Groundbreaking Discovery To Do Your First Cold Approach

imnotsupersure · 2021-12-30T06:06:24+00:00

Or get a job in a clothing store and you're forced to approach attractive women all day as your job.

VorpalPaperclip · 2021-12-30T02:02:18+00:00

Or just say “Hi” till its boring…Then graduation to “How are you?” Then make up something else…

Pissing your pants as a carrot and stick routine is pretty weird.

swarajshimmar · 2021-12-30T09:43:27+00:00

Assume you already know the person you are trying to initiate conversation with. I read it somewhere.

MK2718 · 2021-12-30T13:21:51+00:00

Yeah.... Having the huge need to urinate is not going to help make your first cold approach ever go smoothly. The old recommendation was to give your friend $50 or $100 at the beginning of a night and have him promise you not to return it unless you did X amount of approaches. I would stick with that approach.

Parking_Ad_6189 · 2021-12-30T03:59:39+00:00

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eyesopen1111 · 2021-12-30T03:14:32+00:00

Let’s have a rule that you can only recommend cold approach AFTER you’ve fucked five people by cold approaching them. This way, only legit cold approachers who know what it takes to succeed can recommend this tactic.

Christ, zero lay count virgins who want a gold medal and parade in their honor if they even get a phone number close have this persistent delusion that they’ll walk up to girls and cold approach like some pre-woke 007, solving all their dating problems. THAT’S BULLSHIT. Cold approach is not a solution for beginners. Beginners are not nearly smooth enough yet. FACTS.

Smergmerg432 · 2021-12-30T05:56:20+00:00

I like this! Next time I need to ask for a raise…

2021-12-31T07:50:04+00:00

The reason you are scared of doing your first cold approach is because your ego is in the way and you're afraid of rejection. There's nowhere to hide in a cold approach. The rejection is right to your face. Compare this to dating apps where you can hide behind a screen and you don't have to watch a girl swipe left on you.

The ironic thing is that, once you actually do a cold approach and just put your ego on the line, you realize that the "rejection" is not personal and you are liberated.

This is also why many guys favor indirect cold approaches. Indirect allows them to protect their egos by hiding behind the indirect opening and once again not put themselves on the line.

So what to do?

Go up to the next attractive girl you want to cold approach and just simply say, "Hey I saw you from over there and I thought you looked really cute". Or SOMETHING that puts it on the line.

You're a man it's your duty to put yourself on the line. If you risk little you'll gain little.

thegoatishere · 2021-12-30T18:06:28+00:00

if you’re a real alpha you’d piss your pants as you’re making an approach

WalidfromMorocco · 2021-12-30T11:36:13+00:00

Generally, people who have approach anxiety have anxiety in most social situations.

McWhiters9511 · 2021-12-30T06:43:01+00:00

When has anything in life give the way you thought it would? Never? Most likely. Fear is another thought. Disregard fear.

Aliebaba99 · 2021-12-30T11:15:01+00:00

What are places where you can and can't do this? Like eg grocery store, public transport, etc?

Genetic_Prisoner · 2021-12-30T15:38:19+00:00

Yep i am sure pissing myself infront of an attrictive girl will help with my approach anxiety. Jk. Might try this.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2021-12-30T16:02:23+00:00

I have no fear of women. I have a fear of small talk or running out of things to say. I self calibrate so now I'm looking for the answer to this: why do I fear small talk or running out of things to say? And how do i make small talk not painful? Partial Answer: be genuinely curious about the other person. Partial New Problem: how to be interested in someone enough to want to make small talk (looks aren't an inciting enough enticement here). How does one acquire genuine curiosity about some stranger that isn't based on looks alone?

day_dreamer9711 · 2021-12-30T17:44:27+00:00

Or just grow balls, stop making stupid games and just approach

Xstream3 · 2021-12-30T18:54:58+00:00

The main reason cold approach is scary at first is because you're scared of rejection because you want to get her number.... start practicing by approaching people and not wanting to get their number (just talk to them for a bit and then leave)

_my2cents · 2021-12-30T21:48:45+00:00

As a reasonably attractive woman, I assure you, my cold approach worked close to 100% of the time when I was single

Title	Groundbreaking Discovery To Do Your First Cold Approach
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Upvotes	197
Comments	52
Date	December 30, 2021 1:39 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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