Firstly I understand other men desire relationships with women. I also know this way of thinking named in the title may have been influenced by the redpill movement and could be flawed. I also see that this way of thinking may be taking the easy way out or influenced by superficial desires. Also I feel like family and children are a big reason for why long term relationships happen for men and women. I myself never want to have any children so this gives relationships an even lesser appeal to me. This post is about myself and my desire for casual sex with women over long term relationships.

I would love to have regular sex and intimacy with women. I dislike the idea of being committed to a woman. I would much rather be handsome and be in a fwb position with a woman. In a relationship I would feel like my freedom is restricted and that I would be encouraged to work and provide for my girlfriend. I have almost been in a relationship before but I ditched her when she never offered to pay for herself on our 4 dates, said that I was too skinny for her and needed to gain muscles, said that she hated the fact I didnt want to change my minimum wage job, and that if I wanted to date her she wanted me to be progressing towards earning 100k a year. I felt like she only wanted to date me for my money and not for my looks. I really did like the woman but I didn’t want to change for her. I would much preferred to of been her friend and have hookups with her. It would feel more validating to me too because getting casual sex is difficult as a woman has lots of men and the fact I would be chosen would show I am amazing. Whereas being the relationship guy would show myself that I am doing something right but am I just desirable because of my wallet or personality (maybe I am there as her kind and good man).

I know this woman doesn’t apply to all women and there are women out there who want relationships where they pay their own way and are happy if their boyfriend works at McDonalds. I myself wouldnt mind a relationship if my girlfriend worked at McDonalds and paid her own way on dates. However it does seem a large majority of women get annoyed if their boyfriends don’t pay for them at times. I can understand where this is coming from as these women know that around the corner is a guy willing to provide so why be with a dude who isn’t providing. Also it is normalised for men to be providers.

I understand its a transactional way to look at relationships and I believe if true love is involved then the women would be fine with going halves on dates. Also if children are in the picture then yes the man should be doing more providing while the woman cannot work.

Time and time again I see men in relationships are spending lots of money on their girlfriends and wives. Both my grandads did. My father didn’t but I would say he was a casual sex guy and accidentally got my mother pregnant with me. It can definitely get complicated if the casual sex guy ends up making a woman pregnant. But I would gladly take a vasectomy if it meant I could be a casual sex guy. The reason I haven’t is because I cannot get laid and am highly doubtful I will have any sex before 2025 if at all.

I also feel like I will get told I am using women for their bodies as a casual sex guy. My defence to this is that as the casual sex guy, some women will be happy to have sex as long as it is consensual. I would need to find those women. Also some women sometimes actively pursue just casual sex with a guy so if men having causal sex with women is using them for their bodies, my argument would be why are there women out there who want casual sex. I do understand that if a guy tells a woman he wants a long term relationship and then pumps and dumps that is using her. But as a casual sex guy, you would tell women your intentions are just sex.

As a casual sex guy I would have no desire to bust my ass of at a job, gym and level up my education so I can impress and provide for a woman. Instead I would be able to coast around in life and work at McDonalds and bang chicks. Ofc I could earn money so I can travel and have more freedom but even still Id be glad all that money was being spent on myself. As a casual sex guy I could run a 7 figure business but tell women I work at McDonalds and still get laid. Whereas as an unattractive guy I would have to bust my ass off working to get a relationship or casual fwbs with sugar babies (very expensive).

Im not saying there aren’t benefits to a relationship as there sure are. But a good relationship between two good people that is based on love and not transactions seems hard to find. It would be much better for me to just be hooking up.

Linking back on track, the point I am making here is being the casual sex guy usually means you just hang out and fuck. You dont spend any money and the woman finds you more attractive as women have higher looks standards for casual sex than they do relationships because casual sex is about sexual performance and looks whereas for relationships other factors are at play like is he a good man? and are the feelings reciprocated?

This doesn’t mean I want to sleep with loads of women. I would be happy to have regular casual sex with a woman till one of us gets bored. One night stands aren’t as desirable for me as regular hookup sex with one woman. I would be happy being one womans hookup guy once a week for a few months to a year and maybe rekindling the arrangement with time.

Now for me to get casual sex I wouldn’t need to rely on any pill. I would be myself, respectful and attractive (I believe this is important and very helpful in attracting women for casual sex).

I am interested in your thoughts and learning the flaws in this view.