Has anyone ever ended a good relationship to pursue an unlived single chapter?

LavaDragon3827 · 2026-01-07T04:17:47+00:00

Not worth it. I wish I kept my first love.

S3nat3 · 2026-01-07T07:34:49+00:00

Every single person I know who has done this has regretted it. One really good LTR is worth more than 200 one night stands

JG_deluxe · 2026-01-07T12:01:35+00:00

One good girl is worth a thousand bitches.

Better-South-3039 · 2026-01-07T03:17:19+00:00

I'm 27, lost a loving, loyal girlfriend Doing EXACTLY what you're doing: not appreciating what you have.

Being horny is normal, and being in a relationship won't make other women invisible. But say you're genuinely attracted to your gf and she meets your standards and vice versa: why sabotage that?

Being single when you have the choice not to be is different than being single by force. Once you leave, you are NOT going back, so be sure you actually want this single life.

You're a porn user. It has a grip on your brain and sexuality, and truthfully you'd process this different if it wasn't present, mostly because the fantasies wouldn't be you constantly eyeing irl women and then scrolling millions online.

Can't have your cake and eat it too! If you want out, just know that many men would kill for your position! Hold it close

Quiet_Rock_5696 · 2026-01-07T11:37:04+00:00

I think if you're considering this you don't actually love your gf as much as you think. I don't say that to be harsh, just that I had this same thought of "missing out" frequently in an LTR, and I finally realized the relationship just wasn't working. In a later LTR I was absolutely crazy about her, and would never consider leaving for the sake of dicking around

TJSociall · 2026-01-07T07:59:39+00:00

It's scary how this exactly sounds like my situation. Had a loving, wife material, submissive etc. GF. She was elder to me, wanted to get married etc. I knew I hadn't explored my potential in almost all aspects especially dating and... I walked away.

I'll be honest, I still love her, miss her almost everyday but I don't regret making that decision so far simply because I have exposed myself to so many different and difficult situations so far in almost every aspect that I've had most growth ever as a man in my life.

It hurts but so did settling and having a mediocre life. In the end its all about the pain you choose because brother you gonna suffer anyway.

I may never find a girl like her again but again I may never get the opportunity to build myself into the strongest version of myself aswell. Good luck.

cyberhamster68 · 2026-01-07T04:52:21+00:00

Not worth it, Lost my first and only love doing that. Currently age 23 with almost 100 bodies

Browseathon · 2026-01-07T05:34:59+00:00

What are your future plans? Kids, marriage, where you want to live etc?

SzaQQ · 2026-01-07T12:32:44+00:00

Don't do it. Or at least think about intensively.
I left great looking, good girl that genuinly loved me for some similar silly reasons and I regret it still after 6 years (haven't found anyone half-decent since then)

Grigthefirst · 2026-01-07T09:07:48+00:00

Don't ask, just do, we're all on our own paths and there is no one who can give you directions.

You'll be fine either way, and so she will. Own your life. The more you ask, the more complicated it gets, and more reasons to have a victim mentality later. Do it your way man!

ThotBubble · 2026-01-07T15:29:17+00:00

Brooo this is what I did … chasing orgies .. threesomes … different girls … I would trade allllll of it to have my girlfriend back you are out of your mind if you’re even considering this

LeoTrollstoy · 2026-01-07T16:34:42+00:00

I did and regret it. 10y later haven’t met anyone like her

TheMrMacaroni · 2026-01-08T04:00:42+00:00

It’s okay not to tie yourself down, being single is amazing and no matter how great the women is, you’ll always have more time, freedom and development when single.

It’s all well and good to say ‘well the one that got away’ and live in regret.

But truthfully the right one, is the right one at the right time, that is where you are secure, mature and don’t think about breaking it off to be single.

I’ve broken it off with many gorgeous women in my early 20’s, and do I think about them ? Yeah of course.

But guess what, I’ve levelled up 1000x as a man and as a human in all facets of life since, and I’m certain I would not have been able to have the experiences or life lessons to get where I am, If I was with just 1 woman.

