Still don’t know what the fuck to talk about when I meet a girl at a party or a night out

Contango6969 · 2022-05-06T04:58:53+00:00

You should be able to talk about things around you, herself and yourself. But if you just can’t, put that autism to work and learn everything there is to know about women’s shoes, astrology, and greys anatomy.

VoyPerdiendo1 · 2022-05-06T09:06:33+00:00

I'll give you a bit of "anti-advice".

Do you know how to make friends with the guys at a party? Can you easily socialize with the dudes? Probably not.

Take one step back and start building your social skills up from there. Practice chatting up random dudes at parties. That'll reduce any pressure to perform with the girls, you'll be more relaxed and you'll learn faster.

Try to make light-hearted banter, joke with the people, make them laugh. It's a thing of emotions, it's how you say things, not what you say necessarily. Almost act like you're trying to "flirt" with the dudes, in essence there is not much difference (the only difference is the emotion that you're trying to convey through "flirting" - with girls it's that of attraction, and with guys it's liking them as friends).

This is very similar to the "kino" advice - don't just kino girls, kino everyone - your friends, the waiter, random people you just met, your mother and father, your cousins, your friends dog, etc. By kinoing everyone you're teaching your brain to start doing it subconsciously and automatically, that way it'll be 100% natural when you do end up doing it with a girl you like. Same thing wrt chatting people up - make it AUTOMATIC!

And one last thing - there is no "cookbook recipe" to follow when it comes to talking to people, it's a skill, so treat it and learn it as such (I guess you can use "routines" when you first start out learning, but over time you should develop the skill).

vardarac · 2022-05-06T06:25:17+00:00

Ask her about herself. Where does she go to school, or work? What does she like to do for fun? Ask her about hobbies, family or anything she’s passionate about. If you can get a girl to talk about herself, you just sit back and listen. Girls/ Women love to talk about themselves and the only thing they love more than talking about themselves, is having someone that will listen to them. Learn that skill.

RedHatGuy255 · 2022-05-06T07:57:35+00:00

FORD - Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams

koolex · 2022-05-06T06:44:14+00:00

If you really can't think of anything just make up an assumption about her, "You look like a girl who only drinks whisky neat" which is probably wrong but she'll ask you why you said that and correct you on what she does like to drink and it lends itself to more conversation. If you got it right she'll think you're some sort of Sherlock and be impressed and you just keep making assumptions.

NilacTheGrim · 2022-05-06T06:40:58+00:00

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barakamon1 · 2022-05-06T06:45:42+00:00

Talk about the dumbest shit ever. Just try to have fun with it. Where ever the conversation goes. Assume shit about her

Sandvicheater · 2022-05-06T08:39:27+00:00

Everybody likes movies, everybody likes TV shows, everybody likes food etc etc

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-05-06T07:03:37+00:00

Whatever you say or describe to her will go into her head, and be imagined by her, and change how she feels.

I mean, I know it's obvious - but what you say, she will listen to and interpret!

So you need to ask yourself "What mental states do I want her to be in when she is around me?", and then in an otherwise, innocuous, and normal sounding conversation, you accurately DESCRIBE those things you want her to feel. Then you talk about the processes that take place when people feel all those things. Then you say it all in a sexy voice.

If she wants to do all the talking, that's fine. Ask her questions on those topics and watch her hypnotise herself as she recalls those feelings to mind.

The first thing you want her to feel is a combination of trust, comfort, and being connected. You need her to feel all those things first before you get into the heavy stuff.

Once you're at that point, you can start working on fascination, slavish obedience, addiction, horniness, and lust.

If you make it that far without triggering her, she'll probably try to rape you.

simbuah · 2022-05-06T08:01:46+00:00

Just listen to her very attentively and reply to her words without thinking. If yo bare paying full attention to her talking, you cannot overthink and censor yourself, words will flow freely

NilacTheGrim · 2022-05-06T09:58:13+00:00

I always go with "eyy bby. want sum fuk?"

Suspicious-Factor466 · 2022-05-07T02:03:35+00:00

Talk about FORD. Family, occupation, recreation, and dreams.

Avoid talking about RAPE. Religion, abortion, politics, (I wanna say) environment 🤔

As other people said, just ask a question. Preferably something off the wall / exciting (girls just wanna have fun, so be fun, help boost the room, dont be boring.)

Rule 1: Be attractive Rule 2: Don't be unattractive

rhofire · 2022-05-06T05:23:49+00:00

I’ve just met someone out, so what do you talk about?

Whatever comes to my mind. And, I'll steer the conversation towards sex. If she's not interested, I bounce. If I see she is, I just make my moves.

