Should I just lose it to a hooker

lulhoofdFTW · 2022-06-14T05:21:48+00:00

You are too hung up on being a virgin dude. That is very good woman repellent. Not the fact that you are a virgin.

rudebwoy100 · 2022-06-14T04:41:42+00:00

Having sex with a sex worker isn't going to help as your issue is socializing with girls, you need to put yourself out there a lot more.

GreyGoosez · 2022-06-14T04:14:11+00:00

I wouldn’t do it man, it would make an amazing learning experience very artificial. I feel there is a confidence issue talk to more girls in sorority’s that come along?

Chat up random girls in lines around town at a coffee shop. You could even E-date. Don’t be needy double text or come off to strong and it will happen. Acquire a lot of numbers and snapchats and you’ll do it.

FreeGameTaker · 2022-06-14T04:53:42+00:00

When you reach a point where you can flirt with a girl and lose it to her, you'll have a character development, you'll be proud of yourself

joos11 · 2022-06-14T03:34:30+00:00

When you meet the right girl, and sex happens organically, you’re going to regret rushing it and paying for it with a stranger. When you’re in your 30’s and sex isn’t this huge unattainable obstacle anymore, you’re going to regret losing it to a prostitute. If you’re laying in bed one day with your wife and she asks how you lost your virginity, you’re going to regret the story.

Don’t rush it man. It happens at different times for different people. These are the years of your life. And what you want to happen, will eventually happen. Be good.

mistahARK · 2022-06-14T03:28:47+00:00

I waited till I was 22 and lost it drunk to a girl I never spoke to again

Still better than a prostitute

Don't do it

Edit: apparently I need to clarify that me and the girl were both drunk, it was consensual, I regret losing my vcard that way, but it was still a better experience than a prostitute would have been.

Don't pay for sex. Just don't do it.

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-06-14T04:13:14+00:00

There’s no shame in losing it to a hooker. Many do it.

But you might realise it is a social construct and doesn’t actually matter and will not make any difference in your life.

Hire a hooker because you want to have sex, not because you want to lose your virginity. Being a virgin doesn’t matter that much.

not_shajal · 2022-06-14T04:00:38+00:00

And those who are patient, reaps the reward.

MusaTO · 2022-06-14T06:16:44+00:00

Mw2FREAK20 · 2022-06-14T04:10:41+00:00

I’ve had the same thoughts before, but learned to get over what other people think and not let it get to you. I lost my virginity just a couple of months ago before I turned 25. The girl I lost my V card to was a solid 8, but was definitely not my type. In my opinion it’ll be worth the wait for someone that deserves it. And saying you lost your V card by paying for it doesn’t sound like a good story in the future.

2022-06-14T03:29:07+00:00

Plan a trip to Vegas when you turn 21 and go to the bunny ranch.

Btw nothing wrong with being a virgin… but nothing wrong with engaging with consensual sex with a sex worker either.

QuelaansBlade · 2022-06-14T04:29:44+00:00

Unless you are rich and can casually afford a super fancy hooker that you 100% know isn't being human trafficked or exploited you shouldn't get a hooker. Dont do it you are only 20. It feels like you shpuld be slaying it but plenty of men don't slay until later in life. Plenty of 20ish women are going after men in their 30s you literally have like 20 years to get your shit together without any prostitutes involved

PontusOfMars · 2022-06-14T07:12:43+00:00

Bro, you're in a frat and you've atleast had makeouts. Sounds like you got clearance to land, but you just won't grab your nuts and land the plane.

20 is still hella young, and you have the right conditions to get laid, e.g. proximity, social circle, social proof. You should try to get one of your fraternity brothers to lend you a room for the night during one of the parties. Banter with a few ladies, see who is giving you signals, and try to lead her upstairs. Just ask a girl if she wants to listen to some music or look at something cool in your room. 99.9% of the time, girls know what's going down when you proposition something like that. It's an inviation with plausible deniabililty for alone time that could escalate into sexy time, so if she's feeling you, she's gonna say yes. Once you get her in the room, pop on some Netflix or music, and get close. Something to break the ice regarding touch barrier can be comparing hand sizes (I shit you not). Hold you hand up to her palm to palm, and use that to hold her hand. Boom, you broke the touch barrier. If she reciprocates, bring her chin up so that she's looking into your eyes, and kiss her. Proceed from there.

