We drag men on here a lot, for good reason. And I see so many posts every day across Reddit about how horribly men treat their SOs. I’d love to make a post about times — big AND small, because the everyday actions are arguably the most important — when a man treated you like the Queen you are, showed he cared deeply for you, showcased his high-value qualities, etc. I love celebrating stories of women in equitable and loving relationships.. because sadly, it’s rare.

I’ll start. I had my cousin and her fiancé over for dinner — my first time ever hosting, since it’s my first apartment. I got caught up in work, so I was running short on time. My boyfriend came over after work, helped me with the food shopping, and carried the bags home. I asked if he wouldn’t mind getting started on dinner while I walked my dog. (He was already on it.) Then my guests came early (ahh!), so I entertained them as my bf kept cooking. He didn’t let me help. He ended up making, serving, and cleaning up the entire meal — graciously, without drawing any attention to himself. When I thanked him profusely, he told me not to be silly and that he was happy I got extra time with my cousin. When we went to bed later that night, he held me tight and asked how he got so lucky.

I should note that he frequently cooks and cleans when he comes to my apartment. He knows I like to keep a very tidy space, and he makes an effort to help keep it clean to my standards.

His consistent high-value behavior makes being in a relationship effortless, fun, and warm. 🥰

Share your stories! (Bare minimum effort is not the look here!)

Edit: for everyone who isn’t flaired yet but is commenting - I’m loving seeing your examples (or at least the first few sentences of them) on my notifications screen 🥲