My friends dating success made me envious of him to the point that we aren’t friends anymore

SpookyKG · 2022-04-01T19:15:02+00:00

'Dating success' is not an issue.

Your 'friend' was using you for his ego and purposefully trying to hurt you and lower you down so he could feel a little higher.

He's not a friend.

Leave your thoughts on 'dating success' out of it.

MountainGoatSC · 2022-04-01T18:03:59+00:00

Sounds like a shitty "friend"

Pedalcrunch · 2022-04-01T17:51:51+00:00

Gosh man, that's how it works, I'm like you I don't get much attention, hang in there bro and yeah keep that info to yourself.

earthwalker7 · 2022-04-01T22:00:31+00:00

For a second I thought u were just unnecessarily jealous until you said he’s sent audio clips and FaceTimes of that shit

That’s fucked dude and staying around him is only hurting you. He’s fucked in the head, say it like it is

miaou_dubois · 2022-04-01T21:12:40+00:00

Your friend sounds wild toxic.

he usually disappears for months and talks to me whenever he feels like it.

Friend, first off?

he would stop talking to me when I would tell him about a girl

An insecure friend, at that. I mean, this guy sounds like he would do something crazy like...

constantly facetime for me to see the women he was with.

Hm... why would an insecure, withdrawn "friend" do such a thing?

I was so jealous especially since I was struggling and it was hurting me

I mean, I know insecure people like to make others jealous...

He would send me all of his conversations with these women

Why would he do that?

he would 1) stop talking to me when I would tell him about a girl or 2) tell me that I was lying or 3) message that same girl I would be talking about

Oh yes, jealousy.

Anyway, what I'm trying to get at here, is this person isn't a very good friend to you. I mean, I would never send a bunch of attractive boys' pictures to my friend, any of my friends, because it might ignite her insecurities. Oh, look at me, look how many boys I'm getting. Or a good job, or whatever. Anybody who participates in any gaudy behavior like that is just trying to get a rise out of you.

I mean, you actually must be pretty attractive, because he's trying to get you angry, so if you get jealous and angry, it must mean something to your friend, who is pulling all these attractive women. So at least he perceives you to be attractive. He's jealous of you for some reason.

Anyway, pick up, Chuck, it's just online dating. It's abysmal for most men. And don't consider this guy as anybody trustworthy. Please. Have better taste in friends.

Ejmd4328 · 2022-04-01T18:20:00+00:00

Maybe your thing isn’t hinge, maybe you gotta cold approach a stranger and end the convo with hey I think you’re really cute could I get your number so we can catch up sometime. Even if the girl is ugly lol she might bring you around some cute friends and if you’re using her for her friends then change the word cute with cool

Rockfella27 · 2022-04-01T18:46:02+00:00

Looks do matter a lot.

LordCarnifex · 2022-04-01T19:39:51+00:00

First, you can't be anyone's friend unless you can be genuinely happy for their success. People bonded in resentment and fuckery form crabs-in-the-bucket bonds where everything is cool til one of you starts crawling out, so stop that shit. Second, who gives a fuck about Hinge? Good for the dude, glad he's fucking, but sending audio to your buddies or feeling like a badass is a goal rooted in impressing other men, not in actually meeting and enjoying women. There is no way the bitterness you're displaying here isn't bleeding into your game like an open headwound, so you to a.) figure out what you actually want and b.) ensure the answer to that question isn't securing outcomes where the only goal is to impress men.

2022-04-01T23:18:24+00:00

I can relate. I had a best friend who was a horrible person, but is has a magnet personality. Women flock to him like flies to shit, but don't stick around when they find out he is an asshole. We fell out because if his manipulative behaviour.

RoadyCoder · 2022-04-02T02:23:45+00:00

I feel two ways about this;

First - your ‘friend’ is a bit of a cunt and an energy thief and you’d be better served to put some distance between you and him.

Second - As toxic as he is, he’s doing something right. He’s getting the results you want for yourself. What is it? Look at his hinge profile. Look at his chat logs. Observe his interactions with women. Compare and contrast. Where is he strong where you are weak? What is he doing that you’re not? You can take this opportunity to learn a thing or two from him before you send him on his way for good.

iKonstX · 2022-04-01T18:11:26+00:00

This just kills any “theory” this sub comes up with.

Looks are first. Then everything else follows.

Muramasaika · 2022-04-01T21:25:00+00:00

Your problem is your lack of self esteem. You didn't confront him about how his behavior made you feel, so you ended up ghosting him without him even knowing what was wrong. Maybe he's a bad friend, maybe he's not, but running away isn't what a good friend does.

