Just got rejected for being 'incredible'

jivan006 · 2022-06-30T01:35:41+00:00

“Worst she can say is No”

Her:

PHVEDO · 2022-06-29T23:08:31+00:00

that can literally be the definition of heartbreaking. So sorry for u brah

Cactus2711 · 2022-06-30T01:57:30+00:00

I got rejected for being too 'wholesome' after 3 incredible dates and passionate intimacy on 2 of them. The mind boggles.

TerminatorReborn · 2022-06-30T05:24:58+00:00

Happened to me before too. Don't overthink this, she broke things off or rejected you like that because she doesn't exactly know how to do it.

She doesn't want hurt your feelings so she put something good about you there instead of only saying things you don't want to hear. She is just compensating

DecentGas6671 · 2022-06-30T00:52:53+00:00

Oh well, her loss. On to the next one!

Aceleeon · 2022-06-30T03:08:13+00:00

Unfortunately, the best thing to start learning for these misleading woman wordle things is “don’t take women and what they say too seriously and/or literally” women aren’t men.

With that lesson on deck, the word ‘incredible’ for women might translate into: too great as a BF or great partner in life or deep quality cherished connection or your nice greatness overpowers her inner animal to get really fu*$ed by you.

For a man” incredible” most likely = really physically attracted (want to smash) + be around her.

For a woman “incredible” may = want to hang out with + Maybe I don’t know yet might want to maybe possibly smash if I’m in the mood. I’m not a slut.

You want to avoid being too “great and incredible” by sending early signs and setting up your attractive “base” to sub communicate to “confidently wanting sex”. EVEN IF IT MEANS SHE SAYS SHE “DOESNT LIKE MEN THAT TRY. because *see lesson 1 women aren’t men and don’t take etc etc etc. Could go more on this concept but it’ll take a minute. Ask me for more info on this one tho fr.

It might be that you were having too good of a date and conversation and she likes you now for the long run. But can’t see you as a man she wants to get dominated by.

Make more moves towards intimacy sooner in the date with confidence and unapologetic desire for her.

She’ll like it. And won’t matter if she doesn’t.

Go get ‘em!!!

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-29T23:34:07+00:00

She might actually think you are incredible. Hence she can't feel any for attraction for you because that is saved for the guys that are dirtbags and expendable.

jackedsoon · 2022-06-30T01:22:33+00:00

Incredibly boring perhaps

premedchunsa · 2022-06-30T05:22:58+00:00

Translation: you’re a nice guy.

jerrbilz · 2022-06-30T04:59:53+00:00

I don't think it's a gender thing, it's more of a "I'm not into you romantically but I don't want to hurt your feelings so I'm going to give you a compliment when I reject you".

She sounds young and you probably are, too. You'll find someone else dude.

U1tra1ightBeam · 2022-06-30T07:32:32+00:00

What would have been a better explanation/reasoning for you?

robml · 2022-06-30T03:11:37+00:00

Sounds like you got friend zoned. If it helps you should make your intent clear at some point altho idk the full story here so can't say.

SniffMyPeanut · 2022-06-30T06:52:51+00:00

Might be low self worth. As you go about dating others you'll find there are all kinds of people out there with their own issues. Some people have some issues that show up front and center like this. While others have it hidden and they aren't even aware of it.

purplewhiteblack · 2022-06-30T07:36:18+00:00

Find someone who looks like her and fuck her.

no_please · 2022-06-30T04:01:48+00:00

yeah I got "you are so perfect for me", and "you are my person" by the girl that didn't want to put in an ounce of effort, ever, and complained about how mistreated by men she had been her whole life, before she pulled the plug because I "deserve better" and a whole bunch of other crap.

Neo-Rio · 2022-06-30T06:50:00+00:00

Any time a woman "rejects" you she is telling you that she's not "feeling it"Whatever. Women change how they feel about things all the time. How she feels about you initially isn't how you might get her to feel around you later.