And NOW I’m ready to meet a woman like the ones in my past that I broke it off with.

TLDR: appreciate the learnings and blessings and never waste time in regret or in hindsight.

Journey_of_Rahul · 2026-01-07T04:28:34+00:00

Just follow your intuition, it doesn’t matter what anyone else did.

I’m sure what you have with your current girl is special so I acknowledge there’s value to what you have with her. But you can always settle down later. If you are a guy capable of dating and being with different women then you’re not going to be hung up on this one girl ten years from now or whenever if you choose to settle down in the future. Imo the guys hung up on their past girl years later are probably not getting solid women in the present.

If you end it, go all in and don’t look back but don’t follow what other people say if your intuition is telling you something else.

I ended a great relationship for the same reason years ago and I have no regrets. She was an amazing woman but it was for the better because I didn’t want to settle down and still don’t want to. The problem is I delayed it way too long and should’ve ended things with her quicker.

TimeIsFractal · 2026-01-07T19:56:47+00:00

Consider this: you have been with her for a while, have built a routine around each others lives, and you feel that addiction towards her in some regard.

Now take all of that away. You will feel a hole in your life where she once was, despite all the new girls you’ll be meeting and banging. Once those girls go home and you’re left to sleep alone in your apartment, you’ll think about all the times you were sleeping with your girlfriend and holding her in your arms. You will miss the consistency of having a loving partner around.

Up to you to decide how impactful that void will be for you. Maybe you’ll be able to fill the void quickly. But maybe it will take you a long time to do so, in which case feelings of regret and missing her will arise.

ftdrain · 2026-01-08T00:03:36+00:00

I had 5 girls in one week at one point, your girls sounds better than the last 50 put together. You have little experience and hit a jackpot, thats all Im gonna say.

mix3456 · 2026-01-07T12:13:08+00:00

Mate, if you're in that position, you only have two options

Establish a situationship or an open relationship with your partner, although today the two terms mean more or less the same thing.

Cons: you run the risk of developing feelings for one of them and then getting sad when she likes another guy more than you.

I have a mindset of abundance and self-discovery. I'm not ready for a serious relationship and I admit that without any problems.

Right now, I'm involved with one girl, and we've both agreed that it's a situationship. I've been with another girl in the meantime and have started to become more attracted to her.

The result: the girl I was really attracted to left me for someone else, and now I'm still with the girl I'm not 100% attracted to. Always waiting for the next one.

ZennedGame · 2026-01-07T21:35:58+00:00

Most guys with an UNLIVED single chapter are likely operating out of scarcity, meaning they are far less likely to lose (or risk losing) the one they do have in pursuit of oneS they may or may not get (with).

I've lived most of my life single, have enjoyed the fruits of being a pretty cool and attractive dude, and have left unfulfilling relationships - though not simply to meet other women. It's more complicated than that.

Ylu should practice the things you mentioned on your own girl as well as harmlessly on random cashiers, waitresses, etc. Just get more attuned to it before you make whole leaps based on it, is what I'd say.

The grass ain't always greener.

Matter_Still · 2026-01-08T03:50:00+00:00

Almost all these comments note a similar regret: five years, ten, or twenty have slipped through one’s fingers and they’ve never met the equal of the one that got away.

The moral of the story: there may be 4 billion women on the planet but you’re damned lucky if even two would think you walked on water.

PainKilla17 · 2026-01-07T10:19:28+00:00

32M. I left my 5-year relationship for the exact same reasons as you and have been largely single for around the last 6 years. I don’t regret it a single bit. But that is because I never lost sight of what I wanted until I achieved every single one of them, be it in game or life.

My ex-girlfriend was my first. I did what I had to because it was part of me discovering myself and felt like emancipation. Like you, I just knew I have to do this, and that I am not made for settling down at 25. I’ve traveled alone, had crazy adventures, and lived an adventurous life. That makes me feel content.

You gotta make sure one thing: pick up is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. You’re living the best years of your life, invest in exploring right now.

