Listen to me. TRP, MGTOW, PUA, Jordan Peterson, Return of Kings those all started off with the best of intentions with men and their success in mind. How to get men out of their own way, how to teach men self respect, self control, discipline, how to expand their game, how to pick up game, how to hold frame and how to avoid falling victim to common manipulation tactics was when men’s spaces had the right idea. Even MRAs reminding men they’re still human and just as worthy of protection as women had the right idea, many of those that I’ve mentioned did help men become the men they are today. We cannot forget all the good that has been done for men, but today there’s been a worrying shift. Men who don’t want help but want to sit online all day complaining about women, complaining about sexually successful men, complaining about how expensive it is to go overseas with a passport, or how hard it is to get in shape those men can’t be helped. They don’t want help, they say they don’t but they’re forgetting the painful reality that there is no magic bullet to make everything better. You don’t take a pill and suddenly become a jacked 6’8 alpha male, you don’t suddenly have 10s raining from heaven and down into your waiting lap simply because you read a book or attended a seminar. You have to put in the work yourself, groups, seminars, gurus, YouTubers all they can do is just give you the tools it’s up to you to use them.

Which brings me to title problem; men’s spaces are reluctant to boot out the men that don’t want to put on the work, the men that don’t want help but wanna complain. They don’t want to shed numbers because men are being attacked on all fronts, male sexuality is increasingly demonized, men wanting families is seen as a means to control or abuse. I get it, men need each other more than ever but we have to make some painful decisions if we’re going to better ourselves. If you have a festering limb you must cut off that limb, so is true is you have men in your number who are just gonna drag you down you must cut them off. Deadweight is deadweight, if you wouldn’t keep a woman around that only drags you gown why keep around men who drag you down? If you want to better yourself the first lesson must learn is sacrifice, if you don’t then you’re not gonna get anywhere in life. This is not a shit post this is a get your shit together post, because no one is gonna tell men the truth except another man.