Being sensitive as a guy is a good thing

throwaway164_3 · 2024-11-04T15:16:22+00:00

Only if you’re a tall, hot, muscular guy.

Otherwise, being sensitive doesn’t matter much. Women are extremely shallow, just like men.

A dominant, muscular, tall insensitive asshole is gonna be way more successful than a sensitive effeminate “nice guy”

As always, see the type of men who women fuck, not what they post online for social media points lol.

fundamentally_comfy · 2024-11-04T15:17:18+00:00

Those things are just social skills/sensibility. An actual sensitive guy is hurt and put down easily, cries, is insecure etc, all giga turnoffs to women.

toasterchild · 2024-11-04T15:59:47+00:00

Depends on what you are defining sensitive as. My experience says men who are perceptive and empathetic do very well while men who are emotionally unstable do not. I think most people who say women don't' like sensitive men they mean men who have emotional break downs often or avoid any situation that makes them mildly uncomfortable. Sensitive comes in many forms.

ZankStreit · 2024-11-04T15:14:58+00:00

I think what you want to say here is that a certain sensitivity can help you in a relationship, I would agree if I had any relationship experience lmao. I think the thing here is a difference in being sensitive and utilizing it compared to showing openly that you are sensitive, which might turn women down(?)

What do I know?

classicslayer · 2024-11-04T16:13:02+00:00

woman like men that are sensitive to their feelings not men that are actually sensitive themselves.

TopShelfSnipes · 2024-11-04T16:15:22+00:00

That's not "sensitive" that's being attentive/perceptive/socially aware.

Sensitive = softness, and no, it's never desirable.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-11-04T15:35:15+00:00

Your definition of sensitive is a mind reader

GrandpaDallas · 2024-11-04T15:16:51+00:00

I'm a massively sensitive guy. I cried when the shopkeeper across the street from me gave me a free quart of soup when I was having a bad day.

In my relationships/interactions with women, I've been only complimented on it. I've been described as comforting, safe, and a good listener, plus something about the vibe allows people to be a bit more vulnerable with me (which in the end people want to have someone who they can open up to).

I can maybe count on one hand the amount of times I've noticeably seen a woman get turned off by my softness.

Even the last gal I was seeing, who is a tough type-A type lady who ribbed me for being a big softie, still loved spending time with me on account of the fact I was a better dating experience for her than most other men.

teball3 · 2024-11-04T16:21:34+00:00

I think you are almost purposefully misusing definitions to talk past people here.

When guys say that women don't like sensitive guys, they mean it in the way people talk about the negatives of being sensitive. They don't like the vulnerability. The second definition on google.

easily damaged, injured, or distressed by slight changes.

Which is a synonym of delicate, not the first definition you keep posting thats a synonym of responsive.

I have never seen a guy say "Women don't like sensitive, responsive guys" but I have seen people say "Women don't like sensitive, weak guys" and neither of those 2 sentences would technically be misusing the word. I have not seen women argue against the idea that actually, they do like responsive guys because nobody is making that argument in the first place. I have seen women say they do actually like weak guys because that is the argument people actually make. Which isn't very convincing for the exact same reason you made this post, because it's hard to believe that somebody is actually able to love you in despite of, or even for your flaws, while they also try to spin those "flaws" for the way they are actually strengths that shows you aren't talking about the same thing.

leosandlattes · 2024-11-04T15:10:35+00:00

When people say “sensitive” in that connotation they mean emotional or psychologically feminine, not necessarily just cognizant of your emotional surroundings.

Being able to notice changes or being socially aware as you describe is fine. Most people would argue though that sensitivity in the form of not having emotional fortitude is weak, particularly for men.

King_conscience · 2024-11-04T15:19:59+00:00

None of what you described here is being sensitive

Women just don't like guys with no backbone

woodclip · 2024-11-04T15:25:57+00:00

Being sensitive as a guy is a good thing

Given the examples you provided, being "sensitive" is a "good thing" only if the guy wants to be perceived as unmanly and soft.

OnThatSigmaGrindset · 2024-11-04T15:38:43+00:00

no it's not, being sensitive as a guy is a terrible look.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-11-04T16:01:00+00:00

I think people here misunderstand what sensitivity is.

