I’ve dated awful women and I’m Jaded

lighthouse888 · 2021-06-06T14:00:26+00:00

I’m openly biased in favor of the men in this stupid online gender war, but in this case this sounds like it’s squarely on you and you’re choosing godawful women. The fact that your ex got married in a trailer park makes it sound like you’re dating really trashy women. You need to be a better judge of character. It’s hard to avoid women who are duplicitous about their loyalty/promiscuity, but it shouldn’t be hard to avoid an “emotional black hole”. Someone like that, I’m gone in 60 seconds. I don’t do “psychos”.

superlurkage · 2021-06-06T13:50:03+00:00

Seems like your standards are too low

Indis96 · 2021-06-06T14:01:35+00:00

1st Girlfriend: Fucks a dude while I’m passed out a party. I forgive her. She does it again.

Your a loser. Well she see's you as one...

OMFG, you forgiving her, actually fuck it;

to all the retarded men that take back cheating girlfriends, you just gave a ticket stating that you are a man bitch, and 9/10, she will cheat AGAIN, because she knows your a fcking pussy and can get away with it.

The saying goes, ''once a cheater, always a cheater'' because Bluepilled dumbasses like yourself genuilely believe it wont happen again, she got caught thats all, why the FUCK would you take her back and live your life in anxiety wondering ''what if she cheats again''.

New flash, she probably is and hiding it better...

She doesnt respect you, she might love you, but sure as shit does NOT RESPECT YOU as a man... But the dude shes fucking, you bet she does...

2nd Girlfriend: Has a secret foreverboner for her ex. Fucks him on a “break.” I find out by walking in on his shit everywhere. They’re married in the trailer park. He works at a used book store.

Same point mentioned above... She still had a thing for her ex, you didnt fill in the holes that her ex did that made her attractive to him from the get go... He has traits that turned her on, that you clearly dont have.

Case closed.

3rd Girlfriend. Psycho. There’s no words for this woman. Abusive and used the law to try to essentially destroy my life. Babytrapping. All that awful shit you think is just in stories.

The law in Western Society favours woman for the most part, she lies and gets away with minimal punishment. Which is why no one wants to get fkcing married anymore knowing its a HUGE risk on the mans part...

Ladies. YOU ARE FUCKING AWFUL. Why is it SO FUCKING HARD to meet a “good woman”

Hmmm, judging by what you wrote, I think the women you dated was half-assed on your part.

You got played, again, and again, and again. You clearly are clueless as to why they cheated.

(They dont respect you, probably because you didnt ''play your cards right'' from the get go.)

Are some women just awful beings? yes just like some men are, but most of what you wrote could of easily been avoided if you were aware..

rickmackdaddy · 2021-06-06T14:02:31+00:00

You spelled “I cum in losers” wrong.

iamthemovie1992 · 2021-06-06T13:42:28+00:00

In the same way women keep going for the same dude, you may keep going for the same women. Change your standards, pivot your interests, and maybe vet way better. This might as well be an FDS post if you switched the genders, so much so I thought it was the Purge and just bad trolling

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2021-06-06T14:06:08+00:00

If you have one crazy woman in your life, the woman is the problem. If you have only crazy women in your life, crazy is drawn to you. Something's off here.

NarniaFox · 2021-06-06T13:48:19+00:00

If you constantly get negative results in dating, a general advice is to check on common factor in all your relationships - yourself, your preferences and standards. Chances are you go for awful women for whatever reason.

Pikabluee · 2021-06-06T13:56:17+00:00

Ah another case of a hurt man generalizing all women because of a few bad relationships? You’ve already labeled almost half the world’s population as horrible. That’s billions of people…

Maybe you have a bad taste in women or attract women with made personality and social traits. Take a look at how you go about dating first because having a positive mindset is the first thing.

I’m a woman and have had my share of “horrible” men. Dated a couple of them too. But yet still move on and hope for the best in the future like majority of people. Do I think all men are horrible and suck? No. We’ve all had our share of assholes, narcissists, etc. but not all of us whine about how the gender we’re attracted to being shitty and horrible as a whole.

There are great men out there as there are great women. You just need to be patient and find them.

