How do you guys handle a long series of rejections?

Altruistic-Seat9814 · 2024-03-24T11:36:40+00:00

unlimited supply of “it is what it is”

norwegiandoggo · 2024-03-24T09:17:24+00:00

Yeah, you need to take breaks, get support from others, and enter into a more analytical learning mode.

Try to take a step back and evaluate. Here's one way to do that:

Write down a short paragraph on each of your last 20 rejections (or those you can remember). How you approached, what you did, and how they responded.

After this, write down the reason you got rejected in each of them. And here's the key thing; you are not allowed to blame your looks. You are only allowed to write what you did right or wrong in terms of behavior.

You will typically come across many instances where you are absolutely clueless. You have no idea why it turned into a rejection. And that's where your learning will come into play. Read more books, ask others questions here on this sub and other subs. Try to understand every single rejection so you can develop a better mental understanding of how this game works.

Never repeat something that has failed 5 times in a row. If you test something 5 times and it didn't work: never do that again. It might work for others but not for you. So throw it out of your game. That goes for openers especially. But also any other kind of seduction trick you've learned

bahadurJoe · 2024-03-24T12:41:24+00:00

Shouldn’t bother you. At all.

Get on your grind. The energy generated from the discipline will bleed into your interaction with these women. They will feel and get a taste of it, and be more enchanted by your presence.

Far_Cheetah7006 · 2024-03-24T13:33:38+00:00

Id rather go 0-30 then 0-13 because that just means that i lost my confidence

4SHO710 · 2024-03-24T13:40:14+00:00

Stop going to bars and clubs and talk to women irl. Im mid 6’ and even I get rejected at clubs all the time. Some girls actually get off on it.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-24T14:02:12+00:00

The harder you try, the more you get rejected. The first thing I tell guys is to go and find another source of happiness that has nothing to do with women. Women should be very low on your priority list of things that make you happy. Right now you are staking your entire self worth on some bitch giving you the time of day and that makes you needy and desperate.

DaygameCode · 2024-03-24T09:59:03+00:00

That just means you are doing something wrong. What exactly? Well, only self-reflection will help you to figure it out. Analyse with every macro gestured every single words, every attempt at escalating… You say. girl didn’t feel the spark, well then you need to write down everything you said and did during the date. Every phrase matters, you can’t just say “we talk about some stuff” and that’s it, you need to really specify what that “some stuff” is.

Westernation · 2024-03-24T14:48:41+00:00

I took up contract killing.

epimpstyle · 2024-03-24T13:08:07+00:00

Is about what kind of rejections you get. In your example the girl "replied there wasn't any spark after I asked her to meet me again" so maybe .... has something to do with you.

Also, how did the girl from the club reject you? "I have a boyfriend", "we have a private conversation" ... look away and pretend you don't exist?.... it depends, maybe it's a problem with you, not with her.

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-03-24T11:02:46+00:00

There's an element of luck in this too which you have to factor in. Rejection is just a fact of life with this, you'll get more rejections than successes and they won't be evenly spread so you can have a period of lots of success followed by lots of rejections but the stats even out over time.

You're mixing up date rejections and approach rejections which makes it harder to give advice. 20 approach rejections in a row really isn't a lot, if you consider that 50% of women probably are already seeing someone regularly 10 would reject you no matter what.

If it's 20 first date rejections in a row that's a lot. So you need to be a bit clearer about where the rejections are coming from.

oneonenine911 · 2024-03-24T13:36:52+00:00

Trust me not worth it and I can explain why it's not

FormerOptimist94 · 2024-03-24T13:58:52+00:00

You can't let women be the cornerstone of your self-worth. I know it's easier said than done, but when things aren't going well on that front, focus on other things for a while; friends, hobbies, career, fitness, long term goals, that will also cause you to come as less desperate.

Also...why do all of my posts get immediately removed?

ElectricalGremlin · 2024-03-24T14:22:52+00:00

By taking a break, working on myself, and then coming back when I feel more confident after some self reflection, not just in dating, but in other areas in life.

I find that when I have bad streaks, something isn’t going right in my day to day that I need to focus on for a bit of time

IamWisdom · 2024-03-24T14:23:14+00:00

I go back to reading content and watching videos on how to seduce. I also hit the gym and get jacked. Then I try again. Doesn't happen ever anymore though.

offinthewoods10 · 2024-03-24T15:34:40+00:00

Whenever I hit a long negative streak, I just take a break and refocus on myself. After a few weeks your old mojo will be back in full.

Factsonreddit · 2024-03-24T16:21:30+00:00

If rejection affects you then your self-value comes from other people. Yo need to stop relying on others for your self-worth. If you keep getting rejected, analyze where your game is wrong

Equal_Actuary_5614 · 2024-03-24T16:24:16+00:00

If you have a guy friend who knows a thing or two about these things, ask him to observe you. Then he can assess your blind spots

Intelligent-Can8235 · 2024-03-25T03:05:52+00:00

Keep going. Thats all you can do. I also work in sales and face rejection every single day. It’s kinda funny though. All the attention I want from one woman, that I’m not getting, I’m getting from several others who I know. It’s funny, but ironic as well.

Practical_Window_919 · 2024-03-24T15:45:05+00:00

Let me try to explain things using an analogy:

Imagine you're an employer looking to hire the perfect candidate. Would you hire someone based on their enthusiasm alone, or would you prioritize their qualifications? It's a tough decision, but ultimately you need someone who is both motivated and qualified for the job.

To ace the interview, you need to thoroughly understand the job requirements. Don't just tell the employer you're a good fit for the job, demonstrate it. And don't forget to ask questions yourself to determine if the company is a good fit for you.

But what if you're not even getting interviews? This is where your CV and cover letter come in. A great cover letter can only get you so far if your CV is subpar. Your CV is a snapshot of your achievements, experience, and competence, and it's what will ultimately determine whether or not you get an interview.

This same principle applies to dating. Your initial interest in a potential partner is like your "application", while your appearance, achievements, experience, and competence are like your "CV". Your personality and relevance are like the "cover letter". Just like with job interviews, you can't rely on a great cover letter alone - you need a strong "CV" to back it up.

So remember, to succeed in both job interviews and dating, you need to be both motivated and qualified. And while a great cover letter (your game) can certainly help, it's your CV (what you offer) that will ultimately determine your success.

Simply put: If you're not getting interviews (dates), you're applying (hitting on) for jobs (women) for which you are underqualified (she's out of your league). You should apply for jobs that you are qualified for. And if you want the best jobs, then you should work on becoming qualified first.

MaleficentStar9 · 2024-03-24T14:52:04+00:00

Some guys give up

Fewer guys kill themselves

FreeNicky95 · 2024-03-24T23:20:25+00:00

Get a job in sales. You’ll get rejected all day 😎 lots of fun and then you can talk to a wall and get rejected and not bat an eye

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-03-26T02:02:47+00:00

that's a lot of rejections, you should get at least a yes after the 3rd, 5th (girl you approach) attempt lol perhaps you are doing something wrong indeed, there is a lot of missing info.

jtaylor27141 · 2024-03-24T09:45:54+00:00

The apps have been pretty brutal since early 2023. I’ve had the same experience as you. A long string of rejections since then with the apps. All dates have been where I get the cheek at the end, whereas in 2020-22 during peak Covid I would get the kiss close.

ROBYoutube · 2024-03-24T09:21:40+00:00

I haven't been rejected in many years. Basically I've gotten so good at reading people that asking them out is a formality. I know if they're into me.

Title	How do you guys handle a long series of rejections?
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Date	March 24, 2024 9:08 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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