Perpetrators of violence against men hate men no less than perpetrators of violence against women hate women

The phrase "misogyny kills, misandry irritates" and its variations is not just false, it is deeply toxic and implicitly victim blamingly.

Given that men are overrepresented as victims of violence, the phrase is implying that women are "good" victims of violence and men are "bad" victims of violence. Those who commit violence against women are motivated by misogyny, not by victims' actions, but those who commit violence against men are allegedly motivated by something else than gender-based hatred. Their victims probably gave them some reasonable reasons.

In my opinion, this is nonsense. And I want to formulate my objection in words: Perpetrators of violence against men hate men no less than perpetrators of violence against women hate women.

In my opinion, is is rather violence against men that is a phenomenon that is justified by society based on the gender of the victims.

I'm going to ask a question that sounds cynical, but it's still important. Who is more dangerous to hit, rape, kill in terms of legal consequences? In terms of reputational risks? A man or a woman? A boy or a girl? There is no evidence that society reacts to violence in a misogynistic-non-misandrist manner. On the contrary, violence against males has huge indicators of public leniency towards it.

So why shouldn't this be conceptualized as misandry?