Ask yourself where you are meeting these women. Online? At events? Through friends? How are you going about dating? Do you take her out? Do you move along with her too quickly? (Figure out what’s too quickly first) Do you fuck her immediately (what’s immediately)?

Also rule number one, never go back nor forgive a cheater. They will ALWAYS do it again.

Rule number two, if you sense a girl still has feelings for her ex- RUN. You’ll only be hurt. She’s not a reliable person to be with in a committed relationship.

I see so many people stay in relationships that are no good for them and then whine and mope about it online or to their friends about how X gender is terrible. It’s like listening to 4 different random songs on Spotify and dubbing all music on there as terrible. Does that actually even make sense?

You need to open yourself up to more genres of “music” and look in a variety of places.

UrFoodMolestedMyNose · 2021-06-06T13:42:37+00:00

I think you’re better off posting at asktrp.

_lemazaki · 2021-06-06T13:55:18+00:00

You let shit fly too high man. You have to trow it out from the start.
And change that fucking standards...

Hoopy223 · 2021-06-06T14:08:31+00:00

Thats all par for the course these days. Why do you think so many guys are commitment phobes or loners etc? You have to date a lot of em to find a halfway normal one.

If you want a loyal best friend get a dog lol.

beigesun · 2021-06-06T14:14:32+00:00

You know what they say... you meet one asshole today means you just met one asshole, but you meet one asshole everyday maybe you’re the asshole ehh?

shadowcandee · 2021-06-06T14:13:25+00:00

I’m sorry about all your experiences, no one deserves all that shit and to give love a chance that many times just to be fucked over and over again.. You’ve already done better than most, by not giving up after number 1, let alone 2, 3, etc. that takes strength and bravery.

Anyway, my life coach told me that she kept going for the same guy, different dick, (you could say you’ve done this too- same girl different pussy/ face/ whatever). She said she overcame it by raising her standards and not letting shit men back into her life. Like there is this buffet and you gana go eat from the floor in the corner with the pubes cause it’s (easier?- well, not in the long run). We’re not all awful, maybe just take a real good time to get to know the next one, become best friends before getting into anything serious, that way you can suss out how psycho they really are/aren’t. There’s nothing wrong with taking it slow so if you have to be best friends with someone before you become anything’s serious then, it’ll probably pay off in the long wrong. If you’ve already tried this and they still ended up fucked, then wow I’m sorry I’m completely useless.

angels-fan · 2021-06-06T14:19:36+00:00

Dude, stop committing!

Just fuck women as a FWB and if things go well, THEN you can think about LTRing her.

Why are you so quickly getting into relationships with these women?

lessabe · 2021-06-06T14:33:54+00:00

You attract what you are dude. Sounds like either your picker is off or you secretly enjoy the drama and you’re blaming women when you’re a huge pussy 🤷🏻‍♀️

AcieWorldly · 2021-06-06T13:47:16+00:00

Same could be said about men. Funny how this isn't even comparable to the horrors women face from their abusive male partners. Make a post whining about abusive women when they stream their male partner's cold naked dead body to their tens of thousands of viewers after locking him out of their apartment and letting him freeze in below freezing temperature

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Pastelitomaracucho · 2021-06-06T14:12:12+00:00

Sorry man. It's on you for having horrible veto capacity.

Pick your women carefully.

DicamVeritatem · 2021-06-06T14:13:50+00:00

Brace yourself for the stream of insults that you just chose poorly, you idiot you.

AWALT.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-06-06T14:15:38+00:00

1st Girlfriend: Fucks a dude while I’m passed out a party. I forgive her. She does it again.

Do you recognize where your mistake was? If you are in a monogamous relationship the monogamy part is the low bar in the entire equation. Violation of that is an automatic - get the fuck away from me and out of my life order. There is no giving second chances to someone who cheats on you. In economics we call this concept moral hazard, basically it's the idea that you fucked up and if there are no consequences then what's to stop you from fucking up again?

2nd Girlfriend: Has a secret foreverboner for her ex. Fucks him on a “break.” I find out by walking in on his shit everywhere. They’re married in the trailer park. He works at a used book store.

You dated what the red-pill community calls the alpha-widow. It's basically a woman who lost the man she was attracted to and had formed a bond with and basically every man who comes after can never measure up because she still burns the torch for him. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't marry this broad.

