Dont be afraid to approach women.

thriwawaygtft4df · 2022-02-17T01:04:50+00:00

Well said. One of the best casual relationships I have had was with someone I met on a train. Turned out to the be one of the wildest experiences of my life. It all started with approaching a woman on the train.

somethinlikeshieva · 2022-02-17T02:41:00+00:00

One reason I don’t approach right now is because my outer game ain’t right. I could definitely use some better clothes and a nicer hair cut maybe? Plus I’m overweight as well

jazilli · 2022-02-17T04:53:50+00:00

That's how I met my ex gf lol. Saw her at a party and absolutely had to have her so I walked up to her to introduce myself and start a conversation, and you know the rest.

Principatus · 2022-02-17T05:30:54+00:00

One thing that helped me a lot was randomly talking with women with the intention of flirting with them but no real goal beyond that. Not trying to get laid, not trying to get a girlfriend. Just going for a flirty conversation, that’s all.

I had a lot of fun. One time I chatted up a girl on the bus and she told me she had a boyfriend, so I gave her a wink wink nudge nudge and asked if he was getting the job done. I was just fucking around to see what I could get away with. She felt relaxed with my cheeky, relaxed frame, and didn’t take any offense. She casually replied no, but she wasn’t ready to break up with him yet or cheat on him. She was tempted! I took that as an absolute win. So I just told her he was a lucky dude and changed the subject.

Point is, all the practice flirting with no goal helped me relax. Helped me initiate without fear. Helped me stop taking myself so seriously, which helped the women relax around me. And it was also practice at flirting so I got better at it over time.

MeanYeti · 2022-02-17T03:36:38+00:00

If only I could get my conversations to sound natural. Knowing what to say would help, too.

Kitchen-Landscape735 · 2022-02-17T03:34:55+00:00

‘Don’t be afraid’ as if it’s that easy. No matter how much reasoning one can do some people can’t get over that fear. Hell I heard Chris Williamson on YouTube talk about how firefighters or bomb disposal people were more afraid of approaching women than their line of work.

earthwalker7 · 2022-02-17T05:39:35+00:00

Totally agree. I get a buzz out of every shot I take, especially with a hottie. I get a buzz on the adrenaline of the hunt, having the courage to try, and seeing her smile even in the cases where I'm not a fit. Rejection is just that "Not a fit, right now." Yeah, maybe she has a bf, or maybe I'm not her type. 85% of the girls out there aren't my type either. So what? Just trying to find a match is not depressing. It's beyond thrilling!

SadBox4529 · 2022-02-17T15:08:02+00:00

I’m rusty from Covid restrictions,social distancing and masks. But I approached one girl but was clearly nervous. A “friend” who was afraid to approach her started clowning me and trying to make himself look good, had to cut him off coz his an A grade hater

T4mvv1lc0xx · 2022-02-17T10:53:37+00:00

Also stop trying to wear a mask too much. You can actually have a genuine conversation with the girl you're talking. This is why I hate the term "game". Strikes me as acting too much

H8beingmale · 2022-02-17T18:02:47+00:00

well people always say that men want to get laid more than women do, hence why women normally never approach guys, even if they are attracted to him, so i'm not sure if i buy that women are just as horny as men are

amyg36819 · 2022-02-17T13:23:35+00:00

as a horny woman, i can confirm

False_Bear_8645 · 2022-02-17T05:22:30+00:00

I can feel their disgust in their eyes and voice before I can talk.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-17T14:15:42+00:00

How do you deal with the spotlight effect when wanting to approach a woman? basically not going for it cause there’s tons of people around

OKKira · 2022-02-17T06:14:56+00:00

Sometimes I read the posts in this sub and I feel like you guys are from a different planet. Unless we're having a girl's night out or at some kind of function, I'm at a club for the same reason you're at a club.

Unless I have sex, I masturbate every night. Shocker?

CenaSmackDown · 2022-02-17T05:42:33+00:00

I can sit around here all day and rattle off scientific facts that will convince that typically women have lower sex drives than men, and that the average guy will be better off understanding this, or I can just nod my head because I don't want to spend all evening arguing with someone in online forums.

rewinder909 · 2022-02-17T19:23:52+00:00

How to approach girls you see often, it's not like you'll never see her ever again.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-17T02:08:43+00:00

Ofc women love sex. They're more open and casual about it than they've ever been. But they're also the most entitled, shallow, selective and particular they've ever been as well. They still have standards and preferences. If you're attractive then you have nothing to worry about in regards to approaching random women. If you're not good-looking...well..lol. Women want to get hit on provided they find you attractive. Maybe don't leave that major part out, it's kinda important.

No-Department6252 · 2022-02-17T13:34:43+00:00

being a creep is entirely subjective to the woman and how she feels. the more good-looking you are the less likely she perceives you as a creep based on the halo effect

Dry-Communication300 · 2022-02-18T01:25:59+00:00

They don’t come off as desperate because they have like a million more better looking guys than you knocking down their doors. Stop with the blue pilled BS please and thank you.

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-02-17T09:45:53+00:00

I've said this on other threads but girls try to bang me out all the time. You only a creep if you ugly or out of shape. lol. Big up yourself. I find them annoying as I get hit on all the time. I'm not giving a random girl my number unless she's super hot.

2022-02-17T03:10:41+00:00

Your absolutely right!

Loki112612 · 2022-02-17T05:40:52+00:00

Your the real MVP

crazy_science_man · 2022-02-17T07:46:53+00:00

But how do you actually do the second stage of starting up a convo, I personally suck at small talk so what am I meant to say?

IlyaGlazunov · 2022-02-17T15:05:05+00:00

Is this possible at a Target ?

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-02-17T15:20:20+00:00

What do you say?

thadoomburg · 2022-02-17T18:47:36+00:00

It doesn’t mean I’m insecure because I don’t place a man’s looks as super duper high in the importance list. I don’t place a man’s looks high on the importance list because it’s really the last thing that matters when you’re grown. The main things that matter first for me are sense of humor, emotional intelligence, manners, his confidence (when he is comfy with himself but not as asshole narcissist), his self motivation and drive for hobbies, knowledge, how responsible he is, and his hygiene.

Thatpillinibiza · 2022-02-17T20:23:06+00:00

Thank you pimp. A king needed this 🏆

thriwawaygtft4df · 2022-02-17T23:55:40+00:00

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TheHungryRabbit · 2022-02-18T06:51:42+00:00

Man I wish I wouldn’t live in a small town, if I start to flirt with a random girl on the street a few days and everyone knows, especially if I say something stupid, I have to travel down to a different place to practice but for me that sounds desperate, also I don’t want to have any kind of long distance relationship

FearerOvPeople18 · 2022-08-20T02:59:27+00:00

Im afraid of approaching any human being like yeah with girls the anxiety is somewhat higher but i cant approach guys or make friends

Title	Dont be afraid to approach women.
Author	thriwawaygtft4df
Upvotes	375
Comments	114
Date	February 17, 2022 12:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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