Reddit is a terrible place. A 17 yr old girl is called insecure cause she doesn't like that her bf is watching porn

Chemical-Complaint-8 · 2021-03-19T14:22:15+00:00

Reddit is the last place on earth where you should ask for advice concerning porn. At this stage it’s literally considered a porn site thanks to all the NSFW subs.

SakuraGirl88 · 2021-03-19T15:03:46+00:00

She's 17. She's still a kid. Why is this such a normal thing? This needs to be the least of a 17 year old's worries. It's sad that she thinks THIS is a healthy relationship.

heythereitsemily · 2021-03-19T14:29:41+00:00

I think OP should DM this girl and direct her to the sub that would embrace her and have a real discussion about it.

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2021-03-19T14:10:52+00:00

Libfems low self esteem>the exploitation of women and children.

Feminist priorities in check.

Charming-Bee-2337 · 2021-03-19T14:18:57+00:00

In 10 years from now: “It took time to accept my partner having sex with other people as well as a lot of self reflection (like asking myself WHY it bothered me so much- for me it was my low self esteem).” Because everyone knows that if you don’t tolerate disrespect it’s a sign of insecurity.

Also how is liking women on Insta worse than porn lmao? Watching half naked women is worse than watching fully naked women performing sex acts?

2021-03-19T15:14:40+00:00

I really hate how libfems and pretty much everyone on Reddit at this point thinks that not wanting your partner to watch porn=controlling them. You’re not controlling for having standards or asking someone to stop doing something that makes you uncomfortable. If they don’t like that standard, they can leave, or if they don’t want to stop doing it, you can decide to break up with them. No ones controlling anyone here.

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-19T14:19:56+00:00

masturbation=/=consuming porn. Why is it always like that. Female1: I'm not comfortable with my boyfriend watching porn. Female2: WeLl gUyS HAVE tO maStUrbAte. Of course, it's his basic NEED to sit around half a day searching for barely legal torture fetish amateur porn, or lurk around web begging random girls for nudes, IT'S ONLY NATURAL :)

IgetUsernameScraps · 2021-03-19T16:03:41+00:00

I wish it was socially acceptable to tell teen girls to just not 'date' or have sex with teen boys because teen boys are essentially hormone crazed monsters (#notallteens bla bla bla). Nothing good comes out of dating as a teen girl. Be a teen. Go have fun. Get your education get your money THEN worry about sex and relationships.

The worst thing I ever did was 'date' as a fifteen year old. Our 'dates' was him renting a movie, not paying attention to it and ramming his dirty ragged nicotine stained fingers into my dry vagina until I bled and asking me if I liked it.

I still don't like watching movies at home to this day.

I was fifteen. I was a pickme. I thought good girlfriends NEVER complained so I never said anything and just cleaned the blood and told myself I was lucky to have a boyfriend.

Ask me how I got the idea that good girlfriends never ever complain.

And when I broke up with him? He shrieked I was a bitch and peeled away in his truck (this was the school parking lot).

annrike1 · 2021-03-19T15:23:27+00:00

Ok I have a question I want to discuss. Why do men save porn and pictures of naked women on their computer and phone?

They will be searching for the next abuse images / teen pornography in less then 5 minutes after they masturbated. And they still have to have soooo many images saved?

Watching abuse of women is specific enough (you can search for hair colour, ethnicity etc), but they are all saving it. WHY???

Zurflu · 2021-03-19T15:54:13+00:00

It's not "basically fictional". If one of those women DM'd him asking to meet up, he would. If she had a 'menu' in her bio he would buy her services. Nothing fictional about it to him, "fictional" is a cope/gaslight.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-03-19T15:43:45+00:00

Nah, don't get off to others when in a relationship. It is not hard.

Mcccy · 2021-03-19T14:37:11+00:00

Imagine the questions 10 years from now:

Why do I mind that my boyfriend has a sex robot so much? Like I KNOW it's normal and she looks like me so it's not that bad and I wouldn't want to be a control freak and tell him to throw her out or something.

Charming-Bee-2337 · 2021-03-19T16:14:02+00:00

She should start following and liking a bunch of male models with their shirts off and see if he gets "insecure".

Happy-Muffin · 2021-03-19T15:20:54+00:00

We need her here

AimiHanibal · 2021-03-19T14:46:58+00:00

Why is liking (and saving??) half-naked women’s pics such a trope?? Had bfs from Two continents and almost every single one did that. Why???

X_Act · 2021-03-19T17:34:56+00:00

Oh god no, can't be seen as a control freak...but I will stick around and tolerate his behavior that I don't like.

It's as if so many women have zero sense of looking out for self, or their own needs or desires, except keeping a man happy....to pathological levels.

When will women realize that you don't have to justify your feelings? If you don't like it, refuse to put up with it. This relationship is supposed to exist to be making you happy or benefiting you in some way. That's why you're in it.

Subject_Ticket · 2021-03-19T20:56:46+00:00

It's so sad. If you go on the sex subreddit and sort by new, every other post is "my bf watches porn during or before we have sex, and he tells me it's normal. I feel insecure about it, am I overreacting?"

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2021-03-19T22:23:26+00:00

Teehee! Don't think about the fact that he is envisioning fucking her as he jerks off. Just call it "releasing stress." There, isn't that better?

Hmtnsw · 2021-03-19T17:46:31+00:00

I will never take advice from the internet again.

When my ex came out "bi" I thought about breaking up with him. But I didn't because I loved him and wanted to be "unDerSTanDInG" of the LGBT community. I went online and some pickme was like "At the end of the day he PICKED ME" (This was before I knew of FDS).

That was 3 years in the relationship. 2 years later he dumps me for coming out gay.

I'm not out here trying to silence Bi/ say they are not valid but I will NEVER date a bi man ever again.

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officialvevo · 2021-03-20T12:23:51+00:00

I hate how all the advice for questions like this revolves around overcoming insecurity. What if I’m not insecure, but I simply don’t want my bf watching something that is degrading to women and have it warp his sexuality as a result?

Title	Reddit is a terrible place. A 17 yr old girl is called insecure cause she doesn't like that her bf is watching porn
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Date	March 19, 2021 2:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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