If you're worried about fucking it up with a girl you think is hot, start off with an average looking chick or hell, just get a pro and use it as a dry run. That way, you atleast have a semblance of knowing what to do, and you won't feel extreme pressure. The whole "lose your virginity to someone special" shit is some gay ass Disney shit. I lost my virginity to a Tinder chick, and never spoke to her again.

scientist_1990 · 2022-06-14T08:14:54+00:00

Keep shooting your shot. It’s a numbers game. You gotta approach and try and talk to as many woman as possible. Like 100 a day. All shapes and sizes. Your type and not your type.

Your social skills and pick up game will improve dramatically. You’ll get over your fear of rejection within the first 10 and then it’s a sport my man. You’ll look forward to approaching women and just cracking a joke or making them smile. You don’t always have to get the number or hit the sack, approaching and making small talk and getting a positive response is a win.

Out of 100 girls in a day you’ll have a spark with 10. You’ll have a connection with 5 and you’ll have chemistry with 1-3. Here is we’re you wanna spend time.

You’re young and 20 is fine to be a virgin bro.

My stats are the ones I mentioned above. I was scared sh*t less when I set my mind on 100 a day, but honest to God, within the first 25 I made a shift in my personality and found a charismatic side of myself. The more I practiced the better I got and at about 4 months in I was turning down women because I had my hands full.

Commit to trying harder but having fun. Don’t put any expectations on results.

Get an arsenal of jokes, learn some easy magic tricks, create a persona that’s way ballsier than you’ve ever been and let that person take over.

Don’t be needy. Good luck !

montanalombardy · 2022-06-14T08:49:48+00:00

Bro...

20 is very young and a normal age to be a virgin.
If you make out with girls, getting laid is just around the corner for you lmao my dude.
People who go to hookers usually report that it's a shitty experience. Don't do it.

javierthhh · 2022-06-14T09:51:31+00:00

You’re way too young to be thinking of throwing away your virginity to a hooker. Try again in 10 years.

Jimlowers · 2022-06-14T10:48:53+00:00

Bro height isn’t the problem, you just have to be you and a bit of a flirt, or make them laugh. At the end of the day, nothing wrong with being a virgin at 20.

ds27__ · 2022-06-14T07:09:21+00:00

Yes,i did the same and it was the best decision! Sex is sex no matter what but with hooker first time you can’t be wrong and that experience you need for yourself.

MeanCry5785 · 2022-06-14T04:04:16+00:00

maxpossimpible · 2022-06-14T10:34:40+00:00

Problem is that every chick you date for the next 10 years is going to be worse in bed than the hooker 😅. It's literally their job to be great at sex.

ElPincheGrenas · 2022-06-14T04:09:58+00:00

I mean sure, I don’t think it’s gonna do anything for you though

hustle_sk · 2022-06-14T04:13:59+00:00

Why though? It wont change anything. Just put yourself out there and it'll happen. My best friend is 32 and still a Virgin.

TrousRD · 2022-06-14T06:10:06+00:00

I wouldn’t do it, intimate sex is completely different than sex work. It didn’t happen until I was 19 years after all my friends had, but I would wait again. Fear of rejection is the thing I would’ve lost earlier

AdamLikesMellons · 2022-06-14T09:35:55+00:00

dont listen to the naysayers OP

nothing wrong with losing it to a hooker - you want sex & its her job

most people dont want to admit it but the first time is almost always awkward and sucks.

twojace21 · 2022-06-14T04:38:07+00:00

I was in a pretty similar scenario as you a couple years ago, I was 20 and in a fraternity and was a virgin. Also never had a girlfriend, and only had kissed a girl once in my life which was just only the year before. It wasn’t one of the main insecurities of mine, but it definitely would bother me a lot. Then one random night I was at a kickback with some people I knew, and there was this one girl that I was kinda friends with by not close to by any means. We were both drunk, hooked up that night, and then went back to normal just surface level friends.

Sometimes it’ll just happen randomly when you’re not expecting it. I know it can make you insecure to still be a virgin, but there’s nothing wrong with it. The people in your life won’t judge you for it, or think any less of you (if they do then they’re not good people for you). And also, 20 may seem like an old age to still be a virgin, but it’s really not. It’s by no means uncommon to still be a virgin at your age.

