What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, or have serious suspicion of, but would get you down voted to all hell

PoinFLEXter · 2022-06-13T01:15:03+00:00

My Unpopular Dating Opinion: Merely being in decent physical shape will boost almost any woman into the top 5% of her age group. If she knows the most basic things about outfits, hair, and makeup, she would be in the top 2%.

In reference to an old Seinfeld episode, I think he said that only like 2% 5%^* of the population is dateable (but that’s because he was also factoring in undateable age ranges).

Vigeto619 · 2022-06-12T18:32:25+00:00

Most dating advice is better than people think. They fail at putting it in the right context and at calibrating the details.

EpicIrishman · 2022-06-13T00:34:25+00:00

Being good at dating and being a good partner are two exclusively different skill sets.

Many people think being good at dating mean's they're a good partner. More often than not this is quite the opposite, as they've dated and dated and dated and never held down many real relationships.

Electric_kundalini · 2022-06-12T19:54:25+00:00

I used to suffer from anxiety attacks a lot so I definitely agree with number 7. Women are much more in-tune with Men, than Men are with Women. They can literally look at you and know how you’re feeling. It sounds a bit woo-woo but your vibes speak louder than words. You might be the most charismatic person in the room, but if your energy is off she’s going to go with her gut feeling.

anonychef117 · 2022-06-12T21:35:25+00:00

You dont have to have lots of money or great job to pick up. Quite the opposite in most occasions i see

thedreamkillers · 2022-06-12T21:46:29+00:00

good appearance is a prerequisite to any kind of dating success in the modern era, but many people underestimate how much they can impact their own appearance

tmvrk · 2022-06-12T23:52:06+00:00

The chasing dynamic in relationships is very unhealthy. You shouldn't have to try to convince someone of your value or test them to see if they're interested enough in you.

Not to be confused with continuing to date the person you're with, that part is very important.

DroptopFab916 · 2022-06-12T18:56:24+00:00

Men lead women follow

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-06-12T22:15:42+00:00

People who ghost are cowards.

redditisforgeeks1 · 2022-06-12T18:39:50+00:00

Looks matter more way than personality if you are ugly the chances off you ending up with a beautiful girl who actually respects you and not cheat is rare. Also women do not see short men as men unless they are rich and attractive

celestial-kitty2 · 2022-06-13T00:33:05+00:00

Most of what drives our attraction and behaviors are the product of social conditioning. Not unpacking it is insulting to yourself and your partner(s). Also that every woman doesn’t get a husband and there really isn’t a wife for every man. If you’re not unpacking traumas and working towards anything of substance I don’t think you have any business dating.

anou142 · 2022-06-13T01:22:00+00:00

Confidence is everything.. u should not think about getting girls before you are comfortable hold a conversation with people in general

2022-06-13T01:48:49+00:00

Here is something most women do not understand. Sex attention vs relationship attention.

99% of guys will have sex with you any day. But few will actually take up the responsibility and effort of dating you.

3links2 · 2022-06-13T00:05:11+00:00

looks trump all, the personality excuse is virtue signaling

Thony311 · 2022-06-13T02:40:50+00:00

Mine is that i need to sleep with a woman almost immediately to see if she is worth pursuing further.

All the nervous energy goes away and i can act on the red/green flags so much better. There are times where i bust and i feel the need to leave asap. Other times where we would just cuddle/hang out/make plans bc the chemistry remains post nut.

Unfortunately telling a woman that i need to clap asap to determine if i like her isnt going to woo her all too much.

tmvrk · 2022-06-12T19:52:32+00:00

I believe women today are absolutely horrible. You have a better chance finding a needle in a haystack then a woman that’s a decent human being. They’re flaky, pretentious, conceded, vapid and dishonest. They’re disloyal social climbers and a majority of them are bipolar. If they didn’t have a vagina, no man would ever speak to them.

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2022-06-12T18:37:59+00:00

IMO, the majority (not all but most) of people who use OLD should not be “dating” at all. Both male and female. They resort to the apps as anyone “normal” who met them IRL would run the opposite direction within minutes.

