Princess Treatment

HappySpinningSeal · 2024-12-26T21:44:54+00:00

Reminder to all the men lurking here: our requirements for posting are strict. See Rule 9. If you do not have extensive Redpill experience you are unlikely to understand female hypergamy and its association with wealth. I'm seeing (and removing) a lot of comments that are coming from a male-interest standpoint.

coconut-crybaby · 2024-12-26T20:46:38+00:00

Princess treatment isn’t really about money—though money helps, sure. My husband always opens my car door, for example, which costs exactly $0. “Princess treatment” is just a way women are phrasing a humblebrag about being treated. It feels good to be thought of and treated and taken care of by your man. How that looks will differ from couple to couple.

Radiant-Use-9447 · 2024-12-26T20:34:43+00:00

I think a Red Pill relationship should stem from mutual affection, just like any other. As long as the money is not the relationship glue, what could be better?

serene_brutality · 2024-12-26T22:10:27+00:00

I think the princess treatment as described on most TikTok videos is more female dating strategy and less redpill.

Unless my assumptions are off (and I’m sure my comment will be deleted if it is) RPW has more of an expectation of a man treating a woman the best he can with her doing the same. While the princess treatment idea is more that if a man doesn’t or can’t spoil her then he’s not a man worth dating.

The RedPill is all about reality or being realistic, and in most cases being able to provide expensive gifts, trips and dates isn’t realistic for most men, and most women will scarcely meet a man able to provide such extravagances regularly let alone be the type of woman that could couple with a man like that.

m_spoon09 · 2024-12-26T20:41:26+00:00

Just remember all those trending videos on tiktok and other social media platforms are usually fake and staged.

Next-Movie-3319 · 2024-12-26T23:06:53+00:00

Princess treatment has to fit within the man’s means. I think a what a woman is fundamentally trying to weed out is the man’s true level of interest. If the man has the means, one way he can do this is by showering her with expensive gifts. Though, depending on his means (ie. if he is very wealthy) even those expensive gifts may not be that significant an indicator.

Fundamentally what you are trying to weed out is, if the guy’s level of commitment and interest. Whether he is looking for a life partner, or just a good time. You judge this indirectly through his level of investment in you. Money is just one metric, time is a much better one. Busy successful men may try to compensate for the lack of time, by spending more money. The key question is, what is he expecting in return?

TheBunk_TB · 2024-12-26T20:55:58+00:00

It leaves many asking “what is enough”.

It also gives way to the saying that comparisons are a thief of joy.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-12-26T20:47:21+00:00

It seems you are currently in a 6 month relationship. Is this "princess treatment" trend stuff impacting how you feel about your relationship? Is it triggering insecurity or making you question the relationship?

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2024-12-26T21:20:24+00:00

I wouldn’t be in a relationship with a man who didn’t treat me like a queen. I also treat my man like a king, so it’s only fair.

My man regularly buys me flowers, opens doors, plans dates, buys thoughtful gifts, tries to make my life easier, etc. To me, without those things, what’s the point? I’d rather be single than with a man who didn’t treat me like this.

Technical_Cupcake597 · 2024-12-26T22:08:15+00:00

A feminine woman receives graciously. Men are built to give, women to receive.

PettyUser09 · 2024-12-27T00:31:08+00:00

i don’t care about expensive things or money, just love demonstrations in general, that for me is princess treatment

StoisticStruggle · 2024-12-27T01:48:06+00:00

After getting into a relationship where I'm receiving princess treatment I know I would never accept anything less from now on.

It's not about the money. When my (now) fiance started dating me he was earning less than I was. But he would always insist on paying for me, he'd buy me affordable flowers, he'd cook for me. Then later he'd always remember to bring me something tasty from the store, get me trinkets I mentioned liking, get me clothes he'd like to see me in.

As time went by and his career started getting more profitable this attitude stayed with him, and now he's a great, providing man who's proud of what he brings to the table. He loves getting me gifts because he's honestly happy when he sees me using and enjoying them. All he wants in return is appreciation for what he does and to see us both happy.

We're not rich, by any means. But we're also not poor or struggling. So it's not about expensive gifts or gestures, or expecting the man to pay for everything and provide for a princess lifestyle.

But it makes you feel so, so loved and it's so easy to feel feminine and appreciated for it, too.

I could never go back, lol.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-12-27T05:20:49+00:00

TikTok is not real life.

Instagram is not real life.

The Lambo is rented and so is the yacht.

