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[–]Mymomdidwhat 117 points118 points119 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t text her wtf are you thinking? Move on from ppl like that.
[–]btrpb 224 points225 points226 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Not reading all that bullshit. If she ghosted you don't text her anything.
Build up your life so that you can take rejection on the chin, cos dating is a numbers game.
[–]productive_guy123 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Came here to say this
[–]20ftScarf 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ding ding ding, we have a winner. Came here to say this.
Then saw how much you’d written. I’m sorry. That sucks. But move on. If she doesn’t want to talk, it doesn’t matter what you say to her.
[–]bimmerboy7 4 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I usually do have that mindset. It’s just rare to for me meet someone that is my type, statistically speaking of course. Mainly I just want to know why so I can improve my game for the next girl.
[–]McWhiters9511 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Type is just another word for pickiness. It changes with every person we meet. Has nothing to do with compatability.
[–]HitboxOfASnail 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
she probably just feels bad/self conscious about the period sex and doesnt know how to address it in a way that doesnt make her lose face, so its just easier for her to find someone else.
If its genuinely bneen 2 weeks and you havent said shit, its probably worth one more text, something super casual and shows you dont give a fuck about the incident. Something like "hey babe, its been a while, are you free this weekend to do blah blah blah?"
If she doesnt respond then forget it
[–]genesiscz 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This
[–]Ecstatic-Flounder-48 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Bruh. I too only skimmed this, because the title is pretty obvious on it’s own. You’re a high value man, why tf would you go back to someone who ghosted you.
I had an ex with the same shitty commitment style. She was a narcissist. It was a short relationship and she knew all the right things to say. But none of it was real. She told me she loved me and out of the blue dumped me and was completely fine with ghosting and NCing tf outta me. I’m not saying this girl is doing this, but it sure smells like it.
But you’re better than this. Don’t reach out to someone that very clearly dropped you, king.
Yeah I’ve also dated narcissists before. This girl is definitely very appearance based, always dressed to the 9, 7k followers on Instagram, said she used to be a model.
[–]Ecstatic-Flounder-48 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So, question for you. Why do you want to bother yourself with a heartache? She’s already comfortable with fucking with you. Find yourself someone more down to earth that won’t demand the sun and the moon from you
[–]IndianRedditor88 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Looks like, you have been sidelined for someone better, especially if you are not in the leagues of "extremely good looking".
I would recommend to continue your search and find someone who is more trustworthy and genuine as a partner.
Good Luck.
[–]Doctor0z 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ding ding. Pay attention to what women do and they reciprocate by actions, and not what they say.
[–]thethrowowoy 37 points38 points39 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Period sex on the 4th date. That's a messy way for this to end.
She wanted sex. You gave her sex. She probably stopped feeling sexy because of the massacre scene that made you stop.
She has probably now found a fresh slate... one that she isn't going to paint red after the 4th date (sorry).
You know you are simping and that you're only going to give off simping vibes if you reach out again. Don't do it to yourself. You probably wanted someone here to validate you messaging her, but hopefully everyone here is honest.
[–]bimmerboy7-1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
It was towards the end of her period so it wasn’t thattt bad, also I didn’t use a condom so thought it’d be better if we just stopped.
[–]Jazzlike_Weakness_83 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Just a suggestion from a girl. Please wear a condom especially hooking up with a girl for the first couple times or until she comments on it.
Not wearing a condom is such a turn off. It shows you don’t care what she has or what you potentially have. Putting a condom on shows that you are responsible and want to protect her until you and her are comfortable.
Stopping a guy and saying “please wear a condom” is so awkward and is intimidating for many females. Just taking the initiative and doing it is way better.
Maybe you even gave her something and now she is dealing with it? We can all not show signs for up to months and you can still pass STIs on. People from other countries (especially developing countries) wear condoms without question, as the rest of the world should be as well.
[–]kaileeshy 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Female here too… what she said.
