Got a 2nd job and almost entire check has been garnished.

Classic_Dill · 2021-12-10T14:33:05+00:00

Get a hold of the friend of the court and show them you have nothing left after you pay child support, sounds like you need a readjustment.

25_years · 2021-12-10T16:07:00+00:00

It's never the Child Support offices' fault.
It's never the Employer's fault.
But I still the up holding the bag.
Why is that I'm the only person ever held accountable for anything?

Damn, brother. Sorry it's all happening. As the saying goes, no good deed goes unpunished. Just this morning, I was ranting over on some other thread about how the child support agencies are just plain bad at their job. But it seems to be by design, with a motive. If they were truly just sloppy and careless, errors would sometimes benefit you, and sometimes benefit them.

But the errors never benefit you.

And you're right, there's no accountability. Legit complaints go ignored. I'll give one example (out of many) from my situation: I'll get a demand letter from my child support agency. The date on the letter is X, and it says I have 10 days to reply. But they didn't actually mail it until nine or 10 days AFTER X, so there's no possible way it could reach me in time. Then, they can tell the judge I'm not cooperating. I complain, showing the letter and the postmark. But no one cares. They still do it.

Brother, I sympathize. There's a reason some men kill themselves over this shit. Every man has a boiling point.

chakamaki · 2021-12-10T14:41:48+00:00

Because we are men and society/women and government see us an ATM and free slaves..

Once you marry you become slaves of women and government for life

kapriece · 2021-12-10T18:26:24+00:00

I can't tell you why but I may have a solution:

KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT TO EVERYBODY AROUND YOU.

You can drive delivery services for extra money. You become a 1099 worker/contractor. In most states it's not tracked if ever through dept of labor for the state. Meaning what you make is yours. In my state all income is reported through the labor Dept so if you get a second job your support goes up but the law only allows them to garnish up to 50%. It can help or hurt depending on how much you work. I've seen guys get negative checks in other states.

I'm not suggesting you do this :

If you're in one of the states that goes by taxes, don't report your 1099s. I'm of the mind to ask for forgiveness than permission. We're all trying to get by. I pay 1300 or roughly $277 per week since we get paid weekly on my main job. I drive to overcome that and keep my mouth shut about it. My ex thinks I'm struggling and I play the part.

Depending on where you are you can make $300 in less than a week. On a good night like Friday's, Saturday, and Sundays you can make an easy $150 that goes right in your pocket minus gas. I may spend $20 on gas before starting and make $150 in 6 hours. I hope this helps going forward. I'm sorry things worked out that way. I've been layed off since October and unemployment still hasn't paid me. I'm running behind on CS for the moment. I'm a union worker no.23 on list for out of work books. I can't go out and get a second job. Remember it could be worse.

eked-1213 · 2021-12-10T17:41:36+00:00

Sorry for your situation op. I had a friend who went through a divorce. His wife got everything plus full custody of their kid with him getting two weekends per month. Wife got the house and everything in it, plus a child support and alimony order. He rented a cheap apartment and with careful budgeting, he was able to live. But his living conditions were very sparse-in that, he was able to buy a basic, single mattress bed. The only other thing he had in his apartment was a plastic patio chair in his living room and a single speaker radio with a cassette player. He would literally just sit on his plastic chair and listen to a few cassettes he managed to find at yard sales and flea markets and thrift stores. But at least he had a roof over his head. He had a full time day job. He decided to get a part time job working nights and weekends. For a few months, it was great. He as able to buy a sofa and a real chair, some lamps, dishes, a microwave, etc. Then his ex learned of his new job and took him back to court. Her thought was, he makes more money now, so he should pay more in alimony and child support. The judge agreed. By the time the court finished with him, he could no longer afford rent on his apartment. He had to move out and move into his car. He lost everything from his apartment. He was literally living in his car and working two jobs. Some time passed, and his ex wife decided she needed even more money because he got a raise at his day job. Once again, the judge agreed. This time, he wasn’t left with enough to even make his car payment. So his car got repossessed. He bounced back eventually as he had a friend who let him move in and pay no rent. But he had a really tough time.

texasaaron · 2021-12-10T15:56:55+00:00

I knew you were in TX just from reading your story. So sorry man. I had many of the same problems regarding child support. I don't have an easy solution.

Ridethelightning1987 · 2021-12-10T19:04:15+00:00

This story is why me and a lot of other men aren’t getting married or wanting kids. Putting up with this bull shit just to further the blood line isn’t appealing anymore when everything is against a man. You don’t even have to be the one to mess up the marriage to get totally screwed and become homeless, broke, and broken inside. I’ll take hook ups over that any day.

Creative-Drop1816 · 2021-12-10T16:41:35+00:00

No worries, Rant away. That's what we are here for.

You are lucky compared to some. I only get about $1200 a month to take home and that is before housing and car and insurance etc. I can barley afford to feed my kid without going into debt.

