If there is one wee Christmas gift for you guys, who have been blindsided or had the divorce bomb tossed right into their cornflakes, it is this….

Do not leave the marital home

Don’t do it

Here is why

Guys really do follow some antiquated, Disney BS thinking where the ex should be treated with chivalry and honour during the divorce process.

‘Oh I’ll just leave her the house right while this all gets sorted out and stuff. The kids were brought up there blah blah blah’

Think about this for a second.

First off, women think completely differently from men. They feel differently, they see the world differently.

And most of us reading this know that when a women goes cold on you…..

Jesus. Utter hell.

Now let’s think about how humans work.

We like to have a place we call home. The idea of uprooting is horrific and actually doing it is borderline traumatic.

So what makes you think that once you’re gone, your ex is going to go of her own accord?

Finally you’re out and she can make all the changes to the house that she has dreamed about for years. The ones you kaboshed because you couldn’t be assed with the DIY. Even better she can get some new thirsty Chad in to help, which she will, because you are pond life in her eyes.

And why does she want to go through the hassle of buying a new property? Can’t be eating into Boning Chad Time with that boring stuff. Remember lads, it’s all about the feels.

Once you’re out the house they are not going anywhere.

While you’re scratching your head and pulling your wang, in some cockroach infested motel room thinking your Richard The Lionheart because you had the keys to the kingdom to your ungrateful stbxw

Every guy I know, who has found themselves in this situation, has ended up severely out of pocket trying to force a house sale.

Every single time the stbxw has dug their heels in and dragged this process out for years.

My mate is actually in the process right now. He stupidly left the house to his ex and she has dragged this out for years through the courts and the worst thing is….

They don’t even have kids

Guys guys guys.

Part of the divorce process is traversing hell. Going through the horror in order to shape the men that we become through this god awful process.

Dig in.

Force the sale by cohabitation. It’s worth it.

Do not leave the house guys. Make it hard for them because you can be rest assured they will make it hell for you

Merry Xmas fellas.