The downside is feeling occasionally lonely, and that you cannot control when you will find someone worth settling for. Could be 5 years, could be 20. Depends on what you’re willing to compromise but once you’ve raised the bar for yourself, be warned that the itch is not going to let you lower it. That being said, as long as you do it in a healthy way instead of being obsessed about it, you’ll be fine.

Hunt_the_Bay · 2026-01-08T00:12:05+00:00

Don’t be dumb

HumanContract · 2026-01-07T09:16:40+00:00

Let her find someone who wants to marry her. Soon, you'll be 43, too old to find a wife. Passed over by women. No one will want to listen to your travel stories. Let her go.

ThrowRa-zucchinizzc · 2026-01-07T17:32:11+00:00

Few things.

1) You and I are very similar, I'm a little ahead of you in my journey and will detail below.

2) Quit or significantly reduce porn usage. Mindful self pleasure is good for you, but porn not so much. Fine every now and then, but reduce it.

3) If you're feeling that much of an itch to be single, truly listen to yourself. I felt this same thing in my last relationship (4th gf) and I ignored it. Ultimately, months down the line there were definitely incompatibilities between us, flaws with her, and growth I still needed to have. All of that was creating the concoction where I was looking around. Now over time, that external desire did decrease as our chemistry grow, but we still didn't work out.

There is no right or wrong decision, but you should seriously evaluate why you're looking around (I tried, ended up staying together, looked around less, but broke up later).

4) my story - was shy until college. Then got gf out of first hookup, was awesome but clung on for a few years thru bs. Didn't work, grew, did a few hookups, met a new gf 2 years later, was great until it wasn't but clung on for a few years. Then at 27, read a few books and had my most fruitful single phase for 2 years going on 100 dates (95% apps, no club or bar approaches), met gf 3 with awesome chemistry but then realized she's crazy, read some relationship books and I prioritized compatibility going forward. Pretty quickly after that met gf4 at age 31, one I mentioned above. Thought we were compatible, chemistry did grow over time, but things were off. Never terrible, which made it the hardest to end as all my other 3 gfs had some deep prolonged bullshit (to sum it up simply) by the end. And now I've been single for a year, early-mid 30s, and I'm still learning. I'm finding myself again, my rhythm with dating, hooking up again rather than just rush into a relationship. I just feel more anchored and mature than ever and knowledgeable. I can see my flaws easier, my text game was lacking and I just improved it. Maybe soon I'll improve my IRL approach game.

Over time, I've gained more self confidence, I've learned more about what I want in terms of chemistry, compatible values, emotional maturity, and communication. I'm not settling for anything. It's abundance vs scarcity mindset. Be who you want to date and never settle for less.

AltCav · 2026-01-07T14:00:45+00:00

As a 27 year old man…

No. You’re still a boy.

Breaking up because you want different things and to find yourself at 23 isn’t weird.

Breaking up at 27 because you want to score more hookups is beyond just childish.

Ender210 · 2026-01-07T05:36:49+00:00

Have you heard of polyamory? You can have a loving gf/wife and still be out there meeting new women. It takes a lot of upfront work, but if you do it, you’ll be living the best of both worlds. It feels like a waste to develop the skills to meet and seduce women, only to hang it all up in your 30s, that leaves 10-15 years of adventure on the table. That itch for novelty and adventure in new women doesn’t go away.

Most people don’t understand it well enough to implement it correctly. People just force things without proper communication and boundaries.

It’s easier to find a woman interested in polyamory than to talk someone into it. In my experience, women who are poly are also really interesting. They know what they want, they know how to communicate, and they are usually fantastic in bed.

Also my experience in poly has taught me, you’re compatible with a lot more people than you realize. There is a spectrum in compatibility. Some women you’ll have fun with (because they’re so hot) but you’ll feel meh about them, personality wise. Other women will inspire admiration, lust, passion, and devotion with their body and their personality.

No_Carpenter_2980 · 2026-01-07T09:46:33+00:00

What is a good relationship in reality? Define a good relationship.

Title	Has anyone ever ended a good relationship to pursue an unlived single chapter?
Author	LeftHovercraft
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Date	January 7, 2026 2:53 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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