Invited to spend the weekend at a lake house by a group of girls.

magicroot75 · 2012-05-26T15:37:40+00:00

you want to get lucky? Take a step back and look at your situation for a moment - you have been invited to a weekend at a lake house with a bunch of girls. That sounds lucky to me.

I assume you mean you want to have sex. That means you have attachments to outcomes, which means your happiness is in the hands of things you can't control. That means you have a high chance of being disappointed unless you get what you want.

You will bring that energy with you and others will pick up on it. This attachment will interfere with your internal state and likely cause you not to get what you want.

I don't know you - your age, your financial situation, your looks, your clothing choices..nothing. So my advice has to be very generic.

Smile - a genuine smile is contagious.

Be content just as you are. Most people are not content and are drawn to those who are.

Be curious about everyone around you - ask them questions. Genuine curiosity is a powerful tool.

Kino - Not creepy kino, though. Imagine trying to connect everyone in the room in a ring of energy. When you touch them, then touch another person, you are connecting them. This one is a bit out there but I love using it. People who are hubs of connections are powerful.

Have fun! Worst case you spent a weekend at a lake house with a bunch of people.

scurvebeard · 2012-05-26T14:04:16+00:00

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notcaptainkirk · 2012-05-26T15:35:40+00:00

"Dear reddit, a girl took me into her bed and is taking off my pants. How can I make sure to get laid?"

holst09 · 2012-05-26T15:59:22+00:00

A good first aid kit and adequate supply of food would be a good idea for a lake house

redhonkey34 · 2012-05-26T18:51:59+00:00

http://gifs.gifbin.com/op5q3qg639.gif

gravey727 · 2012-05-26T14:48:38+00:00

Just bring your dick and you'll be all set

lobocop · 2012-05-26T17:09:40+00:00

I agree with lots being said on here but much it doesn't offer you much in the way of practical advice. I'd say when the ratio is as it is, your biggest problem, as in all kinds of game, will be LOGISTICS. How are you going to keep girls from getting jealous, how are you going to isolate, how are you going to find a private place to hookup? You might find yourself in a hot tub with three girls but unless you isolate one of them, you will have a hard time doing anything other than talking/flirting. You might try to "go for a walk" with one of them alone, make out, and then invite her to your room after everyone else is asleep. No one feels slutty in front of her friends, no one gets jealous, and you can relax knowing that later you will get some and just have fun. Pay attention to sleeping arrangements, who is going to get jealous of who, who has their eye on you, and try to align this with who you are most attracted to. You can go for the menage-a-quatre as well but this will take considerably more effort, have a chance of failing, and you might accidentally get this more easily than trying to get this. Have fun! If you can manage to not hook up with anyone but impress people you will almost certainly score points with some girls there and have some nice ladyfriends for the rest of the summer.

skakruk · 2012-05-26T14:05:45+00:00

Well they invited you to their lake house, that says enough in itself.

Just be yourself and be awesome and I'm sure you'll get more than just gettin' lucky.

TonyDAbsolute · 2012-05-26T18:31:48+00:00

This is the perfect plot line for a man with a mask and an ax

DerpVonGroove · 2012-05-26T17:51:48+00:00

Outcome independence man.

Southernz · 2012-05-26T20:12:00+00:00

Cocaine lots of cocaine

idontseddit · 2012-05-26T16:31:49+00:00

That term, 'get lucky', conveys all the wrong ideas.

By getting invited to a private spot where the ladies outnumber you two-to-one, you've already 'gotten lucky'. Now it's time to pick one (or more) of them to make lucky... think of it in those terms and you should have no problem.

willengineerforfood · 2012-05-26T20:49:33+00:00

Bring condoms...

...and maybe lube.

2012-05-26T16:43:05+00:00

Also, make sure everybody drinks.

BinaryShadow · 2012-05-26T15:55:56+00:00

Don't be an idiot. Don't be nervous. Just relax, have fun, make jokes. There's two girls for every guy. It's all a matter of which one (or two) gets to be the lucky one.

magicroot75 · 2012-05-26T18:02:50+00:00

Where is this lakehouse?

throwAwayObama · 2012-05-26T21:34:26+00:00

Good chance they are looking to hook up, they're already attracted, and all you guys have to do is isolate and escalate.

2012-05-27T02:12:39+00:00

Remember to post field report brah

breadrising · 2012-05-27T16:50:14+00:00

First off, check out the sidebar. You can find pretty much anything there.

If you're new to gaming, chances are that you won't be using your pickup skills to get girls, as you won't have any. You will be (as you put it) getting "lucky."

There is no one thing you can do, one thing you can say, certain thing you can wear, etc that will guarantee a girl in your bed. If there's anything you can take from seduction its that this shit takes lots of going out, lots of cold approaching, lots of rejections, and lots of experience to begin actually developing consistent results. Not saying you won't get laid; just saying that it will be all luck, not something that happens because of you controlling the situation.

All of that being said (my general seduction intro to newcomers) there are some things you can do that will at the very least make people enjoy your presence and make them like you, and the first step is being outcome independent, which may be tough considering you really want to get laid (and who wouldn't).

Outcome independence is when you 100% do not care how the night turns out. If you get rejected, if you get laid, if you makeout, if you get a number, if you get ignored the whole night, if you spend the weekend playing crochet in the front lawn; it doesn't matter to you. You are completely cool doing anything. When you want something bad, in this case sex, you automatically reek of desperation. And women can smell it from a mile away. The things you say, your movements, your actions; they all spell out "I WANT TO GET LAID" over your head in neon letters, and this will generally creep people out. The idea is to remove yourself from wanting a certain outcome, and just letting the night happen.
Self-amusement. This goes along with my first point, but takes it a little deeper. Not only do you not care what happens, but you are the source of your own amusement and your own fun. When you're trying to impress someone, all the jokes sound forced and you're constantly reading her to see if she likes you or not. If you're self amused, you're saying whatever you want, regardless of who's listening or who you are talking to. If they take it well and end up liking you; sweet. If they're offended or think you're weird; sweet. You are your own source of fun. This tends to attract people, since most people go out looking for a good time instead of creating one themselves. If they see you're a beacon of value, they will attach themselves to you to try and feed off your good energy.
Talk with enthusiasm. There's a lot on this subreddit lately about vocal projection, and its all good stuff. But its not just about talking with a strong and determined voice; its about being excited about what you're saying. Honestly, you could be talking about street lights or any other boring topic, but if you talked about it with insane passion, people will be drawn in; they'll want to listen to you, no matter what the topic is. Show that you have energy and show that you have passion.
Escalate. Approach a girl and start talking, get to know her a little, laugh with her, and start escalating. Touch her arm when she makes you laugh, lead her to the dancefloor by the small of her back (if there is a dance floor; if there's not, be the fun and make one yourself). Overall you're just getting her warmed up to your touch. Some PUAs say that escalation isn't needed and that you can just go for whatever you want, but those guys are insanely advanced, so I'd recommend playing it safe.
Be the buyer, not the seller. A lot of guys think they need to get this girl to like them, so they revert to the salesman. They sit there and constantly try and validate themselves, as if they're a product and they're trying to prove to the girl that they're worth purchasing. This, again, reeks of desperation. Instead become the buyer. By being outcome independent and self-amused, you're immediately showing her that you're of value. Use your body language to show her "Hey, you're pretty awesome and I like you; but there are lots of other girls here... so what makes you so special?"

Those are just a few things; basic things. But they will help if done right. Overall, just don't give a fuck. Honestly, just look forward to spending the weekend having a good time at a cabin. Don't give a fuck if its sunny, raining, snowing, the music sucks, the people are boring, you get laid, you don't get laid, whatever. Just bring your own energy.

kid-vicious · 2012-05-26T15:18:48+00:00

I know some girls who are going to a lake house this weekend, too. o_O

imakemisteaks · 2012-05-26T15:29:48+00:00

Seriously, this sounds like a sex trip. You're pretty much in!

Alienmonkey · 2012-05-26T16:15:07+00:00

just a, throwing this out there, maybe you should, um disclose the location of this lair of tail, in case you need backup, or um something...

seriously though a lot of the advice here is great and you should follow it. the only couple tips I would add:

avoid the temptation for onitis in this situation. you're going to size up the crew, and focus in on one or two of them. and all of them will notice. be careful of this.

secondly, stay present and in the zero fucks given zone when they bring up other guys. with the ratio being what it is they are going to bring up other guys sometimes intentionally to fuck with you, sometimes just naturally because there are only a couple guys there. don't believe the hype. if the other guys were that great, they'd be there.

and dude, have a fucking awesome weekend! own this shit!

edit: also, use these new connections to line up future tail. even if you don't f-close, this could be a well of new leads for the summer.

BinaryShadow · 2012-05-27T05:50:52+00:00

God damn this needs an update after the fact.

fartuckyfartbandit · 2012-05-26T18:02:15+00:00

I am going to say something that blows your mind. Don't fuck for the entire weekend. Even if a girl throws her vagina at your dick--dip, dodge, dive... dodge... and that other one...

Forcing yourself not to fuck is going to do 2 BIG things for you. It's going to allow you to be a fun and interesting person without the heavy weight of 'running game' which is just going to make you fucking catnip (so pussynip) to all the girls there. It's also going to send a stronger message to EVERY girl on that trip that you're a 'good guy' even if you're really not. In a lakehouse with tons of girls you are going to get a bunch of jealous, chatty cathys and as soon as one finds out you're fucking one of them (and trust me, they will) all hell will break loose and not only will you have a shitty weekend, but you'll lower your odds with multiple girls because they'll think of you as a 'playa' (ESPECIALLY if you fuck one, and never make anything happen).

It doesn't matter if you fuck one the very next day, just as long as you're out of the group living environment and the hive-mind isn't as powerful.

I've done this a few ways, and this is by far the best method. It's illogical in the sense that it sounds like you want to fuck, but don't be short sighted, trips like these can be bountiful, if you make the smart moves. Be strong, keep your dick in check, and have lots of fun this weekend.

CokeCanNinja · 2012-05-26T21:44:13+00:00

Say you don't know if you can come or not, but be totally mysterious as to why. Just make sure they don't cancel the invite on you.

Title	Invited to spend the weekend at a lake house by a group of girls.
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Date	May 26, 2012 1:47 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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