VikingRT · 2022-06-12T20:29:59+00:00

You can like one and just one person

Kotef · 2022-06-12T18:06:04+00:00

There is no such thing as being authentic or being yourself.

2022-06-13T03:59:19+00:00

A lot of people blame the dating pool for for their failed prospects without doing any introspection on how they are contributing to the ass dating pool. People can be shit, but theres a reason you’re attracting shit. Either improve yourself or improve your methods of dating

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-06-13T00:11:50+00:00

Online dating is the most efficient way to meet beautiful women. Guys have the wrong approach and discount it because their feelings get hurt.

truthbomb999 · 2022-06-13T01:50:17+00:00

3) Some men don't purposely lie to women pretending to be interested just to get sex. I think what actually happens is they lose interest after they have sex.

In other words, they weren't trying to mislead or deceive you originally, just authentically just lost attraction after hooking up is all. Post nut clarity.

Most guys don't just lie to get sex. The girl could be hot but you quickly find out she has the personality of a 5 year old and is literally "just hot", but you are already time or money invested so you want to find out if she is any good in bed and surprise, surprise, not only can she not hold a conversation, but she is completely useless in bed and has no sexual skills. At all. So you cut your losses and bail.

Most women would do better to invest in their sexual skills and fitness over how to apply 6 coats of makeup.

I'd say the vast majority of men don't just lie to women to have sex and bail. If the sex was any good, these guys would come back for more.

6) I think when women who shoot too far out of their league just end up fucked zoned. Sure that handsome physician will send you witty memes, pay for take out and do the dishes after a night of sex, but that's where it stops with him.

There's a huge difference in men who will have fwb with you and men who you have a chance of being in a healthy relationship with. I've seen this phenomenon A LOT with my female friends who use dating apps

But it's their own fault and nobody will be honest with them because they get tons of free validation, they want to believe the hype because it feels good vs cold honesty and it feels good to get oh so close to a top 10% guy that they could never meet in real life in their social circles. Everyone wants a quick swipe shortcut. Nobody wants to invest the time or effort.

2022-06-13T02:44:50+00:00

Women enjoy sex more than men and are easy to satisfy. And the clit is not hard to find.

spicy-nachos · 2022-06-13T00:01:40+00:00

Open relationships should be the default relationship model.

(And by open relationship I mean a non-monogamous one. Both partners remain emotionally exclusive, but are allowed to have casual sexual relationships with others)

A big reason partners cheat is stagnation in the bedroom; they may feel undesired, neglected, unfulfilled, or just generally want some variety. While you can certainly work on this, there comes a point where one partner or both become unhappy. Having an open relationship model combats this as it eliminates the concept of cheating entirely. Emotional cheating still exists since humans are pair bonding, yes, but granting both partners sexual freedom makes for happier and more sexually satisfying relationships.

2022-06-13T02:11:05+00:00

Number 7 isn't unpopular....

Mr-Kabuki · 2022-06-13T02:27:19+00:00

Being more masculine won’t save your dating in and of itself. Of course masculinity is a requirement, but many guys are TOO logical, which is common amongst men. Many guys would benefit from actually learning to speak more with emotions (becoming in tune with feminine side) and just overall being more fun. Masculine frame, feminine social intuition.

Irrelephant_867 · 2022-06-13T02:46:07+00:00

Unpop Opinion: women (maybe even men too) expect the Disney love fantasy.

Love at first sight, he woo'd me with a magical chance encounter, I felt light as a feather when we bumped into each other and I dropped my books, our eyes met as he helped me gather my things, some of my papers ended up in his things and he found my phone number then happily ever after..

Get real; headphones in, eyes down, phone in hand, if anyone bumped into you that wasn't young Brad Pitt you wouldn't give the time of day, much less allow someone strike up a conversation.

Oh btw if you're at all right of flaming liberal, forget about it.