If you have problem with women to the point it makes you resent your friend, then you're part of the problem. I have more or less the same situation, I have a friend who's very good at attracting girl, be it physically or verbally. Sometimes, it can be bothering because he can attract girls that interest me. But when that happens, I don't go on pointless contests with him, i only compete with myself.

I focus on myself and studies, i go to the gym, do trekking and i don't try to be someone i'm not. In the end it attracts some girls, not as beautiful as the ones he attracts, not as quickly either, but it's better than 3 years ago and i'm not complaining.

Yff7yy · 2022-04-01T23:44:34+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy.

IHave20 · 2022-04-02T01:04:24+00:00

That’s not a friend

GaryOakTPM · 2022-04-02T01:10:35+00:00

Damn that guys sounds insecure as fuck

Not to be hurtful, but that guy is not a friend of yours. That guy is actively trying to make you feel shitty.

SummerEarly · 2022-04-02T01:37:19+00:00

Fuck that friend

Ephraim_Winslow1891 · 2022-04-01T21:17:37+00:00

I’d quit being friends with someone like that too, fuck that guy.

Alternative_Title384 · 2022-04-02T01:51:17+00:00

Sorry man, but your “friend” sounds like a piece of s***

StaticNocturne · 2022-04-02T05:26:57+00:00

He's not a friend he's a pathetic narcissist and you shouldn't waste another second of thought on him

2022-04-02T05:48:29+00:00

Your friend kinda kinky for humiliating you or something

Archyblackcat · 2022-04-01T20:06:38+00:00

Looks do matter bro , game is only to get a girlfriend .. not to land a one night stand or friends with benefits.. To do that you need both looks and game.. However, if you want a good looking serious girl friend then you need game , time and patience (looks not so much, just dress cool).. if you wanna get better results when finding a fling or friend with benefits then all you can do is hit the gym and wear clothes that show your muscles a bit more , if a girl isn’t attracted to your face but is attracted to your body then you have a fighting chance there

MentalCelOmega · 2022-04-02T00:05:08+00:00

Moral of the story. Its all about looks. OP got a taste of the blackpill.

earthwalker7 · 2022-04-02T00:06:40+00:00

Your friend sounds uncaring and a piss poor friend. But he is successful with women, which is what you want to be. Learn from him, figure out what makes him successful, and emulate that. Then unfriend him. Use from him what serves you and forget the rest.

Former_Candle1330 · 2022-04-02T04:43:38+00:00

Can you send me the audio clips? I'm curious.

daddysgotanew · 2022-04-02T02:45:58+00:00

Looks are the number one predictor of dating success. And 95 percent of men don’t pass the “lust” threshold. Who knew?

MihaiRau · 2022-04-01T18:11:26+00:00

It's possible that he made fake accounts and was actually talking to himself. The amount of dates that he gets is a sign of alarm to me, because there is a very high competition there, I checked when I entered on my wife's account and her inbox exploded in 30 mins while on mine got 5 matches and empty inbox.

Also the fact that he shows all this to you is highly suspect behavior that is employed by cheaters.

Ozziella · 2022-04-01T23:21:16+00:00

This makes me think of a boy who i talked to for a bit. We stopped because i was with my ex boyfriend but he would message me and tell me that girls would send him naked pictures of themselves to him. I just told him, "Be wary of gonorrhea and clymadia."

GanjaNative · 2022-04-01T23:48:17+00:00

Duck never kiss and tell smh to your old acquaintance

Chance_Zone_8150 · 2022-04-02T00:29:23+00:00

If thats your friend and yall been on and off you really shouldve checked him or let him know the deal

originalgainster · 2022-04-02T02:33:53+00:00

Hey man that's just how it is some guys are better with women than others so don't fret. If online dating isn't working for you I would say just delete all those apps and try talking to women in real life and who knows maybe you'll be more successful that way.

Significant-Carpet31 · 2022-04-02T05:46:06+00:00

Can you tell me how does he have it so easy? Can you copy his moves ?

Maybe study him and apply the same moves, that way he'll be useful !

cronasminate · 2022-04-02T07:00:04+00:00

Meh your friend sounds like he’s trying too hard to prove to you what a player he is. Willing to bet most of those lays are not as frequent as he’s making them out to be, hence he disappears for months.

DarkSun18 · 2022-04-02T07:47:59+00:00

If he’s more attractive and more of a catch then he’ll get the hotter women, that’s just how it is.

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-04-02T08:30:15+00:00

Guy sounds like an arsehole. But he is attractive and not acting unattractive when with these women.

What is he doing that gets him this success then emulate it.

Title	My friends dating success made me envious of him to the point that we aren’t friends anymore
Author	LeadingDraw1567
Upvotes	201
Comments	98
Date	April 1, 2022 5:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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