Okay, this is basic but, as usual, I like to assume that 90% of the people here is kinda starting from scratch. Here's a little tip I've discovered to maintain solid eye contact and making your mind believe it's not awkward:

You are looking at her eyes to learn the color of her iris. Keep a count of blue, green, gold, gray and brown eyes as you walk down the street. DO IT. REMEMBER THEIR EYE COLOR.

This trick implies three known good practices:

  • You look in her eye for more than miliseconds (in order to know the exact eye color). At least 1-2 seconds
  • You look at her, not only gaze in her direction. You really need to focus in her eyes
  • You lose the awkwardness because you're doing it for a purpose, not for the sake of being aggressive. I can bet you're not looking at people in the eye because of a lack of inner game. By establishing a purpose, your mind is more relaxed.

Practice this with girls walking down the street. Some will drop their gaze, others will return your look (more below) and some will even slightly smile. Then you decide if you want to open them or are just practicing eye contact. You actually have a great opener: they have [a nice eye color | eyes like some friend of yours | some strange eye color which caught your attention]. In one of my first days one girl actually gave me the "fuck me" look back, which kind of caught me off guard and I froze out. Damn. Yes, the kind of looks you would get at a club at 5am if you're gaming right. But it made my day anyway.

Regarding returned looks; if you do it properly you will be able to feel that girls look back at you in a more interesting manner (like: hmmm, is this guy checking me out? is he interesting?) rather than the usual "oh no this guy is staring at me". If you don't notice this, try to really focus in her eye color and slightly close your eyelids to make yourself more interesting and focused. Practice in front of a mirror.

Do this for a month and your inner game will strengthen. I've now discovered myself looking in the eye at everybody, not just girls, and people really notice it and appreciate it. Looking in the eye is a sign of respect and power.

Comments are welcome!