Codename-Misfit · 2022-05-06T08:18:40+00:00

Brodoggy dawg, use the FORD method to initiate small talk and build rapport. F - family, O - Occupation, R - recreation and D - Dreams.

You could also go with ' lovely weather today, innit ? ' or something more bar appropriate - music, the crowd, etc.

I've found the FORD system to deliver. Now it depends how well you put it to use.

cheesencracker222 · 2022-05-06T04:39:47+00:00

Following

whiplash81 · 2022-05-06T10:54:04+00:00

Your issue isn't the topic of conversation.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-05-06T10:23:22+00:00

Read “The game” by Neill Strauss. The book will answer your question. In great detail and examples.

zsugacsava · 2022-05-06T19:02:14+00:00

Ask them abut their cock size

spookyslime12 · 2022-05-06T21:26:26+00:00

If you’re already insulting them (“her shit tattoos” comment) I wouldn’t bother trying to talk to them. If I can sense you’re already an asshole from this post, 9/10 I’ll sense it in person and cut the conversation short.

roxroxroxxx · 2022-05-06T16:05:12+00:00

Tbh it sounds like you probably should focus less on trying to talk to women (who are really just humans like yourself) and probably work on yourself and being less of a douche

burncushlikewood · 2022-05-06T07:49:27+00:00

https://youtu.be/I-GWFWc8P4Y

Kitchen_Entertainer9 · 2022-05-06T09:23:34+00:00

At parties I just compliment what I like about her or why she stood out😂. "Hey, nice shirt!"

" you alright? You seem lost?" Or stuff like that. Might be just me though, but it helps

NilacTheGrim · 2022-05-06T10:00:04+00:00

Most women love to talk about travel and astrology. Talk about travel, trips you want to take, places you've been, how cool it was, what was bad about it, etc. Ask her where she's been too. If you've both happened to have traveled to the same places you can talk about what you both liked or disliked about it and reminisce about it. That's a good 30 minute conversation right there potentially. One that is memorable and not generic and breaks the ice.

Also, if you are into astrology (and she is), that's also a huge huge thing to talk about. But this interest is rarer these days. However that can be a huge 30-60 minute conversation if you are into the topic.

TLu_03 · 2022-05-06T11:35:59+00:00

My go-to questions are:

1) worst and best part of your job 2) tell me something you are really passionate about 3) so what do you do for self care?

sexsex69420irl · 2022-05-06T12:15:22+00:00

Whatever you talk to with men,have the mindset that woman aint shit.

LucianU · 2022-05-06T12:35:12+00:00

Find out what her journey on this space rock is like.

Legitimate_Delay · 2022-05-06T12:40:19+00:00

Passionate, carefree authenticity don't fake your likes and dislikes cuz that would be fucken gross

iamethgod · 2022-05-06T13:01:37+00:00

You can talk about anything just have emotion behind it

CicyphusRex · 2022-05-06T15:52:27+00:00

You don't know what to talk about right now because you're not in the situation and natural conversations are very contextual.

You don't know what to talk about when you're in the situation due to nerves and/or lack of exposure, so just keep trying! Eventually, you'll naturally flow into conversation. The pain period is real, just keep pushing!

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-05-06T16:07:33+00:00

It depends. I sort of read their vibe and decide what to talk about...everyone is different.

For instance, I had a date with this man who was undecided in his future career plans, and after speaking to him for several hours, I thought NEUROSCIENCE was the PHD he should attain...

not psychology....

Well, let's see if he ever agrees with me...

Active-Drama3360 · 2022-05-06T19:41:47+00:00

Introduce yourself then Ask her what’s her name ask her about her family what she does in her free time, her job/ occupation, and what are her dreams this is the key guideline to starting a conversation, also don’t and I mean do not be the guy who talks about only themselves if you listen to a woman that will go miles ahead than a guy who talks about himself and if you remember certain key details or things they like, don’t forget to add some type of humor I don’t think anyone likes 21 questions, also if that doesn’t work really just talk about whatever you want just have confidence when your talking. Don’t overthink that will lead to a bland ass conversation let your words flow.

Also here another thing if your going to compliment don’t make it something like smile or something like hair; most likely if they have a nice smile or body they already get compliments from it and ain’t fw dudes who do this it’s terrible game. Make it something like her nails, piercings, basically essentially anything you can tell she puts a lot of time and effort into

merf_me2 · 2022-05-07T02:58:21+00:00

Just remember she's a person and talk to her like you would some random stranger. You will either hit it off or you won't and it's all good either way. Before I learnt that I once opened a conversation about dead rats or some awful thing lol because I was nervous

Title	Still don’t know what the fuck to talk about when I meet a girl at a party or a night out
Author	FaithInStrangers94
Upvotes	188
Comments	74
Date	May 6, 2022 4:27 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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