Dating after divorce (rant)

The_Bearded_Cyclist · 2023-03-30T05:04:29+00:00

Firstly you're right. The fact is online dating is incredibly gynocentric and Toxic. Realistically dating apps benefit women, but they give women too many options so most are always looking for the BBD (BIGGER BETTER DEAL).

Because dating apps are so gynocentric it makes a large amount of the women feel like they don't have to put in any effort, because if a man gets sick of her attitude she can just move into the next one. Women on dating apps are also extremely picky, again because there are so many options. Infact 80% of women on dating apps are only swiping in 10% of the men.

Secondly a large majority of women on dating apps aren't actually looking to date. They use these apps to get validation and a dopamine hit, (much like men do from porn).

Lastly in this day and age the dating market is pretty toxic. It's time for men to lead when it comes to dating and the way to do that is to simply not play the game until women improve their behaviours and start holding each other accountable. When women show they are worth the effort of a gentleman then and only then should a guy make an effort. The stats aren't good for women. Within 10 years 50% of women between the ages is 25-45 will be single. Men are waking up and realising it's ok to have standards beyond the bare minimum.

In the mean time focus on making yourself the best you possible. Get a healthy mind body and soul. Have high standards for not only yourself but potential partners.

It's better to be single and alone than in a relationship with the wrong person and miserable.

Don't settle for less than you deserve. Don't treat her like a queen if she doesn't treat you like a king.

ciscokid12345 · 2023-03-30T16:47:44+00:00

Haha don’t hate the players, hate the game.

I’m a top tier man (early 40s, 6’4”, college education, earning about 200k, own a nice house, rv, jeep, in good shape, don’t drink or do drugs, well educated, great cook, golf in the 80s, and can play 3 instruments).

My experience with dating is that it takes 20 likes, to get one date, and it takes 4 dates to get one to go on a second date. Don’t waste too much time chatting in text. Use it as a vehicle to getting a date as soon as possible. Most girls are low value and will flake so line up a couple throughout the week and don’t worry when they ghost. If you keep your numbers up you will find someone who really vibes with you in two or three years.

Remember that dating women in their thirties to forties is like shopping at a thrift store. You’re not going to find anything new unless it’s got major issues that everyone else has already passed on. Just look for a nice fitting outfit with no holes or stains.

Also the women who don’t have kids yet are on the clock. They don’t really want a relationship with you, they want your sperm before their womb dries up. So I try and avoid the girls between 38 and 42.

Accountants are boring, marketing girls drink too much but are fun for a night, horse riding girls have daddy issues, therapists are fucking crazy and will convince you that you are too, and avoid health/wellness influencers at all costs.

Happy hunting!

vector5633 · 2023-03-30T12:26:55+00:00

That's why after I left that royal cunt bitch of my now XW. All I have is FWB or pump and dumps.

I won't date or even entertain getting in a LTR with another woman ever again. The juice is NOT worth the squeeze. I enjoy my freedom and love doing whatever the fuck I want when I want and I don't have anyone up my ass asking me anything.

When I'm not with my kids, I am a free agent, free soul. Dating is a shit show and who in their right mind (men) wants to deal with that shit? Focus on yourself. The OLD has fucked everything up.

truebloodyvalentine · 2023-03-30T11:25:49+00:00

Watch FreshnFit on YouTube. People say that the girls they bring on aren’t representative of most girls, but from my experience, most of the girls that you meet online are just as entitled.

CrazySanta7 · 2023-03-30T11:57:42+00:00

Unless you are the top 20% of men, dating is trash for the most part. Even 5/6's get attention, validation, and non-stop messages. They have hundreds of messages in their online dating profiles. 100% of the women want the top 20% of guys. The good news is that men's value typically goes up over time while women's value goes down. Gym, money, and status are what women look for. Increase those things. Focus less on women. If you feel you are doomed and just trying to get laid, join seeking arrangements. It's unofficially pay to play, but don't we all 'pay' to get laid? Dates, time spent, gifts, marriage, etc. Good luck, bro.

Olongapo · 2023-03-30T06:39:33+00:00

Pick up Rollo Tomassi's first book, "The Rational Male". Amazon has an online version. Not expensive. Stop dating for right now. Being angry at them for being women will bring you nothing but grief. Understanding women will really change your perspective. Educate yourself. Life will get a whole easier. BTW, been there, done that.

mowakil · 2023-03-30T10:25:28+00:00

Ghosting is a common thing women do when they are not interested.
Just move on and take it easy.

Fun-Possible7676 · 2023-03-30T06:44:43+00:00

Ghosting is proper etiquette and it's polite. Explaining to you or confronting on why they never want to see you again is not. Making up a lie is not.

MoronLoserF · 2023-03-30T10:12:32+00:00

So many damn single females. I only wonder what their plan is in life.

The best thing to do is to find someone from overseas with traditional values and family values.

These women can just do the 1% of men and be their hoes.

beatlecereal · 2023-03-30T16:57:50+00:00

I ghost women if I’ve only known them for a few weeks, and I don’t feel bad about it at all. Why? Because I find myself not having to explain myself why I don’t think it will work. The girls I ghost don’t deserve my time after I have decided to no longer talk to them.

If someone stops talking to you, that means the chemistry wasn’t there. It isn’t a personal attack on you, don’t take it as one. I’d rather be ghosted myself, instead of hearing excuses, complaints, or “if you change this aspect of your life…”

If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2023-03-30T15:20:37+00:00

That’s because Women want to be chased and wine and dine it’s like a game to them

Ok-Championship216 · 2023-03-30T18:10:04+00:00

We are in dating environment called "The Hook up Zone". They can swipe on you and say, cool an set it up, but as soon as someone better comes along, you are a think of the past and not even worth the complimentary rejection letter....and women say we are the creatures....please!!!!

sicrm · 2023-03-30T19:50:42+00:00

This is not about online dating either, it's legit friend of a friend "hey I know someone you should meet" recommendations.

those will be a waste of time more times than not.

RideATX · 2023-03-31T16:43:43+00:00

I mean not to poop on the hate parade, but I had a lot of fun on the dating apps. yeah its exhausting, but I met a lot of cool chicks and had a lot of fun. Yeah, of course there are a lot of duds, but you just move on to the next maybe 1 in 10 is worth your time but you eventually find people you vibe with. The key is to just not take it seriously at all and have a mindset that you're looking to have fun.

Title	Dating after divorce (rant)
Author	Watchthehammer698
Upvotes	24
Comments	33
Date	March 30, 2023 4:29 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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