Rocks

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-07-07T00:44:57+00:00

Here’s an idea. Why don’t you go lay down on her pile of rocks look up at the sky and say to yourself “this is rock bottom” Have a good cry if you need to.

Then, take her rocks and throw them in the lake, every last one of them. Every last piece of her.

The comforting thing about rock bottom is that you realize this is it, it can only get better from here - and it will but only if YOU put in the effort.

Snap out of this spiral your in. Pull up captain! Your life is NOT over you are simply entering a new chapter. Work out, dress nice, pour yourself into your career and be a badass at work. You’re depressed because you’re focusing on what you’ve lost. Focus on what you can gain if you fucking try.

captainchippsixx · 2023-07-06T23:08:25+00:00

She doesn’t want the reminder /memories of you is what I would think.

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-07-07T01:14:18+00:00

If you have ever been to a therapist and they help you make a decision, they guide you through questioning to objectively evaluate. Weigh the pros and cons of the situation and truths. Allow information to guide the decision. The do not allow you to stray from reality.

Now the antithesis to objective decision making is the walk away wife. I have seen time and time and time again where these idiots blow up there lives and the lives of others by fantasizing about post divorce life. It’s a completely delusional perspective that only considers all the great things. Then they surround themselves with damaged toxic people to support all this delusion. This is what they deem the “pros”.

The cons are you. Every single thing you did wrong in he relationship is a con. Everything they did wrong is because of you. Everything great about the relationship does not count.

Why didn’t she take the rocks? Simple. Positive mementos don’t support her decision.

It’s the most irrational and bizarre thinking imaginable, yet it happens everyday.

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2023-07-06T23:12:56+00:00

They’re rock. Just dump them and move on.

DatabaseSpace · 2023-07-07T00:44:53+00:00

Mine left our framed wedding pictures in a trash bag in the middle of the master bedroom. We weren’t even in a fight. They can be pretty cold.

TheBoyBand · 2023-07-07T01:22:36+00:00

Lmfao, I mean everyone has their attachments to stuff, but I burned everything, including her wedding dress, threw engagemen rings away and wedding band,sorry bro, burned every photo physical and digital, but I so fknnnn wish rocks were my problem 😂😂😂

BarrtonMaryland · 2023-07-07T00:37:50+00:00

She doesn't want the reminders, my ripped up all the pictures that I was in when she packed up my stuff. So it was a surprise when I opened up the boxes of my things. Don't let it get to you.

I also feel that you are more sentimental about them, so allow yourself the opportunity to take them be happy that you have them or use them to blow off some steam- skip rocks or target practice.

Hopefully it helps, get better

wisstinks4 · 2023-07-07T04:32:19+00:00

She is working you. She knows she has control. We need to break the cycle. Think about it. She knows you want her to take them, therefore she declines, you react, blow a gasket, she wins. Better start to unbuckle from her soon, or you’ll be going to mental health counselor soon. Every psychologist is going to tell you to learn to let it go. Save yourself $5000. Just start to let go now.

Stay safe.

Intelligent-Bed-4149 · 2023-07-07T03:19:56+00:00

My stbx has been disposing of nostalgic memories conspicuously. It’s more like she’s trying to hurt me than help herself. I don’t care though, it’s just stuff.

jkw118 · 2023-07-07T13:18:36+00:00

So truthfully, yes they hold a sentimental value.. She's moved on and see's it as if she had a ton of space she'd put them in some corner (that she didn't need to look at often).

She's moving on with her life, and objects that hold memories from the past while nice/good to keep. It's also important to have space with them, and realize you need to move forward.

It seems like you may be dwelling on it too much.

I'm a sentimental guy, but truthfully my ex took most of anything valuable then randomly sold or dropped them off at my door when she couldn't find a use for them. I literally would have walked to my parents (a hour drive away when she told me of the divorce, and left everything behind) but I've got kids - not an option.

I'd suggest you take her rocks and put them off in a corner of the yard. When you go on trips/vacation take a few of hers, and throw one or two in a lake. When your out of rocks your over her. And maybe your new gf will help you throw the last one..

MoodyMusical · 2023-07-07T03:24:39+00:00

Because they hurt. I erased everything I could of my ex and I really needed to do that to get where I am.

jgjg9999 · 2023-07-07T02:15:39+00:00

I guess I'm the opposite. My X left me for another guy and got upset that I didn't want any of the pictures of her.

Like, yeah no thanks.

Title	Rocks
Author	trigunner3
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	July 6, 2023 10:57 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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