3rd Girlfriend. Psycho. There’s no words for this woman. Abusive and used the law to try to essentially destroy my life. Babytrapping. All that awful shit you think is just in stories.

You never and I mean never stick your dick in crazy. The moment you get a tingle that she is off her rocker you end it. Believe me all the "awesome sex" in the world isn't worth the aggravation.

4th Girlfriend. Emotional black hole. Needs someone to be her therapist. I put up boundaries. Bye bye relationship.

As with #3 same with #4.

My suggestion is that you stop dating for a good long while. A few years maybe 5. Go see a therapist and work through the issues of your own life. Then figure out what your boundaries are, what exactly are you dating for - is it for a wife, gf or someone to get your dick wet - depending on the answer it needs to drive what women to go after. Lastly, spend time cultivating good habits, eat right and work on yourself, your hobbies and the things that interest you - remember for a man it never pays to put pussy above everything.

looozooop · 2021-06-06T14:23:35+00:00

You’re experience is no different than what some women experience - bad relationships are everywhere.

A pattern of toxic relationships could be an indication that you may have some things to work on yourself. This is no different than women who date assholes and scream “men are trash”. Instead of saying “women are awful” look at why you entered & stayed with those people in the first place.

pizzaorburrito · 2021-06-06T14:27:03+00:00

Dude, if you keep getting similar results it’s because YOURE the problem. Set some boundaries and find better women.

xXx_FireHydrants_xXx · 2021-06-06T14:29:25+00:00

The amount of women that are gonna complain about you generalizing yet wont say a fucking thing about women who say shit like "where have all the good men gone?", because they get pumped and dumped by a few guys and are single mothers lmfao.

Chaddamhusein · 2021-06-06T14:35:37+00:00

"Good women" dont exist

Kitchen_Apartment · 2021-06-06T14:35:47+00:00

Sorry you've had experience with all these women. Sounds terrible and in my personal life, I don't know any women like that. When things become a clear pattern, we have to ask ourselves what are we doing that attracts relationships like this?

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-06-06T14:47:55+00:00

Just realize that those people are those people and do not represent the entire population. The most you can do is screen better and not jump into relationships with people based on initial impressions. You don't really get to know someone until you've spent a considerable amount of time with them, so you should spend your time getting to know someone before deciding to get into a relationship with them. If they're wanting to move fast, don't be afraid to pass them up. Keep them around and see if they show reasons for why you were right to pass them up.

Grand_Duty · 2021-06-06T14:51:41+00:00

You have to start looking before you are 25! Most women that aren't annoying feminists' who complain about mansplaining and da evil white patriarchy will come from good families (most of the time).

Also stay away from "conservative' in name only girls. They aren't really conservative, they just like labels, but don't really believe in what they say. (Essentially women like Ainsley Earhardt, Tomi Lahren)

If you live in liberal cities (Los Angeles, Toronto, London, Canberra, Seattle, New York City, Austin, Portland, Melbourne, Montreal, Paris, Washington, Sydney, Vancouver, etc) like a lot of people do, then live outside them.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-06-06T14:53:25+00:00

That sounds like a you problem, not a woman problem. Taking your girlfriend back after she already cheated once is you not setting and enforcing proper boundaries. Everybody gets hurt in the dating game, some more than once. It doesn’t mean all women are out to get you and hurt you, any more than it means all men are going to cheat on their lady friends.

GridReXX · 2021-06-06T14:55:39+00:00

Inappropriate OP.

avergo · 2021-06-06T17:16:31+00:00

It’s all your fault OP, you should have consulted with the magic tarot cards and read their mind before dating anyone.

No. I don’t blame OP. He’s probably a normal person, and normal people tend to assume everyone else is pretty normal. So he was manipulated in taking back a cheating girlfriend. If he wasn’t easily manipulated, that means he wasn’t truly in love.

It’s not OP’s fault at all. The blame is placed squarely on those 3 girls. Contrary to popular belief, people don’t walk around with a sign on them that says “I’m going to cheat on you”.

Title	I’ve dated awful women and I’m Jaded
Author	SychoNot
Upvotes	0
Comments	115
Date	June 6, 2021 1:35 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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