so clearly this is on you!”

redbrickdoll · 2020-06-22T01:16:10+00:00

I won't do anything sexually that he won't allow me to do to him. I've had male friends say they should be able to put their peeter anywhere. My reply has always been, "You have that same body part, you wouldn't mind her getting an object of similar size to use on you for her satisfaction." They stare at my like I've just said the weirdest thing and a look of horror and disgust always crosses their faces. The hypocrisy.

reallyrunningnow · 2020-06-21T18:44:04+00:00

I mean likely he does feel bad and who knows if he's abusive or not. However the whole "trying choking/porn stuff" without discussing it beforehand shows that at best, he's a manchild with little consideration/sense of normalcy. Who wants to deal with that?

oasisreverie · 2020-07-18T16:30:48+00:00

Pickmes pollute our society and make the patriarchy worse.

I can't believe this little idiot is comparing sexual assault to doing chores. This world is dystopian.

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