Long time reader first time poster. I'm a 20 year old PUA and am successful in at least number closes about 95% of the time. I have been studying the art of picking up women for a few years, and now I feel it's time to give back to the community which has had such a positive impact on my game.

Disclaimer: I am a good looking guy; I've had some modeling experience and I find this makes things a lot easier. However, it does not diminish my game or my enjoyment of the study, in fact it has put me in a lot of awkward situations, and forced me to be social and 'flirty' from a young age. At this point I only hit on HB 9's and 10's, and am extremely successful.

Much of Seddit consists of field reports, which are great, but through my years of study I find it best to watch PUA videos available on youtube. Daygame videos are often the most valuable because it consists of the purest game (no alcohol involved). After reading countless reports, tips and so called "secrets", I've managed to break down everything I've read into 7 key topics, all of which are broad, but I think my insight will help a lot of you grasp exactly what we're talking about.

Before you continue adopt the mindset of making YOU your special project, improving yourself and the quality of your life. Do not worry about women or what anyone else thinks.

  1. START WORKING OUT Jesus. This is not that hard. Did you know that once you do something 12 days in a row it is established as habit? the first 12 days of any workout regimen is the hardest, are you really that big of a pussy that you can't dedicate 50 minutes a day for 12 days to work out? its less than 4% of your day, and the endorphins are addicting. Start working out in the mornings if you can: first thing. It's hard the first few times but after that you lear to love it, you walk around the rest of the day confident with great endorphins, and feel good. I can not overstate the impact that 50 minutes of exercise per day will have on your game.

  2. POSITIVE ENERGY This is crucial, the first few seconds you meet someone you sense their energy, and within 3 seconds women will make up 90% of their mind about you. If you come in strong, make good eye contact and smile, no one will think you are creepy. If you come in second guessing yourself, avoiding eye contact, and are so focus on what you say that you can't smile, you may come off as not "alpha".

  3. BE YOURSELF I have always hated this piece of advice. What does that even mean? Be yourself? it's shitty advice without a definition to back it up, a definition which has taken me years of success and failure to figure out. Realize first that you are not weird, you've had years of experience which have brought you to this mindset, this point, no one can say these experiences have not happened to you. Nothing you say in the moment will be weird if it comes naturally, SAY THE FIRST THING THAT POPS INTO YOUR HEAD- it'll allow you to relax and really understand what being yourself is all about. it doesn't matter what you say, as long as you keep up your positive attitude.

  4. "LOVE OF MY LIFE" this is the only line I think works consistently; if you are having a conversation with a women and she mentions ANYTHING in common with you, even something as stupid as shoelace color, say "love of my life" in a flirty and joking manner, smile and laugh. this is a fantastic line because it can be interpreted two ways: if she likes you, she'll take it as a funny and flirty compliment, allowing you to smoothly transition to an admission of attraction. If this girl is not attracted to you, she will only take it as a joke. Feel free to use this line liberally.

  5. WOMEN ARE MORE SELF CONSCIOUS THAN MEN Seems hard to believe sometimes right? Especially when approach anxiety is so strong that you can barely even stand up straight. But it's true. Women are raised in an environment where pretty much one thing matters: looks. I guarantee you that no girl you see out in the street, in class, in the mall, is confident in the way she looks. These women have been accustomed to seeing the same things on magazine covers and on tv: exaggerated figures of beauty (think an airbrushed kate uptown on the cover of SI Swimsuit.) How many of those actual stunning women do you see outside of the media? 0. These so called normal women (not celebrities) look at this picture of a touched up kate upton and wish and wish that they looked like that, when in reality, even kate uptown does't look like that. Women think that THIS is the way they need to look to be considered truly beautiful. Thats why complimenting women works so well: all they want is to feel beautiful, and very very few feel that way naturally. You may be walking around all day feeling like people are looking at you, judging you on your looks, but in actuality that conception is much stronger for the female gender. WOMEN are actually so nervous about people looking at them throughout the day that all they think of is themselves, they're not judging you on your looks.

  6. KEEP GOING Practice makes perfect; the more girls you talk to the more fluid your conversations become. Just like working out it's the first 12 that are the hardest. If you can talk to 12 girls, success or failure, congratulations, you've upgraded to yellow belt. thats all it takes. Learn to love rejection and failure: seems impossible, but if you successfully adopt the mindset that you are outcome independent, you can actually learn to start liking getting rejected. There is a video from long ago where Chris Farley hit on girls for an SNL skit; he got rejected time and time again and all he did was laugh and move on. Perfect. Do that, even if it hurts. Again, like the gym, each time you feel the pain of getting rejected, think of it akin to the pain of working out, sure it hurts but each push up, each step, gets you a little bit closer.

  7. ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY ITS HOW YOU SAY IT. Approach anxiety is the beginning PUA's worst enemy. AA manifests because of our own insecurities, but what we are neglecting to realize is that everyone has those anxieties. What you have to realize is that you can say almost ANYTHING (barring the obvious), and if you say it with confidence, NO ONE WILL THINK THAT IT IS WEIRD. Say ridiculous stuff with a smile, and you'll see that women respond well to it. I have an example with my friends. I have two close friends, we'll call them A and B. A is confident, he always smiles when he speaks, and he is good at engaging women in conversation. B speaks slowly, like an old man almost, and squints when he talks, rarely smiles. Both A and B can go up to the same girl, and say the same thing, and get totally different responses. That girl you're nervous about talking to? She'll be a lot more nervous than you once you actually grow some balls and start talking. see tip number 2.

I hope I was able to help some people out, I'd love to answer any questions.

EDIT: Wow thanks for the awesome response! making my first post fun and keeping me posting. I think a big part of the issue that people are bringing up is that no, i don't have any sure fire tricks to make a girl sleep with you. a lot of people on seddit are looking for "quick-fixes" and easy answers. I wrote and explained these tips, because although they're obvious, i felt like the breakdown could hit home for at least a couple people. These tips are the best because when you implement them you get the best results. no magic lines, no bullshit, this is the real world people come on.