Relationships are WORK, courting is WORK, love is WORK, FOR MEN AND WOMEN. The initial attraction fades, the sex fades, all that's left is 8-6 and 2+ kids, hoping you can make mortgage, waiting for the next season of wtfever is decent enough to look forward to binging it.

That's why affairs are so common, it's the last sense of excitement many people feel.

It doesn't have to be, but we're all so dopamine infused every.fking.day that just time together forever is painfully droll.

tl;dr, I'm a bitter divorcee who is salty that courting is such a pain in the ass these days.

HowToStud · 2022-06-12T22:13:51+00:00

Most dating advice is actually shit. Don’t be yourself. Don’t take the moral high ground. Don’t be on dating apps expecting to get🐱thinking it’s some magic trick to get girls. If you’re ugly in real life you’re uglier online. Improve yourself relentlessly to become better and even out the playing field instead of spending time and money on dating apps.

Jilluminati1 · 2022-06-12T23:51:28+00:00

Your 2nd point is massively wrong lol maybe for first dates but second dates? Please don’t be happy to date a hot psycho keep fishing

MrBlack__ · 2022-06-12T22:25:18+00:00

Guys have it better than girls, we just bitch about it not being easier

salamanderc0mmander · 2022-06-13T01:03:41+00:00

Also 4th date is way too soon to be thinking about a relationship. Especially if you havent even poked yet, cmon.

Mc_Dickles · 2022-06-13T03:48:29+00:00

A lot you would be more successful if you didn't already hate yourself lol

N7FAN4EVER · 2022-06-12T21:50:51+00:00

There should be MUTAL interest before even approaching

ShadowFoxxx15 · 2022-06-12T23:00:39+00:00

Never ask a woman to walk out to your car. She will automatically think you are trying to get your dick sucked behind a dumpster or rape her lol 🤦🏿‍♂️

koolex · 2022-06-13T00:30:09+00:00

For #2 I would extend or maybe replace it with women who don't get second dates on OLD just have pictures that look better than they do in person. That was the #1 reason I didn't have a 2nd date with women.

Mc_Dickles · 2022-06-13T02:54:12+00:00

You can't be friends with a woman, because 99% of the time, you want to fuck her

2022-06-13T03:08:49+00:00

I’d say 7 isn’t really accurate. If you’re ugly - doesn’t matter what energy you put out. If you dry her up on sight - it’s not happening regardless of “energy” or “vibes”. I’ve seen some pretty confident, happy, and good dudes get nowhere with women because they were ugly.

2022-06-13T03:33:21+00:00

There is a belief that someone is out there for everyone. It's not true. Some people are just unattractive and can't find anyone to get engaged with. We all have to deal with what we are given.

the_boss_jos007 · 2022-06-13T03:47:31+00:00

Online dating sucks for most and is unnatural. I think online dating has eroded the value of face to face interactions with people. It makes people a lot more “replaceable”, specially men. You could be meeting a girl and having great conversations with her and a great date but she may be having chad in her dm who is just going to fuck her and leave her. (They get fucked zone, as OP said) Seems like a lot of girls think they are top tier and that men in dating apps are there to impress them. When in reality they are average. Having a pussy doesn’t magically make them special. Of course, this is fueled by the simps who would say anything and do anything just to get their dick wet. Is a fucked up circle of unreasonable expectations and disappointments.

uniqueruntimeerror · 2022-06-13T08:52:29+00:00

that having options is just an illusion. It can’t possibly work out with anyone. Some encounters and relationships are simply meant to be.

En0maly · 2022-06-14T13:46:41+00:00

If your looking for more then sex, being a dude in the online dating world is amazing. So many wonderful women looking for a real connection. There is a fallacy that woman have it so good because of all the attention and proposition for sex they receive. But the truth is that Woman are forced to settle much more then men are and they struggle to find quality men because the truth is, there aren't a lot of us willing to put in the work.

Title	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, or have serious suspicion of, but would get you down voted to all hell
Author	Everlast23
Upvotes	146
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Date	June 12, 2022 6:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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