You can make multiple attempts at getting her to feel *something* by reframing. Since you're going on the way out, it's usually worth a shot. I'm a big fan of "hail marys" since there's nothing to lose at these points.

Your rejection seems like it's a "not my type" excuse. This one is handled by suggesting to her:

"So, now you have a unique opportunity to try something that you wouldn't normally go for, and possibly discover something more amazing than you thought possible! Have you ever been initially reluctant to try something, but once you got on with it, you found yourself addicted to it? I'm not saying that's going to happen with me, but how surprised would you be to discover that actually happening?

recyclablebanthas · 2022-07-01T06:36:29+00:00

1

Just got rejected for being incredible

Spoiler: the words are not as important as the main idea, which is that someone has revealed it's not working for them.

2

Girls be really saying anything.

Humans often don't understand themselves. That's why self-help coaches are a thing. Same with dating coaches for both men and women.

When people don't understand themselves, they may end up wanting or not wanting something for reasons they don't understand.

But there's a part of the brain whose job it is to come up with reasons and that part of the brain will come up with something, even if it's not always true, just so that we can continue with our day.

This is a human problem.

pretty_dead_grrl · 2022-06-30T04:29:49+00:00

Ever consider that maybe you are incredible AND she doesn’t have to be attracted to you to find you so? This false equivalency of the friend zone is straight up misogynistic trope and it’s TIRED AF.

Women don’t ever owe you sex because she exists and if you’re only into any woman for the possibility of sex, please be up front about that. That way you don’t waste her time and force her to come up with a nice easy way to let you down without the possibility of becoming the next missing person.

And before you go there: Riley Whitelaw was actually killed because she didn’t want to date her manager. Maybe Google “women killed for rejecting a man” and see what pops up.

alwaystostadas · 2022-06-29T23:40:02+00:00

What an ego boost tho.

SPENCEandtonic · 2022-06-30T00:12:23+00:00

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vze1fm8gn · 2022-06-30T04:44:45+00:00

Not your fault.

If you didn't understand - again - not your fault.

Silver_Streak01 · 2022-06-30T04:53:12+00:00

Can't always win, and certainly can't win 'em all.

Gunic0rn · 2022-06-30T08:16:57+00:00

I won! I guess (?)

azjon333 · 2022-06-30T08:56:22+00:00

Don't listen to most of these people, it truly depends on the girl, if you know how she is then you should judge it bases off of that. If this girls was a stripper who just wants to be manhandled and sniff coke lines. You being incredible could mean , your the type of guy I want to meet mother and settle down with ( nothing wrong with this by the way)

If this is a wholesome girl who has always had a trash experience with men and no guy has ever bought her ice cream before.... Then guess what ...she'll think your the best man in the world.

If you know a bit about her backstory, evaluate it , I'm assuming you tried to get to know her a bit. Use her personality to judge what she really means about you. good luck

azjon333 · 2022-06-30T08:56:49+00:00

Don't listen to most of these people, it truly depends on the girl, if you know how she is then you should judge it bases off of that. If this girls was a stripper who just wants to be manhandled and sniff coke lines. You being incredible could mean , your the type of guy I want to meet mother and settle down with ( nothing wrong with this by the way)

If this is a wholesome girl who has always had a trash experience with men and no guy has ever bought her ice cream before.... Then guess what ...she'll think your the best man in the world.

If you know a bit about her backstory, evaluate it , I'm assuming you tried to get to know her a bit. Use her personality to judge what she really means about you. good luck

If this was your first encounter with her.... Then yes, unfortunately she could just be trying to be nice to let you down gently and

I suggest you listen to " water under the bridge" cuz Adele do be hittn bro,

reddunt3 · 2022-06-30T09:01:55+00:00

Incredible as another living doormat in her friend zone, yes.

Title	Just got rejected for being 'incredible'
Author	throwawaytinderhey
Upvotes	114
Comments	59
Date	June 29, 2022 11:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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