For some reason society recently has taken a turn and decided to shit on men for all of its problems and heaven forbid if you are a white man.

Sidenote: kids school has been cramming white privilege down his throat. Anybody else furious about this? Since when is telling someone they are disadvantaged because of the color of the skin not okay, but telling someone they have a leg up on everyone else because of the color of their skin not racist? Sorry Rant over

What society neglects to mention is that the world was built on men's backs. From the sweat off our brow and the blisters on our hands. Our court systems are still run as if we are in the dark ages and women are helpless.

Men are resourceful and powerful and will not break no matter how unbearable the crushing weight may be and that is why things have changed so slowly for us. We have built an accepting society and eradicated the isms and for all our efforts it is still our responsibility to carry the dead weight of everyone else while they find the next thing to complain about why life is more unfair for them.

All we can do is try and make sure our children get everything they need to be successful. I for one am going to make sure my son realizes that he is bound to no one or no thing. I am going to encourage him to find someone and not to worry about marriage. Someone who truly loves you does not need the government to enforce it. Real love is choosing to stay together because you both want to be there. If it feels like a job and you are stressed out about whether or not you want to be living together tomorrow then it is time to move on.

I personally think that we are going to see a huge uptick in non government recognized marriages. Ceremony, celebration, and a promise. No government, no contract, no mess.

Thanks for letting me vent too. So therapeutic.

Good luck my brother's and stay strong

BlendedChaos2012 · 2021-12-10T17:26:21+00:00

Careful the ex doesn’t find out about this second job. She may ask for an increase in CS because you’re making more $$.

InAJam_SoS · 2021-12-10T20:35:22+00:00

In case anyone is wondering the "why" of all of this, here is a 9 minute and 42 second explanation: Child Support: The Why

"best interest of the child" is a sham the family court system hides behind to extort. Share with everyone you know. Share with grandmothers of sons, sons, mothers of sons. There needs to be sunlight shining in on the corrupt judges, clerks, and attorneys (even the father's attorneys). Until enough people realize what's happening and tell everyone else who doesn't know, we'll all stand in this neck-deep, or be in jail. Share these facts and contact your local, state and federal representative. Support and share the need for children to be with BOTH parents the maximum equal amount of time. Join groups, be active, participate - be vocal! Ask everyone why the judges in family court of no starting point mandate to provide EQUAL SHARED PARENTING to both parents. It happens to mother too, but nowhere near as often. Good luck and please stay transparent by letting everyone know what the court system has done and is doing to you. Stay positive and know it's the entrenched system that allows this to be done to our nation's parents.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-12-10T22:51:40+00:00

Society insists on punishing hard-working men, because men can be held accountable. Women cannot be held accountable for their endless mistakes, rather, they're incentivized through child support (which in reality is "Mommy support"), alimony, and government child credit benefits.

Unfortunately, many men don't see this until divorce rape happens to them and it's too late. Including myself.

I am not sure what made you think getting a second job was a good idea? You should be looking for CASH jobs. Forget about building your credit. Focus on getting cash so you have a nest egg.

2021-12-10T18:21:52+00:00

The situation you are in is the exact reason men say to never have kids.

Who cares about having a "legacy".

I don't care about passing on my DNA at all.

HerbEverstanks · 2021-12-10T21:54:14+00:00

4100 a month no kids . Before the judgement was made, it was 5200 a month. That left me with 19% after taxes 401k and a 401k loan I had to take out to pay her lawyer.

BelowTheLawToday · 2021-12-10T18:26:29+00:00

Could you find a second job that is under the table?

Rock_Granite · 2021-12-11T01:38:31+00:00

This is why I tell my sons to never ever get married

rsmiley77 · 2021-12-11T12:48:35+00:00

The thing I see that could potentially change is your health insurance. Your kids should be entitled to some type of free health care program through the state. I’d be working on getting that off of your bill. Especially since you don’t have them 50 percent of the time. You could still even pay any extra but the moms should have them insured. Please look into it.

Flesh_Pillow5 · 2022-06-29T18:02:28+00:00

Immoral what they’re doing to American men. Immoral

jgoodstein · 2021-12-10T14:57:40+00:00

what state do you live in? In FL you can't exceed 55% of total income (plus child support up to 65%) per check.

georeddit2018 · 2021-12-14T18:48:00+00:00

Am sorry for the troubles you going through.q My family is still pushing me to get married and tells me not to be scared of divorce rape.

No one in my family or friends talk about this divorce problems. They keep saying it won't be a problem if I marry a good woman.

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bslichy · 2021-12-10T19:35:12+00:00

Per Texas law, you aren’t supposed to be able to have more than 20% of gross pay deducted for child support. I am not certain if that is for only 1 kid or multiple…

Title	Got a 2nd job and almost entire check has been garnished.
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Date	December 10, 2021 2:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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