So my (36m) stbx (32f) and I split up back in September, divorce will be finalized in a few months. She’s been seeing other people for awhile now while I’ve been hesitant. Not that I’m hung up on my ex or anything so much as I lost a bit of my confidence after getting dumped and I was hoping to lose weight and get my life together before getting out there.

About a month or two ago an old friend of mine reached out and once I told her about the divorce she took it as her chance to take her shot and she has been coming at me hard. Thing is I’m not really into her like that and tbh even if I was, how would I even date (or in her case, “date)? I’m still used to being a husband, my idea of a fun weekend is playing on the ps5 with the fellas and ordering DoorDash.

I guess my question is did anyone else feel this way? Did you find yourself accidentally in the field before you were ready? Or am I weird and should just be glad someone’s interested?