Most men talk about the wrong topics

Sketchy-Turtle · 2026-03-06T20:41:42+00:00

I'm going on a date today and I'll try this, but I can't imagine talking to someone about relationships, dating, and sex for an hour.

This will be an interesting test.

EDIT: We hung out for 5 hours. The relationship, dating, and sex topics felt awkward to bring up towards the beginning of the date. I ended up keeping it generic until the last 40 minutes or so where we talked about past relationships, love language, what we're looking for, and the fact she doesn't fuck on the first date.

I don't think I would have brought this up without OPs post, so that's appreciated. She wants a second date and we're setting it up now. I feel like OPs topics helped clear up what we both want.

ValoNoctis · 2026-03-06T20:57:26+00:00

I don't think this advice is good. Women like men who are passionate and can make them feel. You could have the most boring hobby in the world, but if you know how to talk about it you will grab interest

ElZany · 2026-03-06T20:49:53+00:00

Any time ive asked a girl what her ideal guy is they always say they dont know or dont have a preference.

ProfessionalGoat551 · 2026-03-06T22:37:16+00:00

Just talk to her the way you would talk to friend but add a romantic spin to the interaction..

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-03-06T23:25:52+00:00

Can attest to this. Usually talk about dating/sex on dates and most women seem to be quite enamored by it for whatever reason.

ghrinz · 2026-03-06T21:48:11+00:00

This guy dates!

killermatt33 · 2026-03-06T21:23:09+00:00

Maybe maybe by the type of girl. Most girls these days don't like being "compared." I think it works for one-night stands, but definitely with someone who requires more patience, this is a very bad advice.

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-03-07T01:33:58+00:00

It doesnt matter what you talk about it matters how you make her feel

Jack26918 · 2026-03-07T02:27:12+00:00

There's some value here, but it smells of inauthenticity and an agenda. If SHE doesn't mind that, fine. But otherwise....

coochie4sale · 2026-03-07T04:34:21+00:00

I think the difference is that these topics will naturally come up with other party as they start to see you as a viable option. I went on a 3rd date with a beautiful woman recently and I don't think "dating" as a topic came up on the first date until she asked me what I was looking for. Instead we mostly talked about our upbringing and it worked out.

On the first date, I'm looking mostly to see if they're an interesting enough hang (because I mostly date for long-term). I realized all the seductive talk didn't really matter because the ones that went the distance were the ones who were physically attracted to me, and the women had mostly made up their minds by the time they took their glances at me. There have been dates where I've done no flirting whatsoever and they still ended up with my cock in their mouth at the end of the night. Some where I put up a masterclass and got an awkward side-hug. So it goes.

woke_groyper · 2026-03-20T22:08:25+00:00

This clicked something in my head. I realized that not only would the woman and I not discuss these subjects on the first date, but sometimes we wouldn't discuss it at all for multiple dates, for weeks, or maybe months. Avoidance becomes easier the longer you go without talking about the important things, even as it all feels increasingly wrong.

Then in hindsight it's inevitable that it wouldn't work out. Well, shit.

Ksha3yaNK · 2026-03-07T03:13:58+00:00

Trash Post! this is by some amateur who went on a date with another horny desperate chic! thats all!

CibrecaNA · 2026-03-06T20:37:31+00:00

Great advice!

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2026-03-07T05:40:53+00:00

If their nkt interested in my topics, why would I be interested in theirs?

OkPosition20 · 2026-03-07T08:56:49+00:00

This is good advice, but these are topics for the second half of the date, if it’s going ok, I think someone already mentioned going through the gears.

intenTenacity · 2026-03-07T09:58:31+00:00

But what do you talk about if you have just matched with a girl?

LogicalChart3205 · 2026-03-07T10:14:27+00:00

capture her emotions, whatever way you can.

Traditional_Power_84 · 2026-03-07T10:37:39+00:00

i genuinely think that if you want to pursue a girl, dont get into the friendship phase just lay open your intentions and let her also take do the same

JOKERPOKER112 · 2026-03-07T23:10:20+00:00

What, with guys you talk about dating sex and relationship not about holidays and trends. Who the fuck talks about Exes on dates.

LightYagamiComplex · 2026-03-08T09:01:55+00:00

It's not about what you talk it's about how you talk. I love movies, psychology and I'm very active about global economic and socio-economic development. I only talk about these things because I am passionate about and my eyes glitter when I talk about it and girls usually love the passion I have. For the girls who don't fuck with these things? I really don't wanna be with them.

kamelback · 2026-03-07T07:33:14+00:00

Like go on dates and talk about all of my previous disaster dates? Or my ex’s? This sounds like sabotage…

AVGVSTVS_OPTIMVS · 2026-03-07T08:01:17+00:00

Dont talk about exes period. Youre there to learj about eachother, not make comparisons. Plus its disrespectful.

Title	Most men talk about the wrong topics
Author	norwegiandoggo
Upvotes	337
Comments	42
Date	March 6, 2026 8:33 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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