A lot of what you are seeing on the (supposed) high end is “sugar” lifestyle, which means the same girls that are holding their expensive purses, and tagging themselves in Vegas or, worse, Dubai, are earning those goodies on their backs having “normal” sex, quid pro quo, if they’re lucky.

You are vastly better off with a man who loves you.

Foreign_Solution_832 · 2024-12-26T22:03:42+00:00

I’ve been a lurker here but I’ve been around redpill for a long time. Princess treatment should be expected from a relationship. What that entails can be different from women to women but essentially your man should love, respect and shower you with gifts. As long as it is in his capacity. I have a mother, younger sister, girlfriend, two cousins (one older than me and one younger) and I treat them all well. I buy my girlfriend flowers and I open doors for her whether that be the car or when we go to the store. I buy jewelry and small gifts for her. This is all to say that princess treatment is normal for any women that has a loving man and that there is nothing wrong with you wanting that. It comes natural for masculine men

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Full text: I have been seeing more and more TikTok videos of princess treatment (men buying their girl flowers, expensive purses, expensive vacation, etc.)

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Beachdog1234 · 2024-12-26T21:22:21+00:00

Hate the term and what it implies. It’s all about effort. If he’s putting in the work, he’s into you. It’s that simple.

A guy who has loads of free time isn’t putting effort by spending time with you. A guy who has little free time, who prioritizes time with you, is making an effort.

Someone with loads of money, buying you an expensive dinner, doesn’t mean much to them. A guy who’s in med school who’s broke and cooks you dinner, is putting in effort.

Messilegend10 · 2024-12-26T21:29:24+00:00

Give princess treatment to women who deserve it. Not everyone can take that kind of affection

hangun_ · 2024-12-27T19:17:26+00:00

It seems more like a fad to me.

ParticularGarden7311 · 2024-12-28T15:11:45+00:00

i like the princess treatment stuff, but how that looks in your own relationship is completely dependent on you and the man. like for example my boyfriend opens doors for me, pays for my coffee when were out, gives me massages, got me expensive earrings for christmas, does all the driving, and plans our trips/vacations, but has never gotten me flowers and i pay for most of my clothes and do the planning for our regular dates(like ill buy movie tickets and schedule it and then he drives us there and pays for food/drinks). its just about the mans effort to be a gentleman basically and take care of his woman, however that looks for you guys. i wouldnt let it get to you though because ive seen a lot of those videos too and they can be pretty excessive with the 'if he wanted to he would' and showing a really unrealistic/unattainable standard for a relationship. a man can only be a provider as much as he is able to provide, so if thats physical labour and intimacy, emotional connection, financially, acts of service in your home etc then those things might still make you feel like a princess basically and your life would look completely different than the tiktoks

SweetDeep6842 · 2025-01-01T20:26:26+00:00

I had to look up what RPW meant, so take this with a grain of salt - I’m probably not the right person for this sub. But as a female surgeon who makes more than most guys, I’m still treated like a princess by hubby who makes much less than I do.

1 Hubby knows that I feel like cut flowers are a stupid expenditure. I am an avid gardener. He got me a relatively rare lady slipper plant once for Valentines. Some ordinary dude would get a bouquet of roses that would die and it would irritate me. Another time, he got these cool long lasting flowers called Protea because he used to live in Hawaii where they grow.

2 Hubby scrapes the ice off my car whenever there is frost. We are building a garage-mahal in the frozen northland, but in the mean time, he makes sure I’m safely off to work early in the AM. This has no $ cost, but is priceless. Weirdly enough, a TT-RS cannot be started remotely, unlike say a Hyundai.

3 Hubby makes breakfast for me on days when I am going to be in the OR. He doesn’t want me to be hangry and if the day is going well, there is no time to eat. If there is time to eat, I will be plain angry, because that means turnover sucks or someone in the ED fed the patient.

Anyway, LV or Coach purses are a dime a dozen. We had a house in Hawaii etc. so who cares about fancy vacations. What really is valuable, desirable and will make you happy is not TikTok consumerism and envy inducing garbage, but someone who knows what you like, who cares enough to do it and thinks about what you might need or appreciate even when you haven’t asked, implied or even realized it would be nice. I’m one of the luckiest people on the planet.

Title	Princess Treatment
Author	Competitive_Teach628
Upvotes	21
Comments	38
Date	December 26, 2024 8:29 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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3 Hubby makes breakfast for me on days when I am going to be in the OR. He doesn’t want me to be hangry and if the day is going well, there is no time to eat. If there is time to eat, I will be plain angry, because that means turnover sucks or someone in the ED fed the patient.