Don't feel masculine because of my average penis size

LurdOfTheGraveyurd · 2023-05-04T09:45:39+00:00

The idea that women require a massive dick to enjoy sex and that they’ll fuck some better man in front of you if you don’t have one was basically invented by porn.
It’s almost funny how many of RP’s ideas surrounding women are literally just porn tropes, which says a lot about the people in the community.

Aside from the fact that most women don’t get off on vaginal penetration alone, even the ones who do don’t have endless, infinitely stretchy vaginas. The average vagina is usually around 5” deep, and that shifts with the angle, so an average penis works out really well. Even slightly above average dicks actually make sex quite uncomfortable, from hitting the cervix, the bladder, or the tailbone. Sure, some women do like big dicks and get off on the discomfort but they’re uncommon enough that there’s a specific name for them.
Sex is a mutual activity, so if you work with your partner and communicate, you’ll do fine.

Also, really think about why you’re so certain women would “cuck” you, because that’s completely absurd. Would you do that to someone?
And no, women do not have endless options, nor are we sitting around calculating how good of a mate every man is. We meet people we like and then develop emotional connections.

So yeah, don’t listen to the ramblings of porn addicts who very obviously don’t think of women as people so much as soulless sex husks.

rbkforrestr · 2023-05-04T11:57:31+00:00

Life isn’t porn. The majority of women are with men with average penises.

DerZerficker20x5cm · 2023-05-04T08:59:38+00:00

I think your maximal size is the only thing that matters. What is even your average penis size? If it’s sometimes not hard that is perfectly fine dude. Stop beating yourself, it’s about getting in the mood. And let me tell you a woman usually has no idea what kind of penis size she wants. I’m on the larger size and usually they can’t handle that large.

Dahks · 2023-05-04T09:07:04+00:00

You ask "how do I cope with that?" but with what, exactly? You ask it as if it were fact (like RP probably taught you) but I just see it as insecurity about something that didn't happen yet, which is normal.

RP is especially good into turning "normal" insecurities into hate towards women (= "it's not that I'm insecure about my body, it's that all women are superficial").

I mean yes there are as many superficial women out there as men, but (1) I doubt that anyone looking only for sex would care about dick size that much and (2) if you see that the other person is looking for a relationship based on things that you consider superficial just don't talk to them. Just don't assume that everyone looks for the same thing because that's just prejudice/hate that will not let you see what's in front of you.

ishitinthemilk · 2023-05-04T14:49:27+00:00

Women need their clits played with, we don't care about big dicks. Stop listening to other men who think the world revolves around penetration. It doesn't.

No-Chance-8405 · 2023-05-04T14:44:02+00:00

A Google data scientist who analysed people's Google searches wrote a book about what that data revealed to him. Among others he writes:

Do women care about penis size? Rarely, according to Google searches. For every search women make about a partner’s phallus, men make roughly 170 searches about their own. True, on the rare occasions women do express concerns about a partner’s penis, it is frequently about its size, but not necessarily that it’s small. More than 40 percent of complaints about a partner’s penis size say that it’s too big.

source: "Everybody Lies" by Seth Stephens Davidowitz, 2017

I hope that helps :)

ZR1987 · 2023-05-04T18:10:05+00:00

"I don't feel feminine because of my average breast size."

See how silly that sounds?

DearAd2420 · 2023-05-04T11:15:06+00:00

Pretty sure? Why not go find out?

In my experience 90% of female sexual arousal is in their mind. Maybe learn how to give them what they want in that department? Women are humans too, most don't demand perfection, and don't expect you to be the most superior man around, just their man.

thetruthishere_ · 2023-05-04T13:49:44+00:00

Most men are average sized and most women like it.

Too big hurts a lot of women. Give me average size any day! LOL

ishitinthemilk · 2023-05-04T14:49:32+00:00

Women need their clits played with, we don't care about big dicks. Stop listening to other men who think the world revolves around penetration. It doesn't.

ishitinthemilk · 2023-05-04T14:50:00+00:00

Women need their clits played with, we don't care about big dicks. Stop listening to other men who think the world revolves around penetration. It doesn't.

medlabunicorn · 2023-05-04T17:56:12+00:00

Women don’t care about penis size nearly as much as men do.

HaveALittleGrace · 2023-05-04T09:44:07+00:00

Women who are actually realistic don't really think about this as a main selling point at your size. I saw your size in another comment and that's not that bad. There are other ways are can get pleasure too, like vibrators. Use them at the same time you're fucking her and she'll probably finish anyways. Be fun and creative with toys, make it hot. :)

SweelFor- · 2023-05-04T16:00:18+00:00

Have you watched the 3h long video I linked you about monogamy?

xvszero · 2023-05-04T17:17:20+00:00

Im pretty sure that

Well, you're wrong. You just are.

