I know what you’re thinking “great another woman bashing rant on this sub, that’s the 50 billionth one this week” I’m actually not going to blame women or bash them for this specific problem my blame goes to Hollywood and most of Hollywood is made up of guys so I’m kind of blaming men here.

By reality TV I mean shows like Love is Blind, Love Island, The Bachelor (For the 2000s kids) and Perfect Match etc. guys pay close attention to what women are watching this stuff is very important to observe because these shows have also been causing problems, dating shows are nothing new I mean there used to be love matching shows dating back to the 60s etc, but this reality stuff is causing a loophole of issues as it’s overly played up for dramatic effect but it presents itself as a gold standard of what female standards should be and how relationships and preferences ought to be at for women.

These shows are staged—sure, but that kind of makes it worse because they’re presenting these aspects of what a relationship should be as well?…. fact and going about things as if they know the exact way to look at relationships, don’t forget the horrible acting and the casting of good looking models as another gold standard, basically saying if you want a more authentic relationship you have to look like a Hugo Boss advert. I’d like to make this very clear, these shows target women the aesthetics and vibrancy of the shows are made to target both women and gay men, nothing wrong with demographics but it’s definitely skewing a perception of dating that gets very overlooked as people keep bringing up dating apps.

These shows are heavily pushed on streaming platforms and if you go on TikTok it’s usually women that discuss these shows and compare them to their current relationships, not realising that these shows are written and produced by dudes because they know what sells to young women and wine moms it’s these types of shows and watching an episode can give you an idea of why this crap might be causing some issues, the relationships are so overly exaggerated, one-note, superficial and exacerbated but yet they keep pumping out more seasons of this bull and guys believe me when I say that these shows are taken seriously as a pivotal standard of current dating otherwise why are we seeing 40 of these shows pop up and keep trending on social media with women.

The romantic comedies and romance novels know what they are, a complete exaggeration for entertainment but that’s not these reality TV shows they’re going about their presentation as fact thinking the stuff they’re displaying is how things should be and how relationships are.