Went over to my BFFs last night, and she invited her younger sister over (who's basically like my little sister too since we're so close).
Now, I don't get many opportunities to flex my FDS muscles as I'm not actively dating at the moment (still leveling up!), but last night I was able to help out little sis with some scrote she met.
She started telling us about him and I immediately saw red flags. He was love bombing her - saying he loves her after only two weeks, texts her all the time, says very sweet nothings to her. He's a Mr. Sensitive type, sob stories and sad poetry.
Bestie and I immediately jumped up and told her he's lovebombimg and to keep him in check about it.
The more the night went on though, so many more red flags. We even learned he had catfished her weight-wise and was much heavier than his pictures implied! And tried to make it a sob story when he acknowledged the weight difference ("I just really struggle with my weight 😩")
Anyway, we were talking to Little Sister more about how she needs to tell him to slow things down because she was starting to get really freaked out the more she was telling us about him. She sent him a message about taking things down a notch, and I told her how he responds to that message will tell you everything you need to know about him.
Sure enough, his mask fell right off and he started freaking out in response. He ended the paragraph with: "I just wanted to make you smile and love you like no one else".
I read that response and told her to BLOCK AND DELETE, which she did 👑
Then around midnight, she left her phone with us while she went to the bathroom and he called her from a different number. When we blocked that one, he KEPT CALLING FROM DIFFERENT NUMBERS!! He called 5 or 6 times...AT MIDNIGHT!!!
I immediately took her phone, went to her browser and typed in this subreddit link and clicked on the handbook and told her to read it. Also have her following on IG.
I'm so thankful for this community that works so hard to keep women safe from these dangerous men. I can just imagine how much this scrote would have worn Little Sister down and down over time and dulled her beautiful shine if we hadn't helped her see through the bullshit!
I'm also thankful my bestie has these similar FDS ideals (she's not familiar with the subreddit), and I'm happy I was there to back her up with what I've learned from FDS as well to help Little Sister so she could really see that his behavior wasn't ok.
We have these rules in place for a reason....and they really work!!!
Stay safe, Queens! 👑❤️
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