But the question is, how do you get your mind to the truth instead of the projection you have created? And that can be tough.

If you look at the research on this, and I mean legit peer reviewed research not surveys from women's magazines and such, the conclusions are basically:

Most women prefer slightly above average.
Most women actually have a negative reaction to big penises. Because in real life they tend to cause more pain than pleasure.
But ultimately, most women don't actually care too much about size unless it is on one of the extreme ends.

It's about the person not the penis.

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WWhiMM · 2023-05-04T14:40:26+00:00

So, I've been going down the rabbit hole a little on "penis enhancement." Don't do that, there's no way it's good for mental health. But since I went there and broke my brain, I've brought back a couple tidbits for you. First: https://calcsd.info you're above average, this will tell you exactly how far above average you are.
Second, you're focused on size, lots of people focus on size, but instead consider "erection quality." Can you get an erection easily, how hard do you get, how long does it stay up. It just so happens that the way to have better erection quality is to have a generally healthy lifestyle; good diet, plenty of exercise, stop smoking, etc. So, take that dick anxiety, and transmute it into the motivation to become your overall best self.

theblitz6794 · 2023-05-04T16:36:49+00:00

I want to preface by saying your feelings are valid.

As a guy I've never understood this, that to be masculine we have to have larger than average dicks. If you have 3" I get it. But average? Idk doesn't the average man have an average sized penis by default? That's why it's the average. (For the concerned I'm right at the average)

risen-098 · 2023-05-04T17:48:41+00:00

got to look at sexology research on this, the vast majority of women are satisfied with their male partners penis size, vastly more women than men, more men report being dissatisfied with the size of their female partners breasts. believe it or not women are much more concerned about the appearance of breasts and vulva, also concern about smell and taste much more than men do. just be worried about keeping it clean. your be surprised how many men don't do that. if it helps keeping hair trimmed gives it a bit bigger appearance and is also appreciated.

azucarleta · 2023-05-04T18:39:25+00:00

Is like feet and shoes my bro. Find a partner that fits just right. Simple as that. Don't stress.

natooral-skeptic · 2023-05-04T19:52:47+00:00

Well for starters: If she's the type of woman who'd ditch you for someone with a bigger dick, that says more about her than it says about you. Try to look at it from a reverse perspective:

Are girls with D cups better partners than girls with A cups? Thought so.

For what it is worth: I actually have been ridiculed publicly by a girl I was dating years ago. I met with her and some of her (female) friends and she just started talking about one of her ex boyfriends had a bigger dick than I have (I am alright and happy with my size, still there's always a bigger dick). So when those four "ladies" started to shit over me, I simply stood up, told said girl that she can find new dates, because we are done. When the "Oh come on"-talks started, I just walked out and never looked back. That's called self-respect, cause as the name suggests: You got to respect yourself, no matter what other people think. Fun fact: She had A cups herself, my ex before that had a cupsize C. Bodies are just what they are.

Bray9545 · 2023-05-04T21:02:29+00:00

We know where this is coming from. Stop watching porn it gives you false information about sex.

Mean_Mechanic9889 · 2023-05-05T13:19:09+00:00

Look. I'm a woman. I'm going to say this and it's down to you to take it as you will.

Large penises arnt what I or many woman want. We're often keen to try one. I have. I felt like it was invasive and rude lol. It's awkward. Too easy to be painful and frankly too big for my area.

An average penis size is what we want long term. Men with big penises are the equivalent to a man wanting to sleep with a porn star or woman with giant tits or something. It's something people kinda want to say they've done but not something they want as a partner

DreamieQueenCJ · 2023-05-05T17:48:23+00:00

Most women will come only with clitoris stimulation. If you know how to pleasure your partner, take the time and show love, use your tongue, fingers, and pay attention to her needs, I can guarantee you she won't care about your size.

I've seen this short on YT the other day and I couldn't agree more: https://youtube.com/shorts/s8uK9APsPTQ?feature=share

Kurenai_i · 2023-05-05T22:52:16+00:00

Having a bigger one doesnt make one man superior compared to others . Thats just red pill porn addict lingo . Women don't think of men in that way and we dont calculate superiority in order to date .

Also , the v is like 5" average? So an average size is good . You shouldn't feel insecure about it at all .

TheseNthose · 2023-05-07T22:52:08+00:00

I just tell chics that I'm really small. They're pleasantly surprised.

Title	Don't feel masculine because of my average penis size
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Date	May 4, 2023 7:44 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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