[–]bimmerboy7 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t have minded waiting. She was initiating most of it even though I told her I didn’t have one. Did you read the part where I stopped because I realized it was a bad idea? I mean we had a few drinks so we were both a little drunk. If it was that part that offended her, do you think I should bring it up and apologize?
[–]genesiscz 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Absolutely no
[–]Jazzlike_Weakness_83 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No I think you should learn from this moment (especially since you’re 28) and never do it again.
If someone said I don’t have a condom and continued to want to have sex and “only did it a little” I would reflect on my actions and slowly pull away too. You were both wrong but it’s on the guy to put a condom on. Girls have to bend over backwards to get birth control and take it properly, and go through all the side effect…the least you can do is wrap your dick up.
[–]the_stargazer__ 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why will you even TEXT someone who's ghosted you?
Self respect is important.
[–]RealHumanBeing2020 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t text her back. Find someone who’s interested in you.
[–]BlueCollarSinner 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You better get tested for Stds!
[–]Maecyte 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nothing... (Don’t even need to read the story)
[–]huntersnipern 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she ghosted you then you move on plain and simple there is no text on God's earth that will help you out just move on. If she messages you then pick up from there till then dead silence
[–]ORIONFULL23 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There nothing to do , you texted her and she hasn't responded for 2 weeks, we know already what that means, she is not longer interested on you, she might come back at some point, if she does take some days to respond
[–]ItsMeMsG 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just move on bud. She's not worth your effort. If she was really into you, she would have texted back. Good luck out there.
[–]bubblegummybear 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's done, move on. This happens, sometimes people just go through a phase. And don't call women "exotic".
[–]nokenito 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Walk away, onto the next one. Be done.
[–]iammyfathersdad 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Best advice for period sex is to do it in the shower without the water running. Once you’re done cuddle wash up then turn the lights on.
None of the goriness/embarrassment and all of the sex.
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[–]AmberWaves80 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are none. Once someone ghosts, just let it go.
[–]Fluffy_Risk9955 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She needed sex. You provided that to her. Move on. There’s more women like that who just get a man when they’re in their ovulatory period after that they ditch him. Just like that.
Next time when you sleep with her. Send her a text after with “that was 🔥🔥🔥” and see how she responds.
[–]aneverconfusedbeing 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Use condoms. And don’t call women exotic
[–]Ice94k 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
did anybody say Brazil?
As a guy who only hooked up with Brazilian girls, that happens. Move on, but if you really want to talk to her again, try sending "Oi sumida". Kind of a cultural joke here, so she might be surprised.
[–]bimmerboy7 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I’m assuming you live in Brazil/are Brazilian. Why do you think she ghosted? I don’t think there was a new guy so it must be something I did. And lololol thanks thought she might get freaked out how I know to say that lmao
[–]Ice94k 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I might have some insight to offer.
First of all, about what you said about her being really passionate from the start: A lot of girls here do that. Its seen as "seductive", even if they just wanna bang. What makes me think this may not be the case is the future talking, generaly it only goes as far as to call you "love" or "Darling".
Second of all, if you guys had sex while she was in her period, without condom, and she told you to not stop but you did, she may have felt really weird, but only expressed it in the morning, when possibly she had already thought about it and/or talked about it with a friend.
Third, about the "Oi sumida", you should know it is kind of a meme here. When you send it to someone, it generaly means "I want to see/Bang you again", or "I need a favor" depending on your relationship previous to the texting. For extra effect, you might send "Oi sumida rsrs", which is righer hisk, but also higher reward. If she's any age younger than 36, she'll probably understand.
And yes, I'm Brazilian and I live in Brazil.