But to directly answer your question, don’t just lose it to a hooker. I’m sure it’ll happen at some point. And trust me, you’ll feel a lot more confident and happy if it happens naturally on your own than if you pay for it. Good luck on getting laid brotha!

boxmail2800 · 2022-06-14T05:09:03+00:00

Pass on the pro. What you should do is stop concentrating on what to say and just be yourself. Hell- TELL them you’ve never had sex before. PLENTY OF WOMEN WILL JUMP YOU FOR THAT REASON ONLY!!!….. Don’t be a fool and wrap your tool. And for gods sake don’t fall in love with the first 5 women you sleep with….

vardarac · 2022-06-14T06:33:26+00:00

You have my problem.

You are thirsty, yet fearful. Either of these alone are interest killers, but they're particularly nasty in combination.

Flirting works best when it is dropped without a care for the outcome, whether that comes from a place of expecting failure or of not requiring success.

If you "fail", you just move on as if nothing happened; if her body language is good or neutral, you turn it up bit by bit, if it's avoidant, you find the smoothest way out of the interaction you can.

The important thing is to not take this stuff personally. It'll feel like an indictment after enough rejections, but it's really just an indication to keep learning.

yo_saturnalia · 2022-06-14T07:56:29+00:00

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m1rrari · 2022-06-14T06:03:00+00:00

I didn’t lose mine until I was 20. My friend had a friend I would flirt with that had a reputation for being an easy lay. She Invited me over to a party with 3-5 people there. Two or three drinks in, she started getting handsy and I got handsy right back. Few mins later we ended up in her bedroom and we had sex. When all was said and done, I didn’t really feel any different and I wasn’t suddenly more confident. I don’t really regret it but I also don’t think fondly of it… I learned a lot about myself from the experience.

BetterCallPaul4 · 2022-06-14T06:10:11+00:00

That thought crossed my mind several times, but in all times I decided against it. Why are you in a rush to lose your virginity? Slow down, continue to put yourself out there and I promise you, you will find that beautiful girl who mirrors your attraction for her.

alexmaycovid · 2022-06-14T06:17:25+00:00

Well it can sort of help, but if you do it with your own actions, you'll be more proud. I lost my virginity at 26. Yeah I also thought about a hooker but decided that I better find a girl and try to seduce her. And somehow it worked)

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-06-14T06:46:26+00:00

I wouldn’t. You won’t feel any better about yourself. Who gives a fuck about virginity anyway - you could go fuck a drunk ogre laying in her vomit outside a club or a hooker but is that going to make you feel relived? I doubt it

Just be patient and keep forcing yourself to socialise and you’ll meet someone you actually want to have sex with

rhofire · 2022-06-14T06:48:16+00:00

No, don’t do it. It’s not the same thing as sex with a woman who wants you. And, you’ll still struggle, maybe it will get worse.

PhantaumAss · 2022-06-14T06:51:22+00:00

You having had make out with someone means you can definitely take it to the next level

dark_helmt8 · 2022-06-14T06:52:25+00:00

no_not_this · 2022-06-14T07:03:23+00:00

I think sitting there thinking the only time you had sex was when you paid is worse than being a virgin to be honest. Don’t do it. Hit the gym and join some clubs. Oh and don’t LTR anyone in your first years of college. You will regret that

Only_Commercial_774 · 2022-06-14T07:09:39+00:00

If you feel like you have to than do it there’s nothing wrong with it

readMyFlow · 2022-06-14T07:11:24+00:00

It's a preference thing. It helps demystify the whole sex thing and just seeing and tasting a naked woman might ease your tensions with women. So it might help you "ease" a little bit. I'd say go for it. And try to find well-reviewed girls.

SunshineBlind · 2022-06-14T07:24:44+00:00

What paying for it may show you is that it really isn't that big of a deal.

However, it will not teach you what you need to do to get laid. Social skills, flirting without being creepy, and read their signals of interest back. I'm sure you've had girls interested but it completely flew over your head or you froze because you didn't know what to do. We've pretty much all have been there at one point or another.

Joyfulcheese · 2022-06-14T07:43:51+00:00

You're only 20, what's the rush? Too much emphasis is put on loosing virginity as some sort of achievement to signify getting older. Don't fall into that trap. If it means waiting for a few more years do it, it'll be worth it.

readonlyuser · 2022-06-14T08:17:15+00:00

No. It's expensive and no one is going to ask. You'd still have to go meet women afterwards, and it wouldn't make it any easier.

