I think I might hate men despite being biologically attracted to them.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-11-12T12:53:08+00:00

Removed for low effort

saraimarsena · 2022-11-12T04:01:26+00:00

all men are not the same. anyone who finds themselves falling into the trap of AWALT or AMALT needs to seriously evaluate why they’re picking the same type of low quality partners. the human race is way too diverse for such boxed in thinking.

Bandit174 · 2022-11-12T04:03:32+00:00

Ugh I feel exactly the same about women 😩

lemme know if u wanna hate-fuck some time

Upstairs-Rip-604 · 2022-11-12T04:25:44+00:00

There are great men out there. It seems like you haven’t met any of them.

Fun_Push7168 · 2022-11-12T04:18:47+00:00

Expunged?

You aren't very detailed but I'll say this. We tend to only really understand when someone does something for us in the way that we would do it for them. It's a common misunderstanding.

My partner may support my hobby by idk prominently displaying something I made or putting a bunch of pics up on social media of something I did.

While would support hers by participating or buying something to help her.

The pattern ends up being viewed over time like this;

He's not even proud of anything i do , I don't think he respects it, maybe he's embarrassed, maybe he doesn't think I'm that good he just buys something every now and then because he thinks it'll help keep me busy.

She never wants to do anything with me, I invite her to help and participate in any way I can think of and she's just not interested at all.

You can apply that to many of the things you said. Often the way it's shown back aren't recognized because it isn't how you would do it.

Alternatively, what is given simply isn't valued by you the way he values what he is giving. He thinks he's doing a great job at giving you things you want because he thinks those things are valuable.

Opposite is also true. For instance arm candy is a first on your list, for the vast majority of men this is way low on the list unless you're out in ridiculous territory on one end of the scale or another like you're so ugly he thinks people will think.less of him or you're so crazy hot he's just super proud. Otherwise for most this is meh, pretty valueless.

Your whole list is backwards, excludes things men tend to like more, and includes things most men wouldn't even have on a hot take list of wants and wouldn't get into until that list expanded to a larger number of traits.

Fat_Papaya · 2022-11-12T03:54:00+00:00

Can you provide more information?

Same-Elevator566 · 2022-11-12T04:05:47+00:00

You are obviously choosing a very particular type of man because its what you are attracted to. Stop blaming men for your poor ability to select a compatible partner.

Slipthe · 2022-11-12T04:20:17+00:00

You might have a very flawed system of vetting for men. If you are vetting at all.

New-Context831 · 2022-11-12T04:23:09+00:00

Sounds like red pill rage, you've been lied to about what men where supposed to be

-Starship · 2022-11-12T04:28:51+00:00

I think you need to recognize when you're falling into a cycle of toxic ideas. Red pill men do the same thing: they have some bad experiences with women, start to think all women are like that, get validated online, and then create a misogynistic ideology.

Vegetable_Ad2008 · 2022-11-12T06:01:58+00:00

I feel the exact same way lmao

I hate women despite being attracted to them

all these women are whiny, entitled, and so goddamn emotional, everything is so emotionally driven all the time. They take no accountability or responsibility as they can justify everything off of how they feel in a given moment

and whats worse is all the bullshit and drama they constantly bring, they are so addicted to drama and chaos that if you give them a calm stable relationship they get bored and cheat on you

Think_History_5682 · 2022-11-12T04:52:33+00:00

Where are you getting that data?

All I want is a girl that has her Weight under control as in hwp smaller than me

And her head isn't shaped like a potato

I don't care about anything else... I can't, it's already asking too much! 😄 Seriously, it is.

SnowBorn6339 · 2022-11-12T10:10:20+00:00

Girl I know how you feel. It’s hard not to feel that way sometimes.

I have a different reason though. I’m actually kind of terrified of men. I live in a city so I experience a ton of psychos. I’ve been stalked, harassed, followed home, grabbed, domestically abused, sexually abused…a man once tried to abduct me…a man threw FUCKING CHEMICALS on me and burnt my arm at a bar…I even caught one man masturbating while looking into my windows not once, but twice!! Not to mention all the unsolicited dick pics, cat calling, the way some of them stare at me like a sex toy… Then in relationships I’ve been lied to, manipulated, cheated on… It’s very hard for me not to have a negative outlook on men. Sometimes I just want to ship them all away to an island.

But I have to remind myself that this world would be an unimaginably dark, vile place if not for all the great men. I’m blessed to have a father, brother, uncles, grandfather, and male friends who make me feel safe, respected, and valued. I love good men. I just wish more of them were good.

CimZim · 2022-11-12T10:47:46+00:00

Becoming a misandrist is just as dumb as becoming a misogynist. AMALT and AWALT don't actually exist, because people are individuals, not mindless herds.

I get that dating is frustrating but remember that many men are not as you describe, and would happily be equal partners.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-11-12T04:19:03+00:00

Hating men while being attracted to them?

A wild feminist appears!!!

Just get with the ones you hate the least or maybe try women

globeaute · 2022-11-12T08:46:50+00:00

Amen! I was literally just thinking about how much I despise them. How filthy and disgusting they are. I love their physical bodies but hate them. That’s why I don’t want one to touch me again.

WeebyBearhino · 2022-11-12T04:57:34+00:00

Men want arm candy, a boost in social status, comfort, nurture, stability, career success, and excitement from their female partner ALL THE TIME, yet they can only mirror 2-3 of those attributes less than 2% within the relationship’s lifetime.

You can find out a man's social status, looks ("arm candy"), and career success long before starting to seriously date them. You can find out whether they provide the remaining things in your list before starting a serious relationship. Why do you constantly date men that obviously do not satisfy your needs?

bison5595 · 2022-11-12T11:26:48+00:00

Go date women.

hate_redditors · 2022-11-12T09:30:24+00:00

Men want arm candy > someone we're attracted to is nice
a boost in social status > only insofar as "smart and nice" is a boost
comfort, nurture, stability > who doesn't want someone kind and loyal
career success > most men don't care
and excitement > no, you want this

If men can only exhibit this 2% of the time you're dating exclusively sociopaths. You're either exaggerating or picking the wrong dudes. Maybe try dating older or consider you could be the problem.

EBZ1722 · 2022-11-12T10:38:49+00:00

Sounds like you're really skillful at picking male partners, no introspection needed here whatsoever you go girl!!

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JDWhiz96 · 2022-11-12T12:43:08+00:00

She says this but I guarantee you her orbiters are completely invisible.

Title	I think I might hate men despite being biologically attracted to them.
Author	LastDayofAugust
Upvotes	0
Comments	33
Date	November 12, 2022 3:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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