[–]bimmerboy7 4 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the insightful write up. I think you're right it definitely had something to do with the sex. A more detailed version of what happened: We were obviously both annoyed that her period is lasting so long because she has an IUD, but she kept saying "I want to f*ck you so bad". She asked me if I was clean and I said yeah. Eventually we gave in and had sex for a few minutes, I have a 2 piece couch and it was starting to split apart and she was going to fall in so I pulled out and saw there was blood. Then my logical brain kicked in about the condoms etc. so I stopped and asked her to hand me the towel (since she was closer to it). It wasn't awkward at all, she said wow that felt great and said we have some unfinished business. The rest of the night with the concert went well, we had a great time, she acted as per usual. When we got back to my house, she was like "tsk, you don't use condoms" and I said "I usually do but it was just for a bit". She replied all it takes is a little bit to get pregnant. In my head I was like I'd be more concerned about STDs then pregnancy since she has an IUD but okay.
As for the future plans, yeah we talked about going to NYC together next month, going to an upcoming EDM fest, taking me to Brazil one day, etc. I don't think she was just in it for the sex but possibly.
What does Oi Sumida rsrs mean as opposed to just Oi Sumida? She is 25 years old.
[–]Ice94k 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Rsrs means "risos risos" ("Laughter Laughter") and its commonly used for flirting nowadays.
Be careful, it may all be a plan to make you come to Brazil
Rsrs I see. I don’t think so she is going to get her US citizenship or green card soon. And she does like it here. She definitely made me only want to date Brazilian women though. I’ll probably send the Oi Sumida sometime this week rsrs. Will reply back and update.
[–]Ice94k 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I hope everything goes alright for you! But keep it cool dude, you're already overusing "rsrs" lol Will be waiting for the update.
[–]bimmerboy7 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I know, I’m jk lol. Question: do you think she would assume I only want sex if I sent Oi Sumida? I don’t wanna come off as that. We never talked sexually over text, she’s actually very soft spoken and a bit shy in person.
[–]Ice94k 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't see a reason for her to think that.
[–]Ice94k 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also, brazilian girls are just like any other girl. And so, about the "beta provider shit, I think whatever you read only meant for you not to overly sexualize a girl bc she is brazilian, since it happens a lot when there are foreigners here.
[–]slickestwood 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell her the person who admitted you two into the concert has gone missing. You're the last two to see them alive and the police need to speak to her immediately.
When she responds to that, you leave her ass on "read." See how she likes it.
[–]Hot_Experience5899 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How old did you say you was again?
[–]bimmerboy7 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’m 28. She’s 25.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Boy you too old to be doing this
[–]bimmerboy7 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do what lol
[–]Hot_Experience5899 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh boy!
[–]raradj 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This whole thread is disgusting.
[–]Safe-Investigator271 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
'I sense an paranormal disturbance in the air'
[–]FlanneryODostoevsky 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just substitute her name in the lyrics of Eminem's "Stan" or "Kill You."
[–]Narcan9 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just ask why did you disappear? Maybe you will get some closure and peace of mind. Other than that, erase all of her contact info and never talk to her again.
[–]harvey_croat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love on the 4th date? C'mon on man. Next time have some fun but have your own purpose. She wasn't into you
[–]bandsupjay 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
U dont text her anything. Shes playing the game of seeing how confident you are or trying to get u to submit. Sit back enjoy life and date other women
[–]Lemon8007 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i got this from tiktok and it worked; “why did you give up on responding to me.”
[–]M1K3Y_2030 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dick pic 👍
[–]chqxx 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know you want closure but messaging her is more than likely to lead to disappointment//dissatisfaction. This happens sometimes, gl my dude
[–]Tricky_332 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brazilian chicks are crazy move on dude
[–]Ok_Worldliness_6657 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude, she’s a smokin hot Brazilian on dating apps she’s either playing or angling. Be careful
[–]kur0ikunn 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
4 dates🚫, excessive spending🚫, mid sex stoppage🚫,condom talk🚫, dodgy past🚫, GHOSTING🚫. Dude wake the fuck up, lmao. You are not seducing here. You are being used.
[–]mr-rakecake 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brother you’re title says it all. Don’t text her
[–]buffnecknorest927267 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she ghosted you, you ghost her back, if she’s hot you can smash then ghost her.
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