Aggressive_Soil_5134 · 2022-06-14T08:32:16+00:00

I lost my virginity to some random girl off tinder always regretted it

CommercialPlay6204 · 2022-06-14T08:55:00+00:00

Nooooooooooo!

kamexon · 2022-06-14T09:00:56+00:00

Don’t

belka24 · 2022-06-14T09:06:20+00:00

LifeArrow · 2022-06-14T09:17:23+00:00

20 years is not old. Definitely no need to rush it, imo.

aquilaruspante1 · 2022-06-14T09:17:53+00:00

Not sure why all these people advising not to do it.

What's the risk? Seriously what could be a reason not to do it? It's not very clear. Won't help with your confidence? Ok, but it won't undermine it as well, won't be fun? Ok, your first time with whoever won't be fun. I don't see honestly any reason not to try that. You have nothing to lose.

Go live your experiences man!

DullMeal5308 · 2022-06-14T09:26:06+00:00

I wish I had done it sooner. I was 28 years old when I decided to go with an escort. Here are my reasons for doing it:

Not having experienced sex really hurt my self esteem. I was ashamed and this shame manifested in all my behaviors.
As time went on, it became worse.
I don't see anything morally wrong with hiring a sex worker (as long as you make sure the person is not being trafficked and isn't underage). Also, use protection and don't be a knob!
Sex workers are actually very good at sex and can be very gentle with your inexperience. There are worse things that loosing ones Virginity to an experienced, gorgeous sex worker.
Once you have sex, you can move on. It helped me change my life by allowing me to focus on other areas of my life and slowly but surely build my confidence.

DiabloBratz · 2022-06-14T09:29:51+00:00

Hey at least your not a 23 year old virgin going on 24, shits embarrassing

aidsjohnson · 2022-06-14T10:01:34+00:00

Yup it’s awesome

Yanksfan28gg · 2022-06-14T10:31:28+00:00

I did it that way didn’t do anything for me not worth the $$ imo

Tribeless1 · 2022-06-14T10:37:55+00:00

You shouldn’t do it because your a King and your just trying to get your footing while having them see you as you are. If you have sex with a prostitute, you might loose confidence because you paid for it. If you keep your head held high, and break down the steps in a relationship that your struggling with, you can work on perfecting the process to getting into a relationship.

Introduction to a woman Conversation Comfort Building Contact Information Exchanged Calls & Texts First Date And so on…

Just remember that you’re a great guy deserving love and even though it sounds like you have some confidence issues right now, you can work through that to see your true worth. Respect yourself and the world will follow.

shxbxx · 2022-06-14T10:49:47+00:00

you can practice sex skills on whore

SubieJer2018 · 2022-06-14T10:58:19+00:00

You should read the book called „The Game“ by Neil Strauss.

Take notes and practice approaching women and asking for help, like directions or the time.

Do this to a couple of girls to warm up before talking to ones you like.

The best thing can say as well is to make friends with women, with no intention to date them. Women tend to invite there single guy friends to parties where they meet with their single girl friends, and most of the time the one inviting you will get jealous of her friends talking to you, which will create a sense that you have social value in her eyes and will either make you more attractive to her, or one of her friends.

Also read „Magic Bullets“ by love system.

Both books if you take them seriously, and apply them to your life, is life changing.

Mysterious-Beatle · 2022-06-14T11:28:01+00:00

Don't. That's all I have to say. It isn't worth it.

buick916 · 2022-06-14T11:40:07+00:00

I was just like you dawg just don’t stress work on you and you’ll meet someone and if they like you you’ll keep experimenting and shit. Just worry about you man

adsonn · 2022-06-14T11:41:35+00:00

20 years ain't even that late at losing your v card lol

RecognitionMajestic · 2022-06-14T11:54:23+00:00

Keep the conversation on the girl, ask the questions. And don't follow any rules or advice 100%. I would also get your mind off of the virgin thing, don't bring it up with anyone, words travel fast. It's not a problem being a virgin but if girls find out that you disclose so much information about yourself they might not be so ready to do freaky things with you because they'll think you'll go telling everyone intimate details of your sexual interactions. No kiss and Tell, and try to be more of a closed book with yourself.

Title	Should I just lose it to a hooker
Author	No-Target2572
Upvotes	78
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Date	June 14, 2022 3:26 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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