Sometimes sensitivity is as simple as “hey, I know you been missing you late grandma. Here’s a pic of us all together and some of those little candies she used to give out so you can remember the good times we had and think back on all that love you shared and will always carry with you”

Or even just

“Bruh, Dave is still feeling really bad about his breakup with Kelly, so maybe don’t bring up how well you are killing it with the ladies tonight?

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RycerzKwarcowy · 2024-11-04T15:20:31+00:00

Yeah, a man might be sensitive but only for feelings and suffering of OTHERS, but not about his OWN.

budgetmexican · 2024-11-04T15:24:26+00:00

Honesty and openness builds connection. Weakness builds resentment. There is a difference

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2024-11-04T16:52:38+00:00

Here’s all you need to know:

Women get turned off when you act like a child.

Let’s say you don’t get a promotion at work.

Option A(lpha): take some time to yourself to feel like shit, go to the gym, call a bro and vent, etc. then asses your situation: what’s my next move? Career change? Company change? Or try again? Then immediately take the first step on your new quest. When your girl asks how things went, you now have a plan. “Yeah babe it sucks, they gave it to Chad. Fucker. I sent my resume to B and C competing companies, might be time to look for greener grass”.

Option B(eta): do nothing, feel like shit, immediately go to your girl: “babe, they gave it to Chad! So unfair! I feel like shit.. maybe I’m not good enough for this! I just don’t understand why nothing ever works out for me” and look to her to console you

As men who were raised by boomers, it’s no surprise we looked for women to console us as children when the other kids on the playground were being unfair. We could go to a teacher or our mother and she would console us and even seek justice for us. Don’t look to your woman for that. You’ll be fine showing emotions then.

AntonioSLodico · 2024-11-04T17:34:15+00:00

Sensitive is one of those tricky words, like strong, love, respect. They can have wildly different definitions depending on who uses them and the context in which they are used.

Tangentially, the word with the most definitions (645) has only three letters. Can you guess what it is?

Answer: RUN

EverybodySupernova · 2024-11-04T19:06:15+00:00

thedarkracer · 2024-11-04T19:42:14+00:00

Change things up in the bedroom without having to be asked/told

That's called having good knowledge of sex not senstivity. Sensitive person woukd freak out on change.

Noticing when something is off with your partner, when they're in a bad mood, when they're feeling stressed, etc

You don't need to be sensitive to see that, just a careful observation is enough. When you are too sensitive, your own emotions overwhelm you, you can't understand someone's pain unless you have gone through the same pain.

Redirecting a conversation when you feel like it's not hitting home/the person you're talking with isn't interested

Setting boundaries. Being smart. If you are sensitive you will freak out and try to get more attention.

Realizing when somebody has lost interest and cutting your losses

That's also called logical thinking, sensitive person would freak out and try harder to arouse the interest again like being overly clingy.

All the points you listed, they point towards logical thinking not senstivity. Emotions cloud judgement and are the opposite of rational thinking.

FabulousPanther · 2024-11-04T21:54:33+00:00

Cool. If that's sensitivity, I'm that guy. I always considered myself cynical and cold. Hmmmmm!

Puzzleheaded_Card_71 · 2024-11-04T23:28:31+00:00

None of that is the sensitivity born of weakness, those are all good things for any man to have.

DankuTwo · 2024-11-05T04:53:42+00:00

Absolutely none of that is what people refer to when they talk about men being “sensitive”…..

Artistic_Speech_1965 · 2024-11-05T10:17:59+00:00

I also think being a sensitive guy is good but only when you enter in a relationship ^^'

In general, this is not the kind of behaviour that is rewarded by women (the reward being entering into a relationship)

The worst case scenario for this kind of behaviour is to be the emotional support of a woman who is in a bad relation with another man and/or being a friendzone veterant. So even sensible men end up giving up of this attribute

No_Curve6292 · 2024-11-04T15:40:39+00:00

Being a sensitive guy is a good thing if you are a 10/10. Otherwise it is an “ick” to women.

KGmagic52 · 2024-11-04T15:55:04+00:00

You've completely misunderstood the difference between being sensitive and being perceptive.

King_conscience · 2024-11-04T15:12:47+00:00

Exactly what is good about having no backbone ?

classicslayer · 2024-11-04T16:14:06+00:00

No woman like men that are sensitive to their feelings not men that are actually sensitive themselves.

Title	Being sensitive as a guy is a good thing
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