7 Deadly “Texting” Mistakes (and how to avoid them) | Dating Ticket

NahDudeFkThat · 2012-12-27T22:40:09+00:00

Dont text anything to a prospect that you would be embarrassed to have read out loud, or displayed on a giant screen to whole world to see.

ValPUA · 2012-12-28T02:25:56+00:00

Holy shit I gave up listening to his video after 20 minutes when he still hadn't said anything useful. Fuck him.

2012-12-28T05:17:40+00:00

I believe most girls that flake are one's you really didnt seal the deal. You half assed it, got their number then tried to get them out. If a girl flakes, she was really not that interested in the first place. If a girl seems like she is hesitant, I call it quits, come up with an excuse and talk about how I am going to do something else. If you gotta sell her on coming out, you didnt sell her on coming out in the first place.

bronzeflame · 2012-12-28T06:33:05+00:00

I'm warning you guys to not watch that video. The article is good but the video is an advertisement and probably a scam. I learned the hard way when I realized he wasn't going to tell me the lock, key, sequence.

2012-12-28T03:38:19+00:00

tl;dr Don't talk a lot when it comes to texting!

Tragedyz · 2012-12-28T06:09:32+00:00

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hotpajamas · 2012-12-28T07:22:33+00:00

Text game is the same as any other type of game. Convey value, self-amuse, be aloof, freedom from outcome, don't be needy, etc.. None of this changes just because the medium changes. It's not like an attractive texter and an attractive man are conveyed differently.

Wasn't a very insightful article. Seems like it was written by a "natural" who hasn't ever really critically thought much about game.

maddermonkey · 2012-12-28T01:25:45+00:00

Having Long Text Conversations

I think this is true in most situations, but if it's clear that the girl is the one dragging the conversation out and not you, then I don't see how this applies. Sometimes if they are really into you they'll try to have a long-ass text conversation with you and ask you a bunch of questions, actually to the point where it can get annoying and you have to find a way to get it to stop.

acebroe · 2012-12-28T03:54:33+00:00

Okay maybe you guys can help me here because I'm out of fucking ideas. I had this woman come into my smoke shop, we started talking and hit it off. She looks behind me to my laptop and notices I have a Fallout wallpaper and notes that she loves the game. We talk for a while longer then the shop gets busy and she decides it would be a good idea to leave so I don't get in trouble, I say we have a lot in common and she gives me her number, so far so good. The next day I text her:

Me: "Hey (Female) this is Acebroe from the smoke shop, you seem like a cool chick, we should grab a drink some time."
Her: "You're a pretty cool cat yourself, that sounds like fun :)"
Me: "Are you free this sunday?"

Now it's been 5 days and no response. I'm fucking lost here.

Lunra · 2012-12-28T06:43:59+00:00

best advice, don't badger a chick with texting or demand an instant reply to text. that is an automatic way to put you in the "do not reply" zone

koncept61 · 2012-12-28T08:45:09+00:00

7 mistakes.... but the "article" only goes to 4?

bluehat9 · 2012-12-27T21:53:31+00:00

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2012-12-28T18:23:01+00:00

i just told my friend to never wear underwear at my house ever again. im a happy man :)

sedditpadawan · 2012-12-28T08:22:14+00:00

Text game? Please...if you built attraction properly do you think she'll flake because you seemed to text oddly? When I was a major AFC, I constantly worried over my texts "Am I being flirty enough?" "Did I text back too fast?"

But I've come to realization that dawdling over texts is such a beta move. If you did your job when you got her number, be sure that she won't flake on you over what you texted.

That being said, I do think that the article has useful pointers that I follow, as in not texting too much, or heaven forbid, telling her your feelings over text but these are rules you follow in your regular game, why the hell would not keep them for your txt game?

apple_kicks · 2012-12-28T11:33:19+00:00

Text flakes can be connected to not being someones priority. There is so much phone tech/social networks its become less important sign to give someone your number/profile link.

This can mean they're busy/have interests elsewhere and not thinking about you at all. They'll read the message and save reply for later or not bother. Esp if you've written an essay, which will take too long to reply too.

Or by coming on too strong they have no reason to impress you and can become lazy with no fear of losing you or scared off by clinginess

The guy who made that site should just say the mistake is making big deal out of texting. Texting is bad form of communication like sending a crappy post it note in the post. Use it to set up dates (by using we and us words), but don't rely on it to create any strong emotions or attraction. You could use it to show your interests like a tv show, so when they talk or see it without you around they might think of you and have reason to send you a message about it.

threat_level · 2012-12-28T12:28:24+00:00

So I actually read through most of this. The one piece of good advice I got was don't assume a girl is interested just because she is responding, she might just be being polite. The point is emphasized several times: Don't be boring, don't put pressure on her to keep the convo going, don't text her stupid shit if you don't have anything to say, etc.

But then >#6 Ask her to send you a funny picture or something.

Wait, what? No, that's terrible, careless advice. Everyone hates that weak "tell me a joke" bullshit, it puts pressure on the person to be spontaneously funny (when that's not how humor works) and it just reeks of having nothing interesting to say yourself.

So I stopped reading there.

TofuTofu · 2012-12-28T15:42:54+00:00

Solid advice in the article.

funkmasterfelix · 2012-12-28T16:37:34+00:00

Typos are making me cringe

gentilhomme · 2012-12-28T02:50:05+00:00

They missed one of the biggest mistakes guys make: texting a girl back too fast. Not every girl will mind you texting back fast but I've found with beautiful women you have to keep their mind guessing. You want them to ask themselves when will he text back? What's he doing that's so important that he won't respond right away? Texting back fast (~30 min.) can convey many things to the girl: you're overeager, you're needy, you are surely interested, you don't have other options, and you're not busy doing anything (can DLV yourself). You don't always have to wait a while to text back but certainly every text back shouldn't be within 30 minutes of her texting you. Take a long time and be unpredictable for women you recently met. Sometimes text back in 30 minutes, sometimes text back in a few hours. Like I said before every woman is different and it's important to calibrate to that woman. If a girl is responding within ten minutes every time then it's not a bad move to respond back in 15-30 minutes. My texting golden rule now is I will never text a girl back any faster than she texts me (at least early on in the relationship).

Side story example: Recently, I got a beautiful woman's number who was highly interested in me. We exchanged a couple texts back and forth and I sent one text back that was nine minutes after she texted me (she was taking 45 mins to a hour and a half to respond to my texts) and since that text she has failed to respond to that last text and a call a few days later. It's weak that I send one text and she assumes that I'm needy, overeager, etc. This is more an extreme example and I don't want a woman in my life that loses interest after ONE text but I guess you have to play by the rules. Don't make the mistake I've made many times.

theblair4578 · 2012-12-28T01:05:08+00:00

dont say anything that will make her uncomfertable. Just say cute, flirty, simple things. like..

hey, your cute, want to hang out sometime?

hey cutie. i saw you walking in the hall alone today. we should walk to class together ;)

OR you could get a poem and send that(its really nice to recieve, makes us feel special<3)

they say kissing is the language of love, care to indulge in a little conversation?

Its been said that you only fall in love once, but i dont believe it, Every time i see you i fall in love again.

love waits for one thing, the right moment...

The shortest word for me is [ I ] the sweetest word for me is [ Love ] The only one for me is [ You ]

I took one look at you, thats all i meant to do, and my heart stood still.

Title	7 Deadly “Texting” Mistakes (and how to avoid them) \| Dating Ticket
Author	charcoalchris
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Date	December 27, 2012 9:22 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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