Hey guys,

Somebody posted a link to a body language book yesterday. It was pretty big and therefore hard to manage, but it caught my interest. As I was going through, I took notes. I thought you guys might be interested, so here it is.

I've mostly kept them in order of appearance, but I stripped out a couple of the key sections and put them in this post. I'll put the rest in another post in this thread.

-The attraction process typically has five steps:

--1. The woman makes eye contact for a few seconds, then turns her head. The man checks back for more looks. Usually she has to look at him three times for him to realize what the fuck is happening.

--2. The woman gives a quick smile, which is a green-light. Many men fuck it up here.

--3. The woman begins preening, revealing her neck, playing with her hair, or sitting up to emphasize her tits. She might also lick her lips or straighten her clothes. The man usually responds by expanding his chest, sucking in his gut, and straightening his clothes. Both are pointed toward each other.

--4. The man approaches her to talk, usually with something canned or easy.

--5. The woman will initiate some light touch on the arm or hands; repeating the same touches shows that she's comfortable with how things are. Hand touches are more personal than arm touches. Brushing or touching the shoulder shows that she cares about his health or appearance.

-Women commonly use 13 gestures during courtship:

--1. The head toss and hair flick shows interest and that she cares about her appearance around you.

--2. If her lips are wet and pouting, it's a sexual invitation meant to mimic her genitals (blood swells in the lips, breasts, and genitals when aroused, which is also why red lipstick became popular).

--3. If a woman slowly and sensually touches her neck, thigh, or throat, it means that if a man plays his cards, he could touch her in the same way. She's effectively imagining him touching her there.

--4. Allowing her wrist to go limp shows submission, which is of course hot to dominant men.

--5. Fondling a cylindrical object lets you know what's on her mind.

--6. Women will expose their wrists more as interest grows, as the wrist is considered one of their more erogenous zones.

--7. A sideways glance over her shoulder lets her feel like she's peeping, while also making her shoulder mimic the appearance of her tits.

--8. Rolling of the hips is something that only women can do, making it an effective tool for looking sexy.

--9. The pelvic tilt makes her hips look bigger, which is an obvious plus (waist-to-hips ratio is most optimum at 70% btw). It highlights her ability to bear children, which we find hawt.

--10. If a woman puts her handbag close to you, it shows that she's comfortable with you since it holds the majority of their livelihood. She may fondle her purse if she's particularly attracted.

--11. If she tucks one leg under the other, the direction her untucked knee is pointing in is the direction of who's most interesting.

--12. Dangling the shoe on the end of the foot shows relaxation while implying fucking via repetitive thrusting movements.

--13. Placing one leg over the other so that they're parallel signifies that she's ready to screw. Women will also cross and uncross their legs slowly, occasionally stroking her thigh with her hand, to indict a desire to be touched.

-People lean against things (or other people) to show ownership or a terroritorial cliam.

-As a general rule, the higher someone is socio-economically, the less gestures they use.

-Less movement shows confidence, especially while under pressure -- it's how to "keep your cool." Jim Carry displays the opposite effect.

-The six secrets of attractive body language

--1. Have an animated face and a smile; be sure to flash your teeth.

--2. Be expressive with your gestures but don't overdo it. Keep your fingers crossed and below your chin, and avoid arm or feet crossing.

--3. Use triple nods when talking and a head tilt when listening. Keep your chin up.

--4. Give the amount of eye contact that makes everyone feel comfortable. Lean forward when listening, stand straight when speaking.

--5. Stand as close as you feel comfortable. If the other person moves back, don't step forward again.

--